do you have any people that buy used oil in your country? this is a thing where i live so i thought i should mention it. i saw that you're in a rural area, but if you have a car you might find people to buy the oil from you in any reasonably populated city. i can't help with the other stuff, hopefully someone else will.
There are a couple things that can happen to used motor oil (If that's what it is). In some countries, it is collected, the dirty bits cleaned out of it, and then reused. In all others, it's burned for heat.
Then for the buckets, I'd bring 'em to the nearest legal dumpsite. They are supposed to be lined to prevent leaching. Don't use soap and then dump, this is essentially dumping the oil on the Earth. Good luck!
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