For me it was "buy high quality pillow" because you sleep for one thrid of a day etc. I needed a new pillow anyway so I came to the store and bought the best they had. And it was ... ok. Like it's a fine pillow but my sleeping haven't improved really, it's basically the same. So I was disapointed :(
So, which life pro tip disappointed you?
You're usually fine using a cheap item. If you use it enough to break it, then you need a quality item.
Ah the old Harbor Freight rule
Hmm. Kinda rhymes with "garbage crate". Horrible store. I'm never going back.
I've always been partial to "hazard fraught"
I disagree with it being garbage though. It's true, most of their merchandise isn't the highest quality, but when you need a tool for just one project that you don't already own and can't seem to borrow from anyone it's a great place to get that tool on the cheap, and for some oddball tools there's may be no convenient place to track them down.
I was recently working on a small project I needed a router for. In this case I was able to borrow a router from a friend but he only had one bit for it and it wasn't one I needed. If you haven't priced out router bits recently, they tend to go for like $20-30 a piece from the usual big retailers.
I was able to get a set of 15 bits from harbor freight for about $30-40 and they did exactly what I needed them to.
I'm sure they probably won't last as long as the good bits, but for how often I need a router these will probably last me the rest of my life.
Needed a rivnut tool for a different project a few months ago, and nowhere else around me carries them, beat waiting a couple days for one from Amazon.
Also have a bike rack from them that's doing the job just fine, and a handful of little weird tools for various hobbies.
I wouldn't trust them for anything my life or livelihood depends on, but for little incidental things I can't borrow or find anywhere else they do just fine.
Hand tools are fine 99%. Cutting tools--the part that actually does the cutting--are usually fine. Power tools are very hit or miss. Like, I would definitely not buy any cordless or corded tools there. Air tools are generally okay, but don't work as well as other, more expensive air tool brands. OTOH, I've used a Harbor Freight flooring stapler that failed in under a day of use, while the Husky branded stapler did just fine for a few years. Impact sockets are good, although they're limited on sizes (I don't think that they have anything bigger than 22mm). I've been using a Harbor Freight floor jack and jack stands for a few years now without issue.
You also get diminishing returns.
If you spend £400 on a bike instead of £200, it might actually be nearly twice as good, but spending £2000 doesn't mean it will be ten times as good, when you're in to bikes that cost £10k+ you're talking about fractions of a percent better than the one that costs many percent less.
The top of the range items are good for enthusiasts, but almost always not worth it for casual consumers.
For a $200 bike, it's never going to work the way it's intended to work. ANY bike you buy at a department store--and many that you buy at general sporting goods stores--will be garbage. In 1995, the rule of thumb was to spend at least $500 on a bike to get something that you could realistically ride every single day; that's about $1000 today.
I'm saying this as someone that worked at bike stores as a mechanic off and one over about 15 years; the cheap dept. store bikes someply can't be fixed and adjusted to work the way that their owners expect.
(PS - yes, fixies are cheap and light. No, you should not under any circumstances ride them on public streets or trails. If you do, sooner or later you will have a serious accident that will involve stitches, broken bones, possibly surgery, and probably rehab.)
I concur with you, but I'd phrase it in a different way: if your budget is $200 for a bike, you should be shopping for a used bike-shop/reputable-brand bike on Craigslist or whatever.
Also, agreed about fixies, except that switching the flip-flop hub to single-speed mode and adding brakes makes it fine.
Well, that's why I specified fixie rather than single speed. 🙂 I'm not a fan of single speeds since they're inefficient, but they're not inherently unsafe, and I'm not going to tell people that they're suicidally stupid if they ride one.
£500 - £1000 is the sweet spot for electric guitars. Anything much higher than that is the exact same guitar, just with extra bling.
Acoustic/classical guitars are a bit different and even though they still suffer diminishing returns, a higher price can be more easily justified.
"Happy Wife, Happy Life"
Some women will never be happy with you because you weren't her first pick, just what she settled for.
You can't make someone happy, who is unwilling to try making themselves happy. Relationships have to be equal partnerships.
Life is so much better living alone with my dog the last 10 years.
I don’t think anyone below the age of 50 has seriously believed in “happy wife, happy life”. It’s very much a boomer mentality of “pick someone you don’t love and suffer through the relationship forever”
I did for a bit but the years went by and sure she's happy, but am I?
It's been 5 years and we're still together.
I think we both know it's time.
It's rough, man. Kids.
My dreams are screaming at me.
Am I supposed to 'follow my dreams'? Is it literal?
I'm not sure what I want anymore, whether I'd be happier single. My subconscious yawps but I ignore it.
Last night I was cheating with 3 of my ex's, at once, in my sleep. She said I was sleep screaming again, but I only remember the spice I felt for life. It's been so long.
Yikes dude. You need some counselling.
That's my pro tip that is disappointing lmao
It looks worse than it is because I tried to make it poetic. Though, therapy only works if you're actually honest with your therapist about everything (and you can truthfully say you aren't comfortable discussing something at that time, remaining honest and expressing boundaries) but I'm not even being honest with myself. When I can get to that point and get the courage to make the choices I know deep down are right for me, then maybe I'll try therapy again.
Buddy I think it’s time to talk to your wife.
"Never buy a new car" - the argument being they depreciate quickly, and newer used models are "just as good".
Nope, got burned twice in a row and wasted more money than if I'd bought a new one immediately.
Every car I've owned has been used. Some are better than others. In general, I've had really good luck and have bought some great cars, but some have been money pits. You get better at spotting a good buy, but it's still possible to get a bad one, it does come down do luck.
and brake fluid. And Transmission fluid. And refresh your suspension once it's a goner.
You can definitely take a Toyota to like 250k miles w/o changing transmission fluid. I think they call it a lifetime fluid, as in it’s meant to last the whole designed-for lifespan of the car.
But if you want it running it’s best, for as long as possible, then of course, change those fluids too.
I've replaced the engine in an '06 Civic Si after the timing chain lifter tensioner failed, the timing skipped, and the valves kissed the pistons.
It also ended up having some pretty gnarly electrical issues.
law of large numbers, maybe
I know just enough about engines for “valves kissed the pistons” to make me laugh in horror.
That's why I take it to the next step and never buy a car altogether. Miss me woth that shit I'll just live in a cool city, and either bike or walk wherever I want.
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Yeah, my girlfriend recently needed a new car since her ancient Ford Fiesta finally kicked the bucket. She decided to limit her budget solidly to shitbox territory because she'd just had some major expenses and didn't want to owe someone money.
I offered to lend her some money to help her get better offers. She refused – and ended up buying a car that immediately needed a transmission rebuild that cost as much as the car itself. For which I lent her some of the money.
By Grabthar's hammer, what a savings!
what shitbox did she buy?
A 2007 Opel Agila that might've been a decent car four owners ago. But seriously, her price limit was 2500 € and she got the car for a bit over 2000; it's hardly a surprise that she didn't exactly get premium quality.
Well, once all repairs are factored in the total cost is closer to 4500, which could've bought her a much nicer car. Or at least a much healthier one.
Opel was at least as big of a mistake, imho
I’ve seen quite serviceable Toyotas and Hondas in that price range not too long before Covid. When did this all happen? I know post Covid used car prices have been absolutely insane much of the time
I agree. I've also gotten shafted by used cars (7th generation Honda Civics are all utter pieces of garbage). I don't take depreciation into account on a new car because I plan on driving it until it's uneconomical to repair, which means it'll be worthless when I sell it regardless.
My parents have only purchased one used car, and it was a nearly new car from someone they knew and trusted. The other 4 cars they've bought in the past 40 years have been new. They keep them until they're old and basically worthless.
Yes, in light of keeping the new vehicle for its entire "life" the depreciation argument falls fairly flat. It is more meant for the "average" person who keeps a car for three years or thereabouts. I cannot imagine investing that much money flippantly. I take the time to research what I want and mean to keep my auto for a long time. That said, I prefer a solid used car over new because it has depreciated to a more fair value. I've done both and not been displeased with either choice. Except for one BMW...
But even if you drive the car into the ground there is still an associated cost per year as a result of buying the vehicle.
I've rented a few new cars and I'm just really not a fan of the all lack of physical buttons and controls. The smart settings like lane control, smart cruise control, the engine turning off when stopped, and notifying me with an alert when I've driven to many hours are extremely annoying.
Totally agree. It's always a risk buying used. You have to be savvy on what to look for, research if there are common catastrophic problems, and hope the vehicle was maintained properly (any car needs more than just oil changes, including Toyota and Honda) and was not abused.
Generally you're taking less of a risk buying new because of a good warranty and known history, but be sure to get a reliable car not something that will give lots of problems over its life. Plenty of data on which cars are best in that regard. Some makers are better than others on average but reliability can vary by model and model year, even.
Yes, cars depreciate in terms of resale value. That's why we keep ours for 10-15 years. By then it doesn't matter.
You've been sold a bill of goods, or whoever tried to tell you this doesn't understand leasing.
ex-lease cars are just as good as new, come with a new car warranty, and don't come with the absurd depreciation.
look at cars that where released 3 years ago, that's the used cars we're talking about not a 1990s civic or whatever.
Poor people buy new cars, rich people lease them, smart people buy ex-lease cars.
And even poorer people just buy $1000 beaters and deal with it because we literally can't afford anything better.
I am a member of the 10mm socket + Hammer club too, but if I had money I know how not to blow it
This is great advice for anyone looking to buy used and not new. Don’t buy someone else’s problems from Craigslist. If you can, buy something from a reputable source that includes a warranty.
ex-lease cars are just as good as new
They literally aren’t. If the car is going to last 200k miles then getting a car with 36k miles on it already means you’re that much closer to it failing.
It’s also going to be that much closer to needing more expensive maintenance to be done.
A three year old car will often have a lesser feature set than the current year’s models. Stepping up to the higher trim that had those features 3 years ago can negate the cost savings of buying used in the first place.
Ex-lease cars are frequently well-maintained and driven responsibly, but that doesn’t mean they’re “as good as new.”
come with a new car warranty
Do you mean “comes with what’s left of the original warranty?” Because that’s generally true but doesn’t mean you benefit from it the same amount. If it has a 5 year, 60k mile warranty (Mitsubishi) and you only get the warranty for 2 years and 24k miles, that’s not the same.
With CPO cars you also get the CPO warranty but that doesn’t usually make the total warranty you get as good or better than what you would have gotten new.
Kia and Lexus both have very competitive CPO warranty programs. Kia has a 1 year / 12k miles bumper-to-bumper warranty. Lexus extends their 4 year/50k miles new car warranty by 2 years/unlimited miles after your purchase date or after the original warranty expired, whichever happens first. If you buy a CPO Lexus at the 2 year mark then you’ll get a full warranty out of it, but that’s not true for most other manufacturers.
And I don’t know of a single manufacturer that completely refreshes their warranty term for CPO cars.
and don't come with the absurd depreciation.
The cars that make the most sense to buy used have the least depreciation, though. For example, looking at CPO Toyota RAV4s, for the ones that aren’t former rentals/didn’t have accidents/multiple owners, the 3+ year old models are very comparable in price, like 26k for a RAV4 with nearly 50k miles vs 30k new, or 27-28k for one with under 30k miles.
If the lifespan of the car for you is 10 years then a 3 year old car is 30% less valuable - so a 13% discount is hardly a bargain. You’d need to keep it for 20 years - until it was 23 years old - for your 13% savings to be more valuable than the extra lifespan of the car.
You also frequently get a worse interest rate on CPO cars than on new.
There are many times when it makes sense to buy a CPO vehicle but also many where it makes more sense to buy new. Do the math in your specific case rather than acting like there’s a one size fits all solution.
ex-lease cars are just as good as new
They literally aren’t. If the car is going to last 200k miles then getting a car with 36k miles on it already means you’re that much closer to it failing.
It’s also going to be that much closer to needing more expensive maintenance to be done.
A three year old car will often have a lesser feature set than the current year’s models. Stepping up to the higher trim that had those features 3 years ago can negate the cost savings of buying used in the first place.
Ex-lease cars are frequently well-maintained and driven responsibly, but that doesn’t mean they’re “as good as new.”
come with a new car warranty
Do you mean “comes with what’s left of the original warranty?” Because that’s generally true but doesn’t mean you benefit from it the same amount. If it has a 5 year, 60k mile warranty (Mitsubishi) and you only get the warranty for 2 years and 24k miles, that’s not the same.
With CPO cars you also get the CPO warranty but that doesn’t usually make the total warranty you get as good or better than what you would have gotten new.
Kia and Lexus both have very competitive CPO warranty programs. Kia has a 1 year / 12k miles bumper-to-bumper warranty. Lexus extends their 4 year/50k miles new car warranty by 2 years/unlimited miles after your purchase date or after the original warranty expired, whichever happens first. If you buy a CPO Lexus at the 2 year mark then you’ll get a full warranty out of it, but that’s not true for most other manufacturers.
And I don’t know of a single manufacturer that completely refreshes their warranty term for CPO cars.
and don't come with the absurd depreciation.
The cars that make the most sense to buy used have the least depreciation, though. For example, looking at CPO Toyota RAV4s, for the ones that aren’t former rentals/didn’t have accidents/multiple owners, the 3+ year old models are very comparable in price, like 26k for a RAV4 with nearly 50k miles vs 30k new, or 27-28k for one with under 30k miles.
If the lifespan of the car for you is 10 years then a 3 year old car is 30% less valuable - so a 13% discount is hardly a bargain. You’d need to keep it for 20 years - until it was 23 years old - for your 13% savings to be more valuable than the extra lifespan of the car.
You also frequently get a worse interest rate on CPO cars than on new.
There are many times when it makes sense to buy a CPO vehicle but also many where it makes more sense to buy new. Do the math in your specific case rather than acting like there’s a one size fits all solution.
I used to stick to that rule and get a sensible mid sized Toyota Corolla or Honda Accord that’s a few years old as needed. But in 2013 (the last time I needed to get a new car) the cost savings were really low compared to new. I think the used market was particularly hot so you’d save less that 10% of the cost, so I ended up getting my 1st and only (so far) brand new car ever.
I've never understood the people who insist on only buying used, particularly when they have the money for new. Why spend $5-15k on a used beater if you could get a new car for $30k that won't have mystery problems, and if they do then it's covered by warranty? I've only ever had real problems in my used cars. I don't think I ever had a used that made it more than like 4 years before dying on me. Meanwhile, I've had my 2016 RAV4 since January 2016, and I've only had to deal with a few things that just wear out naturally over time like tires and brake pads. Nearly 8 years with this car so far, and it's been a fucking dream. My used 2002 Hyundai XG350L however was a fucking nightmare to the point that I've sworn off Kia-Hyundai entirely. Which is a shame because the Ioniq whatever EV seems like a pretty solid product, but I feel the need to do extensive research before getting too excited because of how badly Hyundai burned me.
In my country if you buy used from a dealer you get 1 year warranty by law. Makes it pretty safe, especially if you have the car checked by s trustworthy mechanic (finding one is the hard part!)
I can't get a car I would like for just £24K. The cars I buy 2nd hand for £5K would have cost north of £40K when they were new. Sure I could get some shitty half litre shoebox on wheels for £24K that needs three weeks' written notice for acceleration to 60mph but I'd absolutely hate it. Plus when the engine goes boom replacing the whole car is a lot easier to stomach when it only cost 5K as opposed to 40K.
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Just to respond to your need for better sleep... For me, good sleep is far more about temperature, darkness, and a nice weight. So I use a weighted blanket, eye covers, and the expensive but awesome chilipad so I don't try to sleep in a pool of sweat.
Same for me, minus the weight. I hate weight on me when I'm sleeping. Makes me feel trapped and claustrophobic. I use the thinnest blanket the temperature will allow, and I always have fans (and if possible an AC) going. Anything above 63f/17c and I sweat like a pig. :(
Does the chillpad work? I've heard mixed reviews.
I've been using it for roughly 5 years so it's probably an old version but it does exactly what it says it does. Ie. It's a water regulated mattress pad with a thermostat so it stays at whatever temperature you set. I have to clean it out now and then with hydrogen peroxide and add water every month or so. The heater stopped working at some point a few years ago, but I never need heat anyway and the cooling system works fine. I also set the cooling system well above my bed and that helps the circulation. But it was like $600 or something. I usually set it somewhere in the 60s and I'm in my happy place.
See my other response above. It's called ChiliPad.
ITT: people telling OP what kind of pillow to buy lol
I'm too old for most recent LPT to take hold, but in my youth I heard "simplify" your lifestyle. I didn't understand the message was directed at those with more than they needed, not people like me, living near or in poverty. There's no need for many things, provided you have what you need and it serves you well. I know this now, but then…
people like me, living near or in poverty
Hope things improve for you, mate.
Too many people insist they know what’s best for you simply because it worked for them.
Especially frustrating if you are a healthcare professional. It is astonishing how many people give out bad medical advice here,on Reddit, Facebook,etc. with the notion of "well it worked for me".
Often it didn't even work.
I mean, yes, I know, it is a way for people to recover control after they "lost it" to their body. But at least don't brag about it on the internet and even more don't start a fight with someone who clearly has more knowledge due to professional training and years of experience.
I've seen people fight the world leading specialist team on Reddit before.....
Especially annoying if you're neurodivergent, and they evidently know nothing about it.
I want to follow your advice but I don't know if it's the best fit for me.
I got a square one
I was sleeping on a tiny rectangular memory foam couch pillow for months before I finally got my new awesome pillow, because the tiny pillow was much better than the shitty full size pillows
Just buying an expensive pillow won't necessarily improve your sleep. You need to try out various pillows and find the type that works best for your body and how you sleep.
Agreed. I've bought various expensive pillows and was never comfy or satisfied. Memory foam hybrid cooling blah blah blah.... never comfy. I bought two down feather pillows for $50. Best pillows ever for me. Only reason I had to buy more was my wife kept stealing mine.
Yep, high tech fancy pillows are bullshit. I stick to 100% down, and Egyptian cotton sheets and I sleep like a naked baby.
100% down pillows never have enough rise to be able to stay level when I'm side sleeping. But I sleep on all sides so finding a pillow isn't easy either.
That's why I have two.
I've never had a mind-blowingly amazing pillow, but I have had some really bad ones.
this right here.
if it's doing it's job right you won't even notice.
I am a larger man with broad shoulders. I have trained myself to only sleep on my side due to breathing issues arising from my oversized uvula and the tendency for my tongue to join it at the back of my throat when on my back. Even when I’m awake, breathing on my back - much less speaking - is difficult due to my uvula in particular, as I can’t consciously control how it drapes back against my throat.
So I built my own pillow, so that my head doesn’t hang from my shoulders like an afterthought -- no normal pillow is tall enough to support my head while I am on my side. It looks kinda like a particularly narrow and deep parking curb, vaguely saddle shaped, only it’s not made out of concrete. It’s literally a tiny showroom-demo mattress on top of a very stable wooden base, with an actual pillow secured on top of it and everything wrapped up in a custom pillow case.
Looks strange AF, but it keeps my spine straight and the crinks out of my neck.
I need to see a photo or shitty MS paint drawing STAT.
Not quite the same, but I switched to buckwheat pillows. This way you can shape it to fit however you like no matter the position. Takes some getting used to but solved my issues with most pillows. Sadly it also means no more pillow fights...
I have sleep apnea and I have found a bumper belt works wonders. It's a belt you attach to your back with several air bladders that keep you on your side, even if your body is included towards back sleeping. It travels very nicely. Just deflate the bladders and roll up the belt.
Luckily I don’t need anything like a bumper belt. I have trained myself to never end up on my back; to always turn a full 180° from one side to another no matter how deeply I am sleeping.
I’m able to do a number of nifty things like this in my sleep. Such as being able to wake up within 2-3 minutes of a set time, without an alarm or even a clock, so long as I get more than 4-5hrs of sleep. I’ve even been able to do it with less sleep, only with less than perfect reliability.
It’s a form of mental feedback that I do before falling asleep, and across enough days it ends up being trained in such that I don’t have to reinforce it every night.
Ok... I'm in the same boat, severe sleep apnea because of it. I sleep with 2 pillows, a dense down filled for the base and then a soft pillow on top for comfort. Keeps my head at the right height but also allows me to roll over.
Never thought about building a pillow
only the grills and femboys
chill, dahmer
Writing notes for myself to remind me to do something. The problem is that I don't remember to look at the notes. What's happening is that people are telling me advice that worked for them. That's very nice of them to try, but when I've tried similar systems for decades and they always fail, it's time to try something new.
I use calendar events and put reminders depending on how important the task is. Like if it's my mum's birthday I put a reminder two weeks before (so I get her a gift) the day before and then the same day in the morning but if it's something like remembering to call a company or something I just put one reminder at 3 pm on the day of the event.
You can then snooze the event for as long as you want until you have time to take care of it (at least on Samsung's Android)
I have a phone with me all the time and I have to be in a specific place to see notes, so notes don't work for me. I do have a button on my phone I can talk to and say "Set a reminder to feed the animals at 6:30" or "set a weekly reminder to take out trash at 10pm every Friday" or "text her back in an hour" and then I get an alarm I can't really ignore, I have to do something with it.
I sometimes use sticky notes in the bathroom. I stick one on the mirror right where my face appears. That way I will at least read it before removing it.
But once you get used to it you will stop paying attention. Now I only use it occassionally.
You could write this stuff into your calendar app so that you get reminders. I'm sure there are 'daily planning' apps too but who's got time for that?
I bought the best bamboo pillow I could find and haven't looked back. All the pillow problems I ever had just disappeared. I hate going anywhere without it.
Quitting drinking was a bummer. But mainly because most of the people I'm drawn to are sociopathic alcoholics. I don't know if I hate the game or the player anymore :(
nice job quitting bro 😎
Hate both
I had just sold a car and was flush with cash so before going to buy my new one I bought every single pillow I could find in every home goods store near me and several from online. I then spent the next month studiously comparing pillows to find the right one for me.
The final two came down to a $15 pillow and a $190 pillow.
After deciding all the other pillows got returned and then went and got my new car.
In things as subjective as a pillow high quality is rather Nebulous.
For something like a woodworking tool high quality often matters far more.
The worst life pro tip I've ever received? Listen to the experts, they have made it their job to know the best things and you can't go wrong with what they say.
I sold my 1985 Mercedes 500 SEL AMG and bought a 2007 Toyota Yaris Hatchback.
I don't think I've ever seen a good recommend in those "What sub-$100 purchase changed your life?" threads. No, I don't need a garlic smasher or a water pick.
You would have to live somewhere where it snowed a lot to be worth getting a special machine to clear it. Otherwise I just use a shovel or knowing me I just ignore it until it melted on its own.
What I need is a leaf blower, except I need a special leaf blower that dries all the wet leaves out first so it will actually work and no one seems to have invented one. They all seem to be designed for some weird market where leaves fall down off trees and then it occasionally stops raining for 2 minutes in a row. I don't believe such a mythical place exists.
I never got the point of leaf blowers. If your garden is small enough to make it worthwile, a rake is far less messier and therefore quicker.
If you garden is too large, it is best to let the leaves cover things for winter and decompose for some fertilization.
Leaf Blowers are fantastic at cleaning a Patio, or a Garage / Workshop.
Sawdust everywhere? Not in 30 seconds. Blow all that shit out the garage door. Just wear a respirator, and be smart about how you blow it. If you blow it into a wall - it's gonna go straight up.
Where I live, I've had to shovel snow precisely once in the past four years. Last year, we had almost none at all.
My wife and I have taken to naming our pillows. There's Flat Agnes, Lumpy Rutherford and The Rock, off the top of my head. I would have to consult my wife for the others.
Honestly I can't remember an LPT I got use out of. I think the format tends to draw inane platitudes rather than actually good life advice.
Almost every "life pro tip" I've seen has been either ridiculously common knowledge (LPT: wipe your butt after pooping!) or weirdly specific recommendations (LPT: most frozen ravioli or tortellini can be cooked in a bowl of water in the microwave (this one is literally on the front page of the subreddit right now!)) or just straight up ads.
There are two I use frequently.
Cutting the top off the chip bag after you eat down a certain amount so that the chips are easier to access.
Opening up the white ketchup cups to hold a greater amount of sauce.
That's a good point too. The cheap warm face-grabbing cotton pillowcases with a bunch of extra slack suck, but silk is too smooth for me. I also like to wash my pillowcases a lot and silk doesn't care for that much. Pretty sure what I have now is high-count cotton, but it actually fits the pillow properly so there aren't corners hanging off.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I listened to this advice and splurged on a $60 or $80 "customizable" (it comes with 3 different layers, you combine them how you want) pillow and holy shit, I went from a 2-3 stack pillow 'wake up multiple times each night and re-tuck' to a 1-pillow man that doesn't need to touch my pillow until it's moved for some reason.
I won't even name the pillow because of the nature of the thread but man. New pillow life is pretty great. Sorry that you guys got burned on your shitty pillows. For what it's worth I also tried like 5 of the most expensive (not customizable, but all had something 'special' that made it better') pillows at the mattress store and they pretty much universally sucked.
Mines exactly how stiff I want it, stays cool in warm weather, doesn't stink of memory foam (I think it did at first, instructions were to air it out), and never goes soft.
If only I could buy customizable body parts 😔
Was it Pluto?
Honestly I'll have to look but no I don't believe so. Just some random recommendation from a reddit comment a couple years, with multiple people praising this pillow and I'd just gotten a really nice new expensive king size bed so I said fuck it, pillow splurge time. I think I got 2 king size pillows for 160.
Edit- 
and I accidently got queen pillowcases instead of king and had to return them but they sent kings free of charge. so yeah, maybe get the smallest one sans pillowcase first and see if you like it. it's a big purchase but I certainly don't regret it. The site says it's $84 for the cheapest smallest single pillow. https://sleepgram.com/pages/adjustable-pillow
Gracias!
I've never been a tempurpedic or memory foam guy, but this pillow changed my life
Really, pillows? That's all we got
If your sleep issues are stress-related, like mine, no pillow will do any good. The only solution is to cut the source of stress...
Finding the source of stress isn't normally easy. It could be compounded or masked with addiction or anything really. For me, large doses of psilocybin open the wounds to be viewed as symbolic representations. This is normally a bad trip and it's not fun, but has positive life altering consequences.
Fancier or more expensive is not the solution. Right pillow for you is, which is not necessarily more expensive or fancier.
Also should go without saying but pillow only helps if that is the pillow is the problem.
On the pillows, I’ve never had any good luck buying pillows in the past. I tried Beckham Hotel Collection recently because it was the best seller on Amazon, and I figured why not. The king size is definitely the comfier pillow. It’s fluffy but it also gives and sinks in just the right amount. And it wasn’t even nearly the most expensive pillow I was looking at. YMMV but may be worth a shot.
Speaking of pillows. I forget what brand I have, but I'm sure there are a bunch that make the same general thing. I was annoyed that I had to fight with every pillow I had to keep it from becoming a flat piece of cardboard. 8 years ago I bought pillows filled with shredded memory foam. They came with the stuffing separately so that I could fill my pillow up myself. It's the best pillow I've ever had, and it hasn't gone flat at all after many years.
So, shredded memory foam is the way to go.
Doesn't that make your neck sore? I've used thin pillows all my life, whenever I use a pillow when travelling (hotel, someone else's house etc) it's ALWAYS to thick. I can't imagine stacking two pillows on top of each other.
Ah but if both pillows are old enough to vote it's like just having one!
Nah. I’m mostly a side sleeper but even on my back, my head normally compresses the pillows enough that it’s comfortable. I occasionally wake up having tossed a pillow off to the side, but that’s rare.
Yeah, I've had a normal memory foam pillow, that's how I felt about it too. It was designed for people who sleep still on their back like a corpse.
The sredded kind seems to be soft enough where I can mash it into a shape I want, but it doesn't go flat over time. Or stab you with feathers.
I have one of these as well and also got it years ago! Yeah it's the best I think, but needs a few days to stop outgassing lol.
I purchased this one: Xtreme Comforts Pillows for Sleeping
It's like $30 or something.
I went to a furniture store with a friend to pass the time before she had to pick up her boyfriend up from work, and we were looking at the mattresses since she was thinking about buying a new one. The Purple mattresses were consistently disgusting feeling. They were made out of gel material and felt like those stress balls you get out of a gumball machine. I decided to test what it's like falling into the bed and as soon as my arms touched the mattress I knew it was a mistake. It felt like nails on a chalkboard. I would never be able to sleep in one of those beds unless I was wearing long sleeves, and maybe not even then. If I had a girlfriend who had one of those beds, I'd rather fuck her on the floor or just have her come to my place exclusively. They were also selling pillows from the same company, and they were heavy and the texture was even more noticeable.
We dropped a pretty penny on a saatva zenhaven, not disappointed. And on top of its comfort, it’s expected to last 20 years. If it does, it’ll hands down be the best $3k I’ve ever spent.
I was just trying to think about what I’ve spent big money on… and holy crap we pay a lot for rent. It’s damn near 50% of our income, and we do so much with the other half.
Don't you use sheets?
Maybe I'm crazy or there's a cultural difference somewhere here, but if you needed to wear long sleeves then it's the texture of the material, but surely you'd have a bedsheet over the mattress and not be able to feel it directly?
The pillows that they made from the same material were in pillow cases and you could still feel it through them pretty easily. I doubt a sheet would help for the mattress. A mattress pad might be enough to cover the gross texture, but at that point you would have wasted money buying a gross feeling mattress when you could have bought one that didn't need a mattress pad to feel like a bed.
Yeah even with the expensive ones it's hard to find a good one. Last time I got a pillow, I just ordered like 6 from Amazon, and tried each for a night before deciding which to keep - only one ended up being remotely good, and they were all "nice" pillows (highly rated, over $100)
Love the one I ended with though
I agree that pillows are very individualized, but I’m going to add my pillow choice out there since everyone else seems to be!
I’m very hot natured, so I found the GhostBed Pillow that stays cool during the night. Add to it that it’s just the right amount of firmness for me, and I love it.
Which one of the three do you have?
Same with passwords. I keep stressing to people to write it the fuck down. Nobody can hack you if you write the shit down on a piece of paper as opposed to relying on electronic devices or anything online that can be broken into.
I only remember most of my passwords because of muscle memory, my fingers just strafe around the keyboard for it after entering it enough times.
Hey going off the pillow thing, I was in the same boat until I found a thin pillow. I've never been a memory foam or tempurpedic guy, but this pillow changed my sleep. Sorry of I sound like s shill but I love sleep.
For sleeping on your side you do, unless you're a fan of sore necks
Also whether you were born with shoulders or not.
Maybe I got got by an ad who knows, but I will say this. Pillow cube is the best sleep I have ever had
I bought a buckwheat pillow and it's absolutely amazing, I don't think I can sleep with a regular pillow anymore.
My 100% Hungarian down pillows are divine.
I use the belly sleep pillow from Amazon and it's the best I've found after trying all sorts. It reminds me of one of those thin Oreos, which... When you sleep on your stomach, thinness apparently works wonders. I'm happy not to be suffocated by pillow fluff and it's very rare for me to get a crick in my neck anymore
Are you saying you were raised to be polite and respectful and now can't be rude and disrespectful?
Or the opposite?
If it's the former, give it time. It shifted for me. If it's the latter, maybe try religion or lots of cannabis and psychedelics.
lol, it's not so bad to be incapable of dickishness but sometimes the world calls for it. for me it took opiates, a whole lot lost, a whole lot gained, the realization that the ingrained fear was really only residual bodily memory from an overbearing mother, and TRT. my test levels were mega low from years of opiate addiction. oh, and going out a lot, socializing, getting used to all kinds of people, including the cool ones that look shady, and the shady ones that look cool, for like 2 years straight - that was the hardest part but the most helpful for a former infosec nerd like myself who was eternally online and feared the outside after stimulant fueled and sometimes paranoid coding binges.
oh and the drinking. I drink a lot now, and it makes me an asshole to everyone around when I drink a few too many beers.
I'm not sure it's a path you should try going down, but if the overbearing mother (or father) part are true for you, that's the key to unlocking it in a healthy manner.
For the record I'm 32 and I've managed all that since like 25. Now I'll yell and fight someone in the street if they throw the first punch, or push. 50/50 on whether I'll win.
so anyway circling back to the beginning, it's not so bad being polite. 😊
You're the most interesting geek I've ever had the pleasure of conversing with 😂. I feel like I see myself in the mirror, lol... except I'm very happy and party oriented when drunk 😂... or just wanna dwell on the PC solving some problem, lol.
I've really felt my whole life like I didn't belong amywhere. I'm geekish (IT/programmer), I do electronics (passion from my youth, plus my degree is in electronics and telecommunications, so 😂), but on the other hand, I can do alcohol, drugs, party, am very socially inclined (laid back people usually like me), but not too much as to lose sense of responsibilities and reality, like some of the people I've been around have (mostly junkies or festival hoppers). My point is, I really don't feel like I belong anywhere. Geeks are too geeky for me and we usually don't share the same interests (they are more closed, I'm more open and just scare them away 😂), people that are more street wise or just look at life as one big party are too careless (and sometimes, agressive) for my taste... it's like I can swing from one point to another, but never really settle in.
I just wanna be more like others, I guess... fit in more. Most people nowadays get so passive agressive (or just agreesive 😂) at the slightest drop of a joke or a comment intended to make a bit of fun of them (or me, I always joke at my own expense), that, by now, it feels like I'm born not to be like that. Maybe I am, who knows...
Any time a pro life tip told me to buy something expensive. No, you just want me to waste money, is all it is.
My personal one is people telling you to say some magic words and telemarkers/scammers will stop calling you. No, I disagree, from experience. I tell them off however I feel like because they're my personal punching bags who dare call me to try scamming. What are they going to do? Cry to the police about being harassed when they run an illegal operation? Good luck with that.
Most of them are downright dogshit
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I think when people say to but high quality items, they mean to spend what they’re worth. Getting the most expensive thing doesn’t really guarantee a quality item, but cheaping out makes it much more likely that you’ll end up with something lackluster. Plus, something like sleep can be fairly complicated and is connected to your habits, what you’ve eaten, or schedule, etc., so expecting a single change (pillow) to make a huge difference may not be realistic.
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