nagaram 101 points 4 months ago

My papa

Builds and collects model planes

organizes fishing lures based on effectiveness, has extensive notes on how to catch fish

will leave the room if it gets too loud

frustrated easily in social situations

finds Sheldon Cooper from Big Bang theory so relatable

texture issues and will only eat from 4 restaurants only burgers or fried fish

"What the hell is autism? Sounds like being a brat!"

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PyroNeurosis 2 points 4 months ago

I need those fishing notes. Definitely not for industrial espionage purposes.

But it must be rough for him having a world that demanded he be a way suddenly (ish) be more understanding and accommodating.

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AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor 33 points 4 months ago

The main reason I was diagnosed late in my 30s is that both my parents are autistic but think that (and this is a quote from them) "autistic kids are retarded, and you aren't so you can't be autistic".

Growing in a small rural town comes with a lot of good things but also a lot of prejudices that can make your life tough if you aren't "like the rest of the kids".

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historicaldocuments 15 points 4 months ago

“autistic kids are retarded, and you aren’t so you can’t be autistic”.

Growing in a small rural town comes with a lot of good things but also a lot of prejudices that can make your life tough if you aren’t “like the rest of the kids”.

This is why I waffle about banning "social media" for kids under a certain age. If the parents and the communities they allow say that it's not possible for a kid to be a certain way then there's no way for a kid to independently check. I don't have any idea on how to balance that against the algorithm.

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AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor 14 points 4 months ago

I don't have any idea on how to balance that against the algorithm.

Just ban the algorithms on social media and you solve a good portion of the issues they cause.

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historicaldocuments 1 point 4 months ago

Just ban the algorithms on social media and you solve a good portion of the issues they cause.

There's no way to enforce that, and you have to have seen some bs before to recognize it again. Plus, if you're the only kid that never sees stuff the algorithm provides then you're right back to being surrounded by people with different knowledge sets.

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AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor 4 points 4 months ago

You could force every social media to get their code audited regularly (once a year maybe?) to prove they are not using an algorithm on them. And the penalty for being caught using one or by refusing to be audrted is a 10% yearly revenue increasing by +10% every time they get caught using it or they refuse to be audited.

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teslekova 8 points 4 months ago

I grew up in a small town. You can get by if they accept you as sort of a mascot/walking encyclopaedia. That's how I once got the entirety of Year 6 to come and defend me against the depredations of evil highschoolers.

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AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor 9 points 4 months ago

That's possible when people in your town see knowledge as something positive. I was (still am) socially awkward so the mascot strategy never worked. I tried the encyclopaedia one but turns out bigotted farmers are not fond of people who know things. The only way to stop being bullied was leaving the town when I was 18 to move to a big city.

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UniversalBasicJustice 2 points 4 months ago

Are you me? Moved from 3500 pop bumfuck Wisconsin to 3.5m pop Los Angeles at 18. Greatest decision I've ever made, although staying out ended up a harder challenge than I expected due to the aforementioned lack of and hostility toward knowledge and behavioral health care.

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teslekova 2 points 4 months ago

Yep, I definitely got lucky. And people certainly do not appreciate actual knowledge that defies their pre-existing beliefs.

It wasn't all great.

But my particular type of weirdness, combined with a tendency to ignore or not recognise what would normally be humiliation, got me enough laughs that I could spout all sorts of facts about astronomy or whatever without being threatening to the ones that knew me best.

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IAMgROOT 1 point 4 months ago

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berber 16 points 4 months ago

i like the sentiment, but i hate the imagery.

a dad wanting to have his alone time with his hobby that is miniature trains is the thing that is supposed to indicate autism?

i don't like this because it stregthens ideas about which hobbies are "normal" and which hobbies are "weird" and only bearable for autistic people (i am exaggerating, of course).

wanting to have alone time is a completely normal thing for neurotypical people, and the dad even expresses it verbally, explicitly.

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PieMePlenty 10 points 4 months ago

Its just the stereotypical trains = autism trope. As our understanding of autism is expanded, the joke stars feeling dated.

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charokol 2 points 4 months ago

People, like whoever drew this comic, are starting to evoke the trope without any nuance or understanding. Like you said, it’s just trains = autism. It’s getting annoying.

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blockheadjt 0 points 4 months ago

It becomes bearable when you realize everyone trying to define autism is just fumbling around. Autism is a human construct. It doesn't reflect reality, just ideas neurotypical people have.

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Saapas 12 points 4 months ago

Guys is it autistic to have hobbies

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AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor 3 points 4 months ago

There's a difference between a hobby and an autistic special interest.

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lime 8 points 4 months ago

...why is this cut off?