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How do I [32M] have a "slut phase"?

3 years ago by HeartbeatHomeboy to c/asklemmynsfw

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cross-posted from: https://lemmynsfw.com/post/178038

Hear me out. First, I know sex isn't everything and I know that hooking up and getting laid isn't going to solve deeper needs and insecurities that I am working on.

That said, I'm also getting out of a long and bad relationship that has left me feeling like I missed so many experiences and opportunities in what ultimately were the final years of my 20s.

I never really properly figured out dating or hooking up. Even though it's not literally true, I feel like the only person I've been with is someone where we skipped straight to "serious long term relationship" which not only contributed to why we didn't work out, but also kind of stunted my development when it comes to romance and sex.

So now I'm trying to take a step back and just kind of loosen up and have fun in a way I feel I never have before. I do want to develop real connections and long term relationships, but I also want a bit of time away from that first.

Only problem is, I have no clue how and I do feel just a bit old for it. I'm on Tinder and frankly it just feels like nobody is interested.

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SineNomen 7 points 3 years ago

Do you have any kinks? Joining a sex positive community where people regularly meet in real life (like a munch) goes a long way. I've fucked more girls after joining the BDSM community with my wife than before I got married.

Mind you, you can't go in there with the expectation of sex. You still have to actually get to know people and make friends and such.

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