Trust me, as a hetero woman, I got so exhausted too. Reddit got so eye-roll-y within....less than 5 minutes sometimes that it made me just leave and go do something productive.

I mean, I'm a straight man and I would also find that annoying!

I'll never forgot how absolutely bonkers r/CablePorn went over this. Top posts all-time were of some truly gorgeous masterful cable-work in server rooms, colorful coordination, gore-to-porn jobs of jumbled mess to near works-of-art. Then some mildly attractive girl posts herself pointing to a comparatively meh small cabling setup it went into meltdown while also becoming one of the top posts at the time.

I'm gay too. I don't really understand what this post is about. Your complaint is seeing someone you're not attracted to? That can't be right. There has to be something I'm missing.

As an asexual, that always was a bit uncomfortable. And don't even get me started on the bots always sending dms. Damn things never stopped. xD

Or r/art just being naked women

I remember finding a great subreddit called r/CharacterArt (or something like that). You could post character art mainly focused on dnd and other ttrpgs. I thought that was a great idea, and checked it out to find some cool art for my own Pathfinder game.

90% of the top post were women in revealing clothing.

Hey redditors, what is the sexiest sex you've ever sexed sexually?

Reminding myself that the person posting the worst opinions I've seen in my life is likely a 14 year-old with unrestricted access to the internet from birth is the only thing keeping me sane.

I, too, miss Usenet.

Why won't teenagers come here along with everyone else?

Reddit has always been full of teenagers. But it's gotten "worse" over the past few years. Or maybe I (we've?) just gotten older. I don't remember reddit being like this 10 years ago; but I was 10 years younger, and a teen too.

yeah ……… i have found various subs infiltrated with people as young as 13 and it shocks me. its honestly extremely dangerous for themselves to be exploring reddit at that age but also like dude, i absolutely do not want to be engaging with anyone under the age of 20 MINIMUM

Very true

Grumpy old men FTW! Together we will be less grumpy... I hope

This is particularly why I don't participate in any social media aside from (what used to be reddit but now) lemmy. It got to the point where I wasn't even enjoying reddit, I just clicked it out of habit. And did I actually retain anything useful from that website? Lol no. It was all just timewasting bullshit that put you in a pissy mood.

It's nice to actually hold a fucking conversation for once. I think a lot of us came here for the same reason; missing the community of that old school forum feel.

100% this. My mood levels have been way more stable since I deleted Reddit. I think the forum based media here also only attracts people willing to contribute more than just a sensational picture or video.

Tbf I enjoyed r/shittyfoodporn...

YES this so so much. reddit tends to be way too full of ragebait, horny comments, and extremist echo chambers. i’ve had enough with it all!

Precisely, and I still fall for it all the time...

Agreed. To help prevent this we should all send at least a few bucks a month to keep this project running.

Trust me, that's coming too. Only thing that can be done is to block federation of those instances.

I'd imagine nsfw instances will show up sooner or later, mean if theres ever a more determined group of people its horny folk haha

✨Be the change you want to see! 🌈

There's plenty of horny on Mastodon fwiw

Just scrolled past some fury porn on the All from another network. Give it time the NSFW stuff will come.

there are lots of places like that, but it depends on what you do when you're horny

Hit the nail right on the head. Thats why I LOVE all this rn. I can make posts and comment and people reply with genuine responses (like you for example). I never wanted to comment because it would just get drowned in the sea of recycled ideas. Plus all the bots which made me paranoid about doing anything. A part of me hopes that Lemmy stays like an old school forum/message board forever, because i'm really enjoying this.

Yes!

I miss the days when I could look in the comments for more information about a post and actually learn or discover something new. The comments are worthless at this point. There is no discussion to be had.

"The troll dance" is an excellent way to explain it. One of my last comments was about a cow that was laying it's head in a woman's lap. It was a nice comment about the cow (which was stated to be female). Out of no where some troll popped up and started the "dId YoU jUsT aSsUmE gEnDeR?!??" line of bait. I flat out said that I was not going to "debate" the gender of a bovine. The entire conversation was so utterly pointless. What has reddit become? Why did I stay so long? Why was I commenting about a cow?

It has always been crazy to me just how unusable subreddits became when they got too big. And no one cares. Yeah, this doesn't fit here at all, but it's a funny meme, so it gets upvoted.
I remember some years ago reading a thread about small funny subreddits. I found me_irl, which was a tiny community back then. It was hilarious, it was just some relatable comedy. Then it blew up and it became a SpongeBob meme sub, and then it became a "i wanna kill myself lol" sub. Now it's just: post whatever picture, no one cares.

What is even the point? It's just Facebook

At the end of the day, moderation is unique to each instance, so if you get banned or if you don't like the rules of one, you can always sign up and apply for another one.

I don't mind good jokes, but Reddit has standard "inside jokes" that are posted to almost every thread. That and the endless quotes from television shows. I like Arrested Development too, but god damn can we just have a conversation without asking how much one banana costs?

Oh god I got so tired of the jokes. In the beginning I liked to see them peppered in here and there, and I love a good pun, but it just became so overdone and forced. Every thread was just lines and lines and lines of jokes (many of them weren't even good) with no actual conversation. It got boring.

I miss the jokes

im putting my dingus in your microwave

Don't forget those horny bots. Beep boop bop

What would be nice is a good way to separate the nsfw instances from the others. Then have one account for those and one for normal posting.

Can confirm, been here a couple days, did a "Well lemme check just in case" search for jubblies earlier 😂

Already here. ;)

I have considered doing it myself but I doubt I would have the energy to manage it.

Because of the masturbating?

I wouldn't be surprised if the current round of departures from Reddit leads to someone out there making an NSFW focused instance. Maybe not in the timeframe some would want, but it feels inevitable for better or worse.

That reminds me an aspect to Lemmy and similar federated platforms that I think will be nice, whether Horny or Not!Horny: an instance with a particular focus can get invested in the policies and practices that benefit that kind of focus to a degree that really isn't possible with a big, central tent like Reddit. Federation also means that hopping between instances to cherry pick the kind of fine-tuned experience you want is going to be a lot easier. I'm guessing that finding different instances might become a bit more difficult over time, but I'm excited to see where things go.

Someone did, though there’s nothing on it now https://lemmynsfw.com/

I will miss that too. However, I'm not sure how moderation on Lemmy works, but if only the admins get to moderate, it will be very exhausting to look through every NSFW community. Outsourcing moderation might help the situation, but considering even big corporation owned websites struggle with illegal content being posted, imagine a small community like Lemmy currently is.

A shame, Reddit is the only website I've found that had a few subs posting trans porn without being fetishizing and/or male gaze-y.

Yeah there's nothing wrong with being horny, but shoving it in strangers faces is just gross.

It is. The bad comes with the good. If we want more user migration then it’s only about time.

Part of that came from the same 3 questions being asked every 5 hours from new people. I'm not necessarily condoning or justifying it, but it did get rather annoying in r/Deadpool when every day there were 4 new posts saying "Hey, I'm new to Deadpool, what's a good place to start reading/catching up?" despite the first item on the sidebar and FAQ was where to start and the big bold letters on a new post screen was "READ THE FAQ".

Alternatively, I stayed away from other subs like 1911 because if it wasn't a Springfield, Colt, or $1400 custom job you got berated and told to "save more money"

To add onto your point. One thing that we'll have to watch out for is that toxic clout culture built up on other websites coming here.

It's been something I've been thinking about in the context of all this. People aren't coming from the void. They'll have their own internet lingo and culture that they'll bring with them to any site they go to. And while the design of a website can mitigate some of the worst parts of a culture, it can't outright remove it.

Without near constant vigilance (like the ask a historian subreddit) most communities will end up dying off. And even then you're at the whims of the platform.

I realise my point now is hardly even connected to yours, haha. Apologies.

I think the accessibility of reddit vs Lemmy plays a feature there. Lemmy requires at least some level of tech literacy to understand well enough to use

This is a big plus for Lemmy right now. IMO the reason Reddit used to be great was its inaccessibility. Old-style Reddit was ugly as hell and difficult to use and that kept away the "impulsive, heavily-opinionated, casual users".

Why not just make or join an ACE community? I don't have any links handy, but I know I saw at least one searching through places to subscribe to.

i think we are a lot safer, with instances that completely block nsfw, they gonna gather in the more open instances

I'm bisexual myself but I hope they can at least not let things turn into what askreddit turned into with the near constant sexual questions.

I'm asexual, through & through. It's understandable that sex / sexual content is inevitable in such a wide open space, but on R×ddit, it's become absolutely constant and inescapable! To the point where non-sexual things are being sexualized, and it's just become genuinely unnerving and gross.

I want to stop seeing posts commenting on everyday objects and being like "Damn, I'd fuck that!", as if anyone truly wanted to know that. Ever. Ick.

14/F/Cali

Hoping they don't come with a deluge of OnlyFans spam. Reddit had some good niche NSFW subs, but they got watered down with generic content. The same stuff gets posted to every sub, with a mad libbed title to fit the kink. Their profiles are just a hundred of the same picture, titled Would you _____ a ______ or Am I too ____ for ____?

I think the worst offender was a ginger who made it to the top of HotArabGirls or something.

Same, I feel like there isn't any niche content here yet, but I'm less than an hour in so I'm still kinda looking for the light switch

Sorting by all/hot, you can come across some nsfw communities, although some of them seem really shady.

i personally at least haven’t seen any horny comments/posts yet, but i haven’t been here long either. on reddit, there’s comments like that on basically every post.

The pessimistic Internet user in me knows we are in the honeymoon stage of a wonderful user base.

I mean... just Google it?

That's disgusting! Tell me exactly where so I know where to avoid! Exactly.

People always try to make a funny/horny/witty comment, on Reddit, for karma. Karma doesn't exists here. You have up- and down votes but no overall score and your comment doesn't get pushed to the top just because people voted it up.

Ah, the old "what are you doing stepbro" comment. The definition of an overused, unfunny joke.

A big part was how run into the ground it was. I don't want to seem like a grump, but any funny joke losses it's appeal when it is repeated too many times. I also wasn't a fan of when one person would actually make a good joke by quoting a TV show in a way that was on topic, and then people would just reply to that comment with other quotes from the show. Like ok, you proved you got the reference but you also killed it, thanks.

I think my biggest horny-joke peeve was the "must not look". The 'joke' relies on the shallow nonsensical (and frankly, misandrist) idea that every man is an emotionless, purposeless horndog who only ever cares about sex, and is literally incapable of being around a woman without immediately trying to do a sex.

Do most men enjoy sex? Do most straight men enjoy admiring those they find attractive? Sure, like most people do, regardless of gender. Does men's desire deny those men their personhood or identity; are they devoid of other passions or interests? Of fucking course not!!

But for reddit... a man and woman are in the same photo. The photo could be of literally anything, it doesn't matter, it works for karma-farming. You now have two possible jokes:

1. He's looking at her tits/ass? You don't need to make a joke, actually. Post as-is, let the comments fill with (sigh) unzips or similar. Actually, make that your OP post title, too.

2. He's not looking at her tits/ass? Surely he is as desperately horny and single-minded as the rest of us, surely his sexual frustration defines how he moves throughout the world like it does us, surely he is thinking must-not-look must-not-look.

The kind of people who make that joke really indicate that their own sexual frustration has become such a defining part of their own lives that they can't fathom anybody else feeling differently.

Part of that for me was when /b/ because flooded with social-threads to the point they had to make /soc/ just to get them out

I loved r/TrueSTL and r/196, but after it devolved into half cropped porn and hornyposting about femboys it just wasnt funny anymore. And not judging preference or anything btw it was just too much. And those two subs are just the ones that pop into my head there were way more, like Wordington.

I think that a lot of the people commenting here mainly stayed on very large subs or something. This hasn't been my experience with Reddit. In the subs I usually frequent, there are some short joke comments, but usually there's useful discussion and there is basically no horny posting. It might be because they're smaller subs or maybe I got lucky? IDK.

Ok boomer 👌😎🔥🌿💨

A part of me wishes that this all just stays as small forums and stuff. Its nice to actually talk to people instead of worrying about accounts actually being bots.