Anon has casual sex

2 years ago by 🍹Early to RISA 🧉 to c/greentext

PhilipTheBucket 117 points 2 years ago

Honestly, I always felt the same way when I was younger. People would just meet up and fuck, like a fun thing, and I was never that into it. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn't get it, until I started spending time with girls I had a real-life connection with, and then it was magic.

Pop culture lied to me. The club is bullshit. Casual sex is an awkward wasteland. Props if you're into it I guess, but somehow young adult America turned it into the default, when it's not the way.

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Early_To_Risa 75 points 2 years ago

I've known people who've wondered if they were asexual because of this, then later realized that pop culture isn't real life.

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TheYojimbo 61 points 2 years ago

Thing is, there is not a "way". Some people enjoy casual sex, some yearns for a deeper connection, some don't like sex at all. It varies depending on people, sexual preferences, mood, age, etc.

I don't like the "they lied to me" mentality. Brother, they didn't lie, it's just not for you right now, and maybe never. You just need to find your way.

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phdepressed 18 points 2 years ago

It is quite far from the default. That's just a perception issue. Most young adults aren't even having sex much less casual sex. Like sure tinder exists but it is primarily a fwb generator, not a meet someone new to fuck every day (at least for most people).

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Banana 15 points 2 years ago

Capitalism turned it into default by turning dating into a catalogue you could surf from your couch instead of building meaningful connections with people.

In the name of profit

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BuboScandiacus 7 points 2 years ago

young adult America turned it into the default, when it's not the way.

It’s the same way in europe, I hate it.

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pocopene 4 points 2 years ago

Maybe Helen Fisher's work could be of interest to you

https://youtu.be/6wT61wsgfk0

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sprittytinkles 81 points 2 years ago

I only have ranked competitive sex.

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ddplf 17 points 2 years ago

What league are you on OnlyFans?

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derpgon 18 points 2 years ago

Stuck in Iron 2 😢

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veroxii 7 points 2 years ago

At least it's an honest grind.

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jerkface 5 points 2 years ago

freakin casuals

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SVcross 3 points 2 years ago

I aim to always win

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caseyweederman 3 points 2 years ago

Maybe you could go for the silver and come second this time

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Whats_your_reasoning 3 points 2 years ago

For an attentive lover, coming second means winning first.

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SVcross 2 points 2 years ago

Only with TAS

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Cracks_InTheWalls 3 points 2 years ago

For heterosexuals, ranked PnV

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caseyweederman 3 points 2 years ago

For bisexuals, ranked PvP.

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southsamurai 63 points 2 years ago

Fake and gay as hell. No anon ever gets laid.

That out of the way, this is the kind of thing I wish I could tell folks about when they haven't run into it before.

Sex is great. Even casual sex can be great. But sometimes, casual sex is just masturbating with someone else's genitals instead of your hand.

When you go into it drinking and aren't even working off of mutual sexual interest, that sometimes becomes much more likely.

But holy fuck, sex isn't something that is magic in and of itself. Hooking up is usually the opposite of magic. If you don't go into it with the right frame of mind, you might as well buy a dildo or fleshlight

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sprittytinkles 26 points 2 years ago

I had a lot of casual sex when my ex wife and I split. It was filling a gap (pun intended) in my heart, but it was also me learning my own mind, body, and soul. I don't regret it, but towards the end of that crazy year I did start to resent myself and my actions. I had a lot of fun and met some truly awesome women, but it was all skin deep. I am in a committed stable relationship now, going on 9 years, and having gone through my ho phase, I value and treasure my partner in ways I simply could not have, had I not been a ho for a year.

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southsamurai 3 points 2 years ago

Yeah, I feel that. For me the casual sex I had was about not having the time to develop a proper relationship. But I did learn a lot about myself my doing things that way.

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Harvey656 57 points 2 years ago

I'm assuming anon is young, cuz if I was young and single again, I'd tap that shit multiple times, hot asian milfs need love too!

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Tiger 20 points 2 years ago

Yeah, he’ll be yearning for a second chance at that someday, no doubt.

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Majorllama 52 points 2 years ago

The existence of casual sex implies the existence of ranked competitive sex.

Jokes aside some people need an emotional connection to have sex. Many do not.

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Pacattack57 25 points 2 years ago

There is in fact ranked competitive sex:

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Majorllama 14 points 2 years ago

I wish I could pretend like I don't know who any of those people are.

I'm surprised Belle Delphine is still pulling those numbers. I thought once she gave up the goods so to speak that everything would collaps. I guess I'm happy for her?

Idk who the rest of those people are... Is that the catch me outside girl? She's old enough for porn now?? Fuck what happened to the time.

Edit: fat fingered something

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Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In 10 points 2 years ago

Is it segregated by gender or just dominated by women?

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tooting_lemmy 6 points 2 years ago

I'm surprised the Cash me outside girl is number one.

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thebigslime 5 points 2 years ago

Thank you Dr. Phil lmao

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Aggravationstation 4 points 2 years ago

Not an expert but I thought most OF models don't actually have sex in their content, they just sell nudes and interact with fans. Am I wrong there?

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Pacattack57 8 points 2 years ago

Idk I’m not a simp

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droporain 40 points 2 years ago

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cyborganism 5 points 2 years ago

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Comment105 40 points 2 years ago

Dude has that Abrahamic guilt conditioning.

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the_crotch 17 points 2 years ago

Not necessarily. Sex, even casual sex, can complicate or completely destroy a relationship. If I had drunken casual sex with a coworker I'd have regrets.

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Comment105 7 points 2 years ago

Since you're making this comment, I'm guessing you are not at all religious?

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the_crotch 9 points 2 years ago

Unless discordianism counts, not in the slightest. For me it would be about the potential drama.

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Disaster 2 points 2 years ago

There is an adjustment period, which is often uncomfortable.

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NaevaTheRat 33 points 2 years ago

Anon has sex with a woman, immediately regrets it.

Never change 4Chan.

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phoenixz 32 points 2 years ago

Has consensual sex feel guilty

Are you Catholic?

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OmgItBurns 31 points 2 years ago

Folks, some people don't like casual sex. Some people do. Depends a lot on why a person likes sex, if they like sex, I suppose.

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ByteOnBikes 23 points 2 years ago

OP just learned that there are multiple types of connection.

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slaacaa 26 points 2 years ago

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HelixDab2 22 points 2 years ago

There's nothing wrong with not wanting casual sex. There's nothing wrong with wanting it.

The problem comes from saying that what you want is the only right thing, and that everyone that doesn't want the same thing you do is wrong. Or from being deceptive about what you want in order to coerce the other person into sex.

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zakobjoa 21 points 2 years ago

The fuck is causal sex.

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sugar_in_your_tea 26 points 2 years ago

It absolutely is.

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Walk_blesseD 15 points 2 years ago

It's when preceding events cause sex to happen.

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DaPorkchop_ 8 points 2 years ago

Its existence also implies the existence of sex which occurs spontaneously and without warning, independently of all preceding events.

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Droechai 2 points 2 years ago

It's horrible when taking the bus for example. Just sitting minding your business and the BAM spontaneous sex with the busdriver and everyone gets late for work

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AnUnusualRelic 6 points 2 years ago

It's like picrel apparently.

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cows_are_underrated 12 points 2 years ago

Real man only have competitive sex /s

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some_guy 12 points 2 years ago

How about just having sex and then a nice conversation in bed? Maybe dude isn't able to do the second part and it gets awkward.

Tell you what. I'll be the pinch hitter for future casual sex. Just dip out and I'll take the hit for you.

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_cryptagion 10 points 2 years ago

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sugar_in_your_tea 5 points 2 years ago

Fits with the fake/gay bit.

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tooting_lemmy 9 points 2 years ago

I feel like casual sex will probably help you find a long term relationship. All my relationships started with a hookup. My marriage did too.

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grrgyle 8 points 2 years ago

I feel the same way but about hanging out and not having sex.

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festnt 7 points 2 years ago

maybe he just doesn't like sex

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AlexisFR 4 points 2 years ago

Show us the answers please!

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