When my partner knows what they're doing, I definitely prefer to have them steer. I have had times where I'm riding the wave and he decided to change it up at just the wrong point and ruined the whole thing though
Peoples with vaginas, do you prefer your partner holding the vibrator or holding the vibrator yourself during sex?
3 years ago by PJ_TA to c/asklemmynsfw
When my partner knows what they're doing, I definitely prefer to have them steer. I have had times where I'm riding the wave and he decided to change it up at just the wrong point and ruined the whole thing though
It might depend on how much my partner and I know each other. When I first started dating my now husband, I'd be more likely to drive the vibe myself when getting to the end. Now, though, he knows my body well enough to do it himself, and I have better orgasms for it. When I'm not the one directing the vibrator it makes it a more heightened experience for me, since I don't necessarily know everything he's going to do.
My wife says she prefers me to hold it until the end where she really wants to have the most control possible for that immediate feedback, but she's sure this varies according to personal preference.
It depends, sometimes its fun to let them be in control, I can often orgasm more/longer when they're in control because they can hold it there when I otherwise wouldn't be able to. But I also enjoy doing it myself sometimes, because I know exactly what is working for me and what isn't.
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It depends on my mood. If I do it, it's guaranteed orgasms. If someone else has it, there's potential for ruined orgasms, or none at all. But it's also fun to give up control.. so it all depends on how I feel.
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