kindnesskills 38 points a day ago

Being jealous is just an emotion, its nothing to feel bad about. How you act on that emotion however, is how I'll receive you.

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Binette 9 points a day ago

I think this is the only place where I don't have to scroll years in order to find a reasonable answer.

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MisterNeon 31 points a day ago

That's inaccurate. I'm jealous of a lot of my friends. I tell them I'm jealous. I'm also happy for them and help them out, especially if it helps them get to the point where I'm jealous of them.

You can have more than one emotion and opinion about things.

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TheReanuKeeves 2 points a day ago

Would you say that rather than jealousy, you feel sympathetic joy? Because as defined by Cambridge dictionary, jealous is "an adjective used to describe someone who is feeling or showing an unhappy, resentful, or bitter emotion".

I feel that people don't seem to think jealousy is a negative emotion even though that's what it's defined as.

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kindnesskills 9 points a day ago

People are capable of incredibly complex emotions, such as feeling both unhappy bitterness of their own lives in comparison, while feeling and displaying joyous celebrations of their friends success.

One can have both positive and negative experiences of the same event. There's no use in trying to narrow down to either one.

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TheReanuKeeves 0 points a day ago

Sure but if you were given the option of a friend who is both jealous and feels sympathetic joy compared to one who only feels sympathetic joy for you, I would trust one more than the other on average

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kindnesskills 3 points a day ago

[I'm not the one who originally commented]

I wouldn't know the difference.

All I can know and judge on and care about is how they choose to respond, not how they feel.

And I personally trust people who tell me of their ugly emotions (after we've been friends for a long time) more than the ones pretending to be perfect a decade into the friendship.

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helix 8 points a day ago

There's a difference between envy and jealousy. It's fine to be envious and jealous both, but if you start to be resentful and behave aggressively when jealousy takes over, that's where you should evaluate if you really want to be friends with me.

I mean, why be friends with someone who gives you lots and lots of negative emotions?

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blackbrook 6 points a day ago

No friend is acceptable unless they have no human faults!

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davel 4 points a day ago

Do friends contradict themselves?
Very well then they contradict themselves,
(They are large, they contain multitudes.)

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OliverTheBear 2 points 7 hours ago

I feel sad hearing this phrase. I think a friend is a friend regardless of what they feel so saying someone isn't a friend because of what they might be experiencing sounds isolating for both parties

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notsosure 2 points a day ago

A couple of years ago my uncle Pete came home early from work. As he entered the house, he heard these weird thump-thump-thump sounds coming from the upstairs bedroom. Softly he walked up the stairs. Uh, somehow I lost track of what I wanted to say.

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tigermountain 2 points 5 hours ago

I've never heard this. Jealous of what?

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altphoto 1 point 4 hours ago

How about "lead paint is not your friend"?

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Melobol 1 point a day ago

Are you using 'jealous' in the correct way as they are afraid of you snatching up their 'stuff'?
Or in a meaning of envy as they are being envious of you having better 'stuff'?

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TheReanuKeeves -2 points a day ago

The definition you would get if you googled or looked up jealous in a dictionary

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Melobol 3 points a day ago

feeling angry or unhappy because someone you like or love is showing interest in someone else.

That's not friendship but trust issues and dependency.

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TheReanuKeeves 1 point 5 hours ago

So you single out that one useage but ignore the possesive and protective useage of the word. What was your purpose of commenting on this post?

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Melobol 1 point 5 hours ago

The definition you would get if you googled or looked up jealous in a dictionary

I asked you for clarification, you answered and now you are blaming me for giving you an answer you don't like.

Jealous behavior acceptable in preteens only. Above that age is just pure insecurity and just freaking nasty thing to deal with.

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