How often do you have sex?

3 years ago by RBWells to c/sex

Since it's so quiet here, why not a general question to get things started? How often do you have sex (however you define it) and how often would be your ideal? And any details you feel relevant.

We are mid-50s and the kids left at home are teens now so family responsibilities are eased (more free time) we average just over 1x/day, and my ideal is once or twice a day.

redgiraffe 14 points 3 years ago

Lucky you! I get once a year max - she has low libido due to some psychological issues, although I'm doubting whether that's the full story. For me a few times per week would be ideal.

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RBWells 5 points 3 years ago

Oh no! I had dead bedroom with my ex but husband and I are similar in sex drive, that does make everything smoother. I hope y'all can get closer to your ideal, once a year sounds frustrating for anyone, her too I'd imagine.

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qqqqtoast 10 points 3 years ago

Mid 20s. Never had sex. I feel like daily would be ideal, but I don't know if that would actually be true due to my lack of expereince.

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RBWells 2 points 3 years ago

Well I hope you find someone who can keep up with you, when you are ready to start.

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dirteater 10 points 3 years ago

Once ever other month. I need to end this.

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KrombopulosMikl 9 points 3 years ago

My gf (53F) and I (48M) have sex every 1-3 days depending on what’s going on and in life

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sasygle 8 points 3 years ago

[M]y wife and I are mid twenties, live on our own. We have sex usually once a day a couple days in a row and then none for a week or two.

Both of us have reasonable libido but we're usually horny at different times of day so it just doesn't line up super well. The sex we do have is really good though.

I also masturbate daily and she does sometimes as well, though less often since we got married I'm told.

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RBWells 1 point 3 years ago

May I suggest compromising up, rather than down? Part of how we get it on so often is that if either of us want it, we try. So sure, in the early morning it's great for him, we do it. In the afternoon so much easier for me to get off but not him, but if I want it, we do.

Maybe she would be open to something like that?

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CombedSpaghetti 6 points 3 years ago

Typically 1-2 times during the weekends. Work stress keeps the weekend only theme fairly consistent, but the frequency otherwise feels ideal

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Lana 6 points 3 years ago

It depends, mostly on how consumed my local girlfriend is with work. When she's not on a major case, usually once a day, or 2-3 times if we are both off from work on the same day, though that doesn't happen often. Otherwise, a few times a week with more casual partners. I've only been in the same place as my distance girlfriend once, but that was a crazy fucking week.

Ideally, at least one long fuck and a couple quick ones a day. Though I wouldn't say no to more.

BTW, I'm not cheating; everyone involved knows it's not exclusive. ♥

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goodjobman 6 points 3 years ago

About to hit 30, anywhere from once a day to every couple of weeks. Depends on how stressed we are. I tend to have a higher libido so a touch more than we have now would be nice, but no complaints here.

I've found that if we have too much sex then I don't enjoy it as much, but on the other hand there's so much to do and try, and practice makes perfect

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musicalcactus 5 points 3 years ago

We shoot for at least once a week. My partner would prefer 1-2x per day, for me I waffle between a couple times a month to a couple times a day. We're currently working on our communication both in and out of the bedroom to try to improve on that.

We have kids and stressful jobs, so that plays a role too.

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RVAcenobites 5 points 3 years ago

We (25M/25F) average once or twice a day but it depends on the way the winds blow you know. Sometimes more sometimes less but we try for at least once before bed.

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HornyFrodo 4 points 3 years ago

Wife and I (both late 30s) do it about once a week. I would like to do it more often but we have a toddler and both work full time so it's often the case that one or both of us is exhausted at the end of the day.

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akassou 4 points 3 years ago

Early 30s here, and I think once every 10 days or so on average. We became parents this year, and that definitely drains the energy

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zerocool0124 4 points 3 years ago

30s, 2-3 times a week. Minimum 3 would be ideal, but work and kids.

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full_newt 3 points 3 years ago

Probably 3-5 times a week most of the time. Sometimes we'll go a little while doing it every day and sometimes we might go a week or so without it. Frequency depends largely on how busy we are or how stressful work is.

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bwilberforce 3 points 3 years ago

Quarterly. Like clockwork.

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mistresswendy 3 points 3 years ago

40s and we manage twice a day most days depending on how busy life is

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chdrchyz 3 points 3 years ago

We average about 3 or 4 times per week. We would both do it more, but 4 kids and the need for actual sleep keep us from and everyday occurrence.

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