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10 months ago by io to c/onehundredninetysix

SnotFlickerman 169 points 10 months ago

How about we normalize being flamboyant and colorful for straight adult cisgender men instead of re-enforcing the idea that any deviation from being a boring frumpy dump of an old man means they must be some type of queer. Isn't this just re-enforcing outdated gender norms?

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Deceptichum 69 points 10 months ago
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RobotFK 7 points 10 months ago

Almost an arms race

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ABetterTomorrow 6 points 10 months ago

Yo

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RunJun 16 points 10 months ago

Thank you. There can be overlap due to repression but the immediate label does reinforce stereotypes.

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octoham 14 points 10 months ago

idk, i read this as a joke about how being emo isn't accepted once you're past a certain age, and how that age is higher for women. don't get me wrong i do think straight cis men should be allowed to be flamboyant and colourful, but i don't think the meme is against that

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Funky_Beak 12 points 10 months ago

My hot take was in the early 00's the emo movement was the start for alot of ppl questioning their gender identity.

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nanoswarm9k 0 points 10 months ago

Amazing mental gymnastics to get a read of 'boy become a woman' that isn't trans.

I'm also pulling for depolicing gender for everyone, but also a silly laugh about which subcultures have eggs that come out faster.

I love you emo boys that became women. I love you emo boys that became goth men. I love you faahion cryptid enbies.

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Zink 5 points 10 months ago

Hell yeah!

I am not flamboyant myself. Along with being a strongly introverted AuDHD computer nerd, I am a straight adult cisgender man with a long beard and literally wearing a red & green flannel shirt right now. I've been trying to wear natural fibers lately and it's 100% cotton coziness.

The frumpy dumpy path so many in my demo seem to assume is their destiny can fuck alllll the way off. We need people to share their interests and be flamboyant if that's what's in their heart!

God forbid we allow a spark of joy in our hearts to reach out and improve the existence of another human, right? Especially when we could have spent more time being good worker bees and consumers of product and content, so that a few sociopaths could watch a number go up and wait for the contentment that will never come.

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A_Union_of_Kobolds 1 point 10 months ago
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RaoulDook 49 points 10 months ago

Counterpoint: Brandon Lee as The Crow

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Skullgrid 24 points 10 months ago

Goth men exist. Or are you calling Peter Steele a woman?

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DmMacniel 17 points 10 months ago

well, he stopped being emo, quite suddenly.

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Macchi_the_Slime 7 points 10 months ago

For a few seconds there I think you could argue he was the most emo literally anyone could be.

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MutilationWave 3 points 10 months ago

Elliott Smith- Was I a joke to you?

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lucyph0r 1 point 25 days ago

In his defense, he did die before a meaningful transition to emo man.

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JayDee 16 points 10 months ago

Damn, just looked it up and he died during that film's shooting. That sucks, he fuckin nailed that role.

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Odo 12 points 10 months ago

I had no idea people watched The Crow without knowing that. His death was such a huge part of the discussion around that movie back in 1994. I just assumed that context would always follow it, no matter how long it's been.

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kelpie_returns 5 points 10 months ago
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TotallynotJessica 3 points 10 months ago

No he didn't. Both of their deaths forced the movies they were working on to be rewritten, but Bruce died of a pre-existing condition combined with painkillers, while Brandon got shot.

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HeyThisIsntTheYMCA 2 points 10 months ago

he didn't die in an on-set accident he died in a specific type of on-set accident is not a great argument

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Iheartcheese 7 points 10 months ago

Basically that entire movie is a ghost and a incestuous mob boss trying to outgoth each other

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glitchdx 6 points 10 months ago

and it was so good

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TotallynotJessica 31 points 10 months ago

cringe take

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DragonTypeWyvern 4 points 10 months ago

Exactly, femboys are valid

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SnotFlickerman 3 points 10 months ago

I think you mean fem-men

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MycelialMass 2 points 10 months ago

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SnotFlickerman 2 points 10 months ago

Mahna mahna!

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festnt 18 points 10 months ago

what about vampires?

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SnotFlickerman 13 points 10 months ago

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seabisquit 18 points 10 months ago

Noel Fielding disagrees

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SnotFlickerman 4 points 10 months ago

Noel Fielding is a national goddamned treasure.

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froufox 15 points 10 months ago

I mean, Robert Smith exists

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glitchdx 12 points 10 months ago

I disagree.

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kelpie_returns 9 points 10 months ago
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