my latest cope is I dont hate boymoding enough to justify going through transition. So far its holding me together 😌
that, nightcore, depilation cream and black nailpolish you have no idea how loadbearing these are for me
beanidiot 7 points a month ago
I’m so scared of noticable colors that I’m thinking about trying transparent (but glossy) nail polish.
I thought about animal transformations the last days and it seems I very constantly prefered to be a female animals. But since that’s mostly about roles and humans are more flexible with roles, it probably doesn’t matter much. (And I can’t get pregnant even if I wanted to.)
CombatWombat 12 points a month ago
Idk if this actually helps but I thought I’d offer just in case: I’m a very cishet-coded man, and I wear bright glossy colored nail polish a few times a year for sporting events. I get them painted in team colors to show my support, and as best I can tell people perceive it as being very traditionally male when they ask and I start happily babbling about sports. If you have a particular color way you want to try, I’m happy to help you find a team that matches and some talking points about them so you can try painting your nails more ostentatiously and still have a cover story.
CombatWombat 11 points a month ago
Inter Miami (men's soccer) and the San Diego Wave (women's soccer) both wear a shocking pink. Angel City (women's soccer) wear a more muted pink if that's your style. Woso is a bit more clocky because the fandom is very queer, but being a bandwagon Miami fan because you saw Messi in this year's World Cup is a very stereotypical cis dude behavior. I don't mean to try to strong arm you into caring about sports, I'm just mentioning an option.
DaPorkchop_ 4 points a month ago
transparent nail polish is nice, also i can say that just plain black nail polish feels very fem compared to nothing at all, but gets read as pretty androgynous. i painted my nails black for like 4 months straight and nobody said a thing; within a day of adding other colors there were multiple people who brought it up (both supportive and not). in other words, black nails are ideal for feeling fem while boymoding :3
WalrusDragonOnABike 4 points a month ago
You can always start some of the steps that are slow acting like HRT or laser if those are things you want while still boymoding.
Maxxie 4 points a month ago
I'll consider HRT when I go fully remote. Honestly the uncertainty of how it'll turn out kind of scares the shit out of me, when it comes to big decisions I am a big coward :<
the laser though I literally never considered for some reason, looking up places nearby thanks for the idea!
WalrusDragonOnABike 6 points a month ago
No worries. I'm a coward as well. I started HRT 2.5 years ago and now I'm a bit worried getting laser because I suspect my facial hair does a lot of work in being able to boymode despite everything else.
moonlight 5 points a month ago
I highly recommend not waiting. It's suuuper slow physically, but it has a significant effect on mental wellbeing. It's also something you can just try, and you have quite a while to decide if it's right for you. Even stuff like the beginnings of breast growth will reverse 100% if you stop.
DaPorkchop_ 10 points a month ago
clearly they're putting something in the linux which turns the friggin kids trans. maybe you'd know something about that, mr. John Tech?
john_tech 9 points a month ago
I think it's the keyboard. The keyboard manufacturers lace their keyboards with estrogen, which is unnoticeable to Windows users who mostly use the mouse, but it affects Linux users, who predominantly live almost entirely mouse-free
WalrusDragonOnABike 6 points a month ago
Na, just don't connect them to gender and it's no problem. Doesn't matter what it is. Desire to "crossdress"? Probably nothing. Wish for bottom surgery? Certainly no reason to think about it being gender related . Cry yourself to sleep because you "can't" be another gender? Why would you even consider that adjacent to being about gender.
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Sibling Meme Communities
- !traa (or search for https://lemmy.ca/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns in your instance if the link doesn't work)
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- !transgender (or search for https://lemmy.ml/c/transgender in your instance if the link doesn't work)
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Community Resources:
- The Trevor Project / 1-866-488-7386 — A US-based crisis prevention and intervention hotline and community
- TransLifeLine / 1-877-565-8860 — A US-based trans peer support hotline
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible — An in-depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria
- Trans Resources — A directory of resources for trans, non-binary, and gender-non-conforming people
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory — A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers
- Trans Resistance Network — A US-based mutual-aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project — Advice about insurance claims for trans healthcare procedures
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library — A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document
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!egg_irl
!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.
If you are looking for a place to discuss something specific to you or especially if you need help or are in crisis, we have communities and resources that can support you linked at the bottom of this sidebar.
General Rules:
No bigotry.
No spam, bots, or vote farming.
Rules on Content:
No reposts.
No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.
No visible names or usernames.
Do not post or link to pornography.
Rules on Post Titles and Tags:
Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".
Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc][CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem][CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary][CW: Transphobia][CW: Violence][CW: Weapons/Firearms][CW: Disturbing Imagery][CW: Fictional Egging]
You may optionally include other tags, such as:
[Transmasc Meme][Transfem Meme][Nonbinary Meme][Gender-Nonspecific Meme]
Rules on Post Text:
If possible, include an image description for accessibility.
Add sources for art.
Rules on Comments
If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.
You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as. In addition it is extremely in poor taste to make assumptions about other people's identities based on external factors, we understand it cannot be helped but it is best not to as it can affect the way you treat others in noticeable ways. Read more about this decision here.
No Ewwphoria posts. Posts which contain misogyny, misandry, transmisogyny, transmisandry, or enbyphobia for the purpose of expressing euphoria are not allowed here. At best they bring anger to others, and at worst they may trigger people's dysphoria. People who create such posts will have them removed and may be banned at moderator discretion.
Recommendations:
We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.
Sibling Meme Communities
- !traa (or search for https://lemmy.ca/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns in your instance if the link doesn't work)
Sibling Non-Meme Communities
- !transgender (or search for https://lemmy.ml/c/transgender in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !trans (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/trans in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !ftm (and transmasc) (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/ftm in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !mtf (and transfem) (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/mtf in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !nonbinary@lemmy.one (or search for https://lemmy.one/c/nonbinary in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org (or search for https://beehaw.org/c/lgbtq_plus in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/lgbtq_plus in your instance if the link doesn't work)
Community Resources:
- The Trevor Project / 1-866-488-7386 — A US-based crisis prevention and intervention hotline and community
- TransLifeLine / 1-877-565-8860 — A US-based trans peer support hotline
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible — An in-depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria
- Trans Resources — A directory of resources for trans, non-binary, and gender-non-conforming people
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory — A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers
- Trans Resistance Network — A US-based mutual-aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project — Advice about insurance claims for trans healthcare procedures
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library — A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document
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