Not saying I'd do this, but...I'm kinda easy :P
Club rule [CW: mentions of chasers]
14 days ago by Miisha ♀️ to c/onehundredninetysix
KernelTale 23 points 14 days ago
Isn't the only question if he would introduce her to his family since she is already easily passing?
kkj 7 points 11 days ago
Eh, I feel like this probably occurred in the sort of place where you implicitly consent to touching subject to body language. The initial grinding would be considered an "unless told not to" type of thing, and then when OOP "went with it" that was consent for a little more and so on. Verbal consent is the gold standard, sure, but some people like to read and be read between the lines. After all, OP and OOP both seem fine with the situation.
AzuraTheSpellkissed 3 points 14 days ago
Even assuming sarcasm, I struggle with this comment.
AVincentInSpace 8 points 13 days ago
I don't understand why you're confused. The guy OOP was with was into her before he knew she was trans, meaning he doesn't exclusively go for trans gals, meaning he probably sees her as a person more than a minority group he thinks is hot which is the definition of a chaser
fonix232 23 points 14 days ago
And that's why I do t go to clubs.
I'm horrible at reading body language directed at me, so I either end up doing something inappropriate because I misread the situation, or, the much more likely scenario is, I end up doing nothing when I was given the (not so) clear signal...
Axolotl_cpp 6 points 13 days ago
I wonder why the fuck we cannot just talk, we ain't birds who have to make signals
jacksilver 3 points 13 days ago
Most of the clubs I've been to I can't even hear myself think, let alone have a conversation.
peacepath 44 points 14 days ago
In the story, the guy isn't looking for an "experience with a trans", but accepts that a trans woman is a woman. He doesn't reject her after his physical satisfaction. And him and the narator seem to agree on the start of the relationship... Why would it be wrong?
svcg 20 points 13 days ago
Firstly, everything else aside, OOP's guy sucks purely on the basis of him putting his hands on someone unbidden. That aside...
OOP seems to peg the guy as a chaser on the basis that he got more into it after learning she was trans, though maybe there's more to it based on something that wasn't mentioned. The prospect of a date doesn't rule that out, because the prototypical chaser behaviour is a man who'll string a trans woman along with a "relationship" that he never lets anyone else find out about.
I think you definitely shouldn't let anyone "use" you in that way (not specific to chasers), but at the same time, if all you want is sex and all they want is sex and everyone is clear about that, then why not?
Sordid_Seraphim 4 points 13 days ago path: 0 26096019 26105113, hotness: undefined, score: 4, children: 5
Damage -16 points 14 days ago
chas·er 1 (chā′sər)
n.
- One that chases or pursues another: a chaser of criminals.
- A drink, as of beer or water, taken after hard liquor.
chas·er 2 (chā′sər)
n.
- One who decorates metal by engraving or embossing.
- A steel tool for cutting or finishing screw threads.
ChaoticNeutralCzech 2 points 13 days ago
chasers
I guess I'm a chaser too then
ChaoticNeutralCzech 2 points 12 days ago
Well, I do disproportionately approach trans women. That IRL girl I told you about found it weird until I explained my motives. Yes, it takes meeting a mahō shōjo for me to overcome my shyness but I don't go further than normal men meeting cis women and I'm clear about consent, so I think it's not creepy. This does mean I'm putting (some) women on a pedestal but that can be deat with as I try to unlearn patriarchy...
ChaoticNeutralCzech 2 points 8 days ago
Maybe I should get something that looks like a tactical vest that says "𝗠𝗔𝗚𝗜𝗖𝗔𝗟 𝗚𝗜𝗥𝗟 𝗦𝗣𝗜𝗥𝗜𝗧 𝗚𝗨𝗜𝗗𝗘" instead of "𝗦𝗘𝗖𝗨𝗥𝗜𝗧𝗬". You've been transforming and I'm helping you come to terms with your newfound and growing seductress powers. You must not use them for evil, like offering your body to bigots (they would hurt you and become more likely to attack other magical girls). I can't cast protective spells but I'm big and heavy enough to make most singular men reconsider any physical attacks. I can also use a sign or something to look for opportunities in your quest. I wish I could give you fashion advice too, better find a girl guide for that. And yes, I will leave you alone or alone with someone if you decide :)
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