Do you ever wish you weren't diagnosed with something?

a year ago by I'm_All_NEET:3 to c/asklemmy

Do you ever think that maybe a diagnosis you received may have come back to bite you?

SnarkoPolo 41 points a year ago

I'm on the autism spectrum, with very low support needs. My health care provider has that in my medical records. Now I'm worried that I'm going to disappear into some camp, and my wife will never know what happened.

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SippyCup 9 points a year ago

I've never been happier not to have an official diagnosis. My wife and I are considering our options.

Ireland? New Zealand? We both have semi in demand skills. I'm a tradesman and she's a social worker. Realistically we're stuck here but looking at what we might be able to do

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Droggelbecher 4 points a year ago

The psychologist who did like a shortened test on me actually recommended against going further and also getting diagnosed by a psychiatrist if I don't want any official support. Just not worth a lifetime of discrimination within the medical system. I'm noticing it happening with my ADHD diagnosis. That one's worth the discrimination though, since the treatment is a life saver (potentially literally).

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Noodle07 1 point a year ago

Agreed, treatment changed my ADHD life. And it's still nowhere near removing all of the symptoms

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SpaceFox 3 points a year ago

Why?

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Xanthobilly 41 points a year ago

RFKjr is setting up a national autism registration and he’s already proposed to send neurodivergent people to farms. It’s pure Nazi eugenics.

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That_Devil_Girl 5 points a year ago

My pet goldfish was also sent to a farm when I was a kid. Sending people to farms sounds like a euphemism for extermination.

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loomy 5 points a year ago
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undrwater 1 point a year ago

I did a search, and discovered articles pointing to sending addicts to farms. I couldn't find anything similar for neurodivergent people.

Can you link something?

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chairlegoftruth 12 points a year ago path: 0 17123936 17124127 17126255 17128212 17128436, hotness: undefined, score: 12, children: 11
sharkfucker420 3 points a year ago

RFK considers people with ADHD who are perscribed stimulants to be addicts

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Yermaw -3 points a year ago

Ffs America you're supposed to be setting the example here

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dojan 12 points a year ago

Lmao, when?

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Xanthobilly 9 points a year ago

Yah, well, this time the US is invading the US to give it some much needed ‘freedom.’

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IttihadChe 2 points a year ago

~ Germany, Dec 8 1941

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seralth 1 point a year ago
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locuester -16 points a year ago

What?! Can you provide some sources on this?

That seems to be complete nonsense. RFKjr is working to determine the cause of the increase in autism rates by linking datasets. Specifically looking into correlation with vaccines.

There has never been talk of sending neurodivergent people to farms or camps.

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Xanthobilly 13 points a year ago

If that really was his objective he wouldn’t have cancelled NIH funding into research on autism. You are either ignorant or disingenuous.

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neilb 32 points a year ago

I know my wife wishes she had never been officially diagnosed with depression, as it precludes her from some jobs she wanted to apply for. How true this is is reality, I don’t know.

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Nawor3565 21 points a year ago

Not sure where you're located, but at least in the USA it's definitely illegal for an employer to discriminate against a medical diagnosis like that. They aren't even allowed to ask you private medical questions during the hiring process.

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themoonisacheese 33 points a year ago

It prevents you from jobs like airline pilots, the rationale being that placing someone potentially suicidal in control of a plane full of people isn't a good idea. The rationale doesn't really make total sense but you can see why they'd think that way.

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scintilla 11 points a year ago

except that airline pilots end up depressed and untreated instead of just not depressed.

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themoonisacheese 9 points a year ago

Oh yeah definitely, that's a major problem that's specifically created by this policy.

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Ptsf 2 points a year ago

But depression isn't a thing normal people experience! It's only the mentally ill and we don't want them at the controls.. /s

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deur 3 points a year ago
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pulsewidth 2 points a year ago

Then you lack imagination. It's actually happened and not that long ago that a pilot intentionally killed himself and took the entire plane with him.

https://en.wikipedia.org/...

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ALoafOfBread 16 points a year ago

It's illegal unless there's a bonafide occupational qualification that your disability prevents you from performing. Like you couldn't apply for a job as a furniture mover if you're a quadriplegic and cry discrimination when they don't select you. And the employer can ask things like "this job requires that you lift heavy objects of up to 600lbs with the assistance of another person and a back brace. Do you have any medical or other reason you could not perform these duties?".

Now if that weren't a real occupational qualification, that'd be discriminatory. Like if they said you had to be a man for that moving job - there's no reason you have to be a man, you just have to be able to move 600lb things.

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Justathroughdaway 14 points a year ago

I'm 50/50. On one hand it's interesting and good to know about yourself and your issues but it is a double-ended sword. I was diagnosed with ASPD a little while back among other things and while I'm glad I understand the root for a lot of my problematic traits I now also have a piece of paper that makes me look bad if I have to go to court.

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sunbrrnslapper 13 points a year ago

Celiac is a real pain in the ass and makes me sound unhinged at a restaurant.

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myersguy 20 points a year ago

I'm just so tired of checking every single ingredient list.

Also tired of terms at restaurants like "Gluten Aware", "Gluten Conscious", etc. Then you find out everything is still going in the same fryer 🫤

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ferric_carcinization 7 points a year ago

Also tired of terms at restaurants like "Gluten Aware", "Gluten Conscious", etc. Then you find out everything is still going in the same fryer

At least they're aware of it.

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sunbrrnslapper 4 points a year ago

Gluten appears to be pixie dust just thrown about in kitchens and mass food production facilities. It is shocking how much contains it or is near it.

I haven't heard of a gluten aware restaurant. But the term sounds irritating.

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stray 4 points a year ago

I really appreciate places like Subway and Taco Bell that just tell you up front they probably have cross-contamination on everything. Most places the workers don't even know what gluten is. When I explain, they think I should just say I don't want bread.

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myersguy 3 points a year ago

Subway is way off my list. They cut the bread over the meat. You can watch the crumbs fly right in.

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OhVenus_Baby 2 points a year ago

Are you severe? Any complications as a result?

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sunbrrnslapper 1 point a year ago

I'm not sure if I'm severe - I get a three-day migraine that is not unresponsive to medication if I eat gluten. 🤷 I was vitamin deficient and had damage to my intestines, but that's fixed now. I have a lot of other weird food stuff going on, but am still unclear if it is even related. The biggest complication is not being able to eat out easily. And I'm that person at parties that I brings their own food.

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OhVenus_Baby 2 points a year ago

I'm so used to not eating out, eating at family gatherings. Cooking everything from scratch with salt only. Low fodmap, low sugar, low fat. I have SIBO. Liver issues, kidney failure, migraines, basically systemic issues. Can't tolerate anything hardly at all. Top 9 allergen free. I feel like a basket case of issues with mine. So I was curious about you.

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sunbrrnslapper 1 point a year ago

Oh! I didn't realize it can cause other things. I have hashimotos, can't eat soy or animal products and am dizzy sometimes when holding completely still. You are not alone - I just didn't connect all of mine with celiac.

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SpaceNoodle 2 points a year ago

How would it be better if you hadn't been diagnosed?

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sunbrrnslapper 9 points a year ago

I guess I was thinking if I didn't have it, which means I could eat everything without having to ask a million questions or carefully researching products/ingredients.

If I wasn't diagnosed but still had it, I'd be very sick and malnourished.

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sharkfucker420 9 points a year ago

I am really glad and very priveleged to have been diagnosed with ADHD. However, I worry that my official diagnoses might put me in danger soon

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OADINC 1 point a year ago

In the Netherlands you can remove your ADHD diagnosis (at least when moving from child to adult care, if I recall correctly)

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PillowTalk420 8 points a year ago

I wish I straight up just didn't have the things I was diagnosed with. The diagnosis themselves haven't changed anything other than now I at least know I am not a piece of shit on purpose.

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BigTechMustBurn 1 point a year ago

I get this. All the time.

Is it the depression or is it just me? Am I just a piece of shit?

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SpaceFox 1 point a year ago

I'm really feeling this, man.

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azrv 7 points a year ago

Had a hard time figuring out life in my early 20's. Sought help, and got a mental health diagnosis and some meds that I took for a while. 20 years later it's clear that it was either a misdiagnosis of simple existential angst, or I figured shit out in the meantime. Paying 40% more for life insurance and need reports from the doctor I haven't seen in 18 years each time I have to renew security clearance.

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Bubberpillar 3 points a year ago

It ain’t nothing, but fuckin eczema lol. Gotta lotion up every day and even then, sometimes you get random flare ups.

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haui_lemmy 3 points a year ago

No, not once. I've got ablot of issues due to nobody giving a shit when I was young making the tiniest effort to get shit diagnosed and properly taken care of. On top it was out of pure naivety due to the belief that if youre not diagbosed its not true and partly science denial.

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TheGiantKorean 3 points a year ago
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Zenith 3 points a year ago

I wish I hadn’t been diagnosed with cystic fibrosis but mostly I wish I didn’t have it

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phanto 2 points a year ago

I will never be able to get a small engine private pilot license due to fainting, despite it literally never happening unless I'm standing up...

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a9249 8 points a year ago
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phanto 1 point a year ago

I've got 10 hours in a little ultralight. Pre-diagnosis. I'm not looking to fly a jet fighter. I get more G's in a hang glider.

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NigelFrobisher 2 points a year ago

I’m not diagnosed and I’m seriously considering keeping it that way. My nephew is so hoping the political situation in the UK doesn’t go that way.

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NeedyPlatter 2 points a year ago

Depression 100% I have lost so much of my youth to it, and even now with my meds and lifestyle changes it still finds its way back into my life. Hell, depression is the reason why I'm 21 and still in highschool! It's an awful condition

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DarkDarkHouse 8 points a year ago

Wouldn't being undiagnosed, presumably without those meds, be worse though, not better?

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UltraGiGaGigantic 1 point a year ago

Life

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OhVenus_Baby 1 point a year ago
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