What sensory overload bugs you the most?

a day ago by LadyButterfly she/her to c/autism

schmorpel 30 points a day ago

Sound - as we are coming into party season. Some techno music was playing all night, the heartbeat-raising kind that travels through the granite, but I was not 100% sure if it also could be a combine harvester working at night, or even my fridge playing up, or a mix of all of these. So I had to listen to the sounds to figure out what they were, all night, and it kept me busy and annoyed. I'm afraid if I don't get my lunchtime nap today I'll throw myself a toddler tantrum later.

Light is awful but I can close my eyes at least.

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applebusch 11 points a day ago

same for me. sound is the worst. my neighbor likes to fall asleep to the tv so its just on like all fucking night. its not loud at all, but when theres people speaking i can hear the muffled base of their voice and nothing else. i have no idea what they're saying but the cadence is so clearly human speech its impossible for my brain to ignore. there was a few months where i could barely sleep before i started wearing ear plugs at night.

i did talk to him about it eventually but after a while he went back to playing the tv at all hours. its such a minor sound its hard to describe to people how it could drive me so crazy so ive just resigned to sleeping with ear plugs forever. helps to tune out my cats having zoomies and yelling too.

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miked 1 point 12 hours ago

I have a white nose machine for the annoying nighttime sounds.

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Madzielle 13 points 18 hours ago

I go feral with the lawnmowers start up in the neighborhood. Im also near a small airport, the planes are bad but when The black hawks and shinooks are out doing drills is the worst cuz they just circle and circle until I feel insane.

sometimes, you get inccenant plane take offs, lawnmowers, highway traffic, and dogs barking all at the same time. I like being outside but holy fuck

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zewm 13 points a day ago

The sound of children. I absolutely detest hearing those banshee wails.

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kantor 8 points a day ago

This. As a non-smoker, I started purposefully seeking cafés where smoking is allowed cause that would mean no small children around

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adarza 7 points a day ago

not me. not a problem here. even a toddler with a tantrum in the grocery store -- the noise doesn't bother me... it's the horrible 'parenting' from their 'adult' that often accompanies it that does.

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morrowind 5 points a day ago

This type of attitude seems to be becoming more common and it worries me about the general acceptance of having children when birth rates are already falling

(Nothing against you, it's preference)

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Martineski 10 points a day ago

So what about birth rates? There are too many humans on earth anyway.

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flubba86 6 points a day ago

I see both perspectives.

Before I had kids of my own, I couldn't stand their noise. I was irrationally angered by their behaviour.

But now being a father of 2, I'm totally the opposite. I can listen to kids shriek and screech all day and it doesn't bother me at all. I think it's a biological thing.

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Madzielle 2 points 18 hours ago

Im a parent and it really depends. I still connot stand to hear a baby cry. A child of about 5 or 6 was getting bloodwork absolutely having a meltdown, you could hear very clearly from the waiting room. I was on edge the whole time.

I have more patience for it, more empathy for the parents (just because a child is having a hard time doesnt mean the parents are shit), I still connot stand it though.

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adarza 10 points a day ago

the neighbor's incredibly loud music at all hours of the day and night, more specifically-the subwoofers thumping. it just penetrates your very being and there's no earplugs or noise-cancelling headphones or white noise machines to help with that.

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JoeBigelow 3 points 19 hours ago

CounterBass, take a subwoofer and an audio track of randomly scattered bass throbs. Will ruin their listening experience.

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snoons 9 points a day ago

Road noise; mostly just the constant tyre sound of a busy street. I hate it.

I especially hate extremely loud emotional support vehicles, but those are a passing annoyance compared to the near constant wirr of tyres on dirty asphalt.

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manuremy 8 points 21 hours ago

I love dogs, even had one growing up. But my neighbor has these Lapphunds (he got them for his kid but the kid moved away yeeaars ago and left the dogs with the dad) and he can't handle them. No training, leaves them in the summer heat, don't take them for walks, keeps them loose so they yap and even try to bite people walking by. Not joking, I have almost gotten bitten once and they attacked my late-dog multiple times as well as my friends coming to my house. And those dogs yap constantly, all the time they're outside which is most of the day. Just this constant whining, screaming, howling, yapping and barking. He has told me that he can't get them to behave. Yeah, I'm aware. But they're getting old now so maybe max 3 years and it will be quiet here again..

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Okami_No_Rei 6 points 15 hours ago

Air blowing over my skin is the worst.

Bright lights are bad, but they're nothing compared to having a fan actively moving air across me. I can feel every bit of turbulence and it's so distracting that it makes me want to stab something or tear my own skin off.

Now that it's Summer everyone and their mother at work wants to have a personal fan on their desk or use a shop fan on the floor to keep cool and when I have to work with them it's torture.

I'd rather be hot and just drink more water.

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RememberTheApollo_ 4 points 15 hours ago

It’s ok if you’re really hot.

It’s ok if it’s ambient air moving.

But any other time something blowing directly on you? Nope.

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unemployedclaquer 6 points a day ago

Why so many lamps. I suggest a ratio of giant lamps to tiny rooms that is just: no. No big light!

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Rai 5 points 13 hours ago

Ugh preach. I also hate it when I can see the lightbulb. Put that thing away! This is a REFRACTED LIGHT household.

I’ve recently switched from small lamp to refracted purple light while I’m working and it made life infinitely more comfy.

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unemployedclaquer 3 points 9 hours ago

this is a refracted light household

You write quotable lines in your free time, I see

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Taleya 6 points 14 hours ago

Smells. #1 trigger.

Also how i realised i was asd. Turns out neurotypicals don't get angered by smells

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Rai 3 points 13 hours ago

Smells is like an opposite trigger for me! With some very strong exceptions, I’m extremely smell… oriented? Anything from “Amazing” to just “interesting”. Some smells trigger a flight response though, and my brain says I gotta get away ASAP. Fertilizer/doodoo/stomach acid/most rot/ammonia/the kitchen drain trap goo after they haven’t been cleaned for a long time/mold make me panic a little and I gotta get away from it.

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agamemnonymous 4 points 5 hours ago

Phone calls. The combination of audio compression, noise, and microphone/speaker quality make it extremely frustrating to have phone conversations.

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CrabAndBroom 3 points 7 hours ago

N o t i f i c a t i o n s .

My phone going ping because someone outside of work wants something. Slack going ping because someone at work wants something. Windows going ding because of some bullshit and I'm not allowed to use Linux for work. Some other thing going ping in the distance because it's not connected to the internet, or it is connected to the internet and has an update.

Why did we build this world for ourselves

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underscores 1 point 4 hours ago

ping

I mute all notifications ever and all phone calls on every platform I use.

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Ashenlux 2 points 15 hours ago

Honestly, sometimes lamps annoy me more then an over head light. Lamps are normal about eye level, so they shine directly into my eyes more often. Where as over head light it on the roof, were I don't normally look.

And then there is the issue of actually lighting the room well enough for me to see. Sometimes lamps aren't enough and I can't see what I am doing well enough. Building legos for example. It super hard to see what color piece I am being told to use when the lighting to too dim/far away/too warm. But my ND partner hate over head lights. So I suffer (hyperbolic)

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Meatwagon 2 points 13 hours ago

A cloudless sky on a day I have to go outside does me in.

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tamal3 2 points 11 hours ago

I had a long call with some old friends the other day and was describing how I've been feeling unusually down for the last year or so without knowing why... and they said, hmm, does this have anything to do with how our entire country feels badly right now? And that was my light bulb moment. Not sure why that wasn't obvious to me, but I guess that's what friends are for.

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Digit 1 point 13 hours ago

Lawnmowers, helicopters, vacuum cleaners, hairdryers.

Although, it does not bug me until I'm flinching from the build up of chinese water torture all over on my nerves and I'm flopping around on the floor like I'm being electrocuted, with a full bore panic attack having the universe rapidly collapse on me over and over, possibly crapping myself too. Very unpleasant.

And worst about it, no one will stop, nor even make any accommodation for me, not even like merely shouting "lawnmower" to warn me when it's starting (or better yet, earlier, to let me get mega-dosed up on thiamine & benfotiamine, minerals, b-vits, cbd, ashvagandha, etc, and get noise cancelling headphones (+working batteries), and go to toilet before driving away out of earshot).

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cheese_greater 1 point 20 minutes ago

Try listening to a helicopter sound track extended sometime but with a low pass filter, it is very pleasing you may find

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miked 1 point 12 hours ago

I just turned off the overhead light in our break room. One wall is all windows and it is a sunny day. That's enough light for me.

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Kojichan 1 point 8 hours ago

The loud rumbling of vehicles (typically trucks and larger), the loud booming of a car blasting their music, and power tools like hacks-all, band saws, table saws...

I get irrationally frightened, like I can only shrink down and cover until it's over.

But for irrationally irritated? Other's sadness and frustration. I dont know what's wrong, and I cant fix it. Cat screaming uncontrollably, people "in a mood", crying children that won't stop.

I then get frustrated. "Why won't you eat?" "MEOW!!!!!!"

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