It's not rude. They interrupted your peace at home, no reason to have flowers shooting out your ass as you gently nudge them away from your door.
Slam that motherfucker.
EggInDisguise 33 points 18 days ago
Speculater 19 points 18 days ago
I have 3 no soliciting signs. Lol.
EggInDisguise 7 points 18 days ago
I would start printing off stickers and whenever someone knocks anyway, just grab another one, and stick it directly onto them.
A forehead stamp would be better, but ink might get the cops involved...
Malyca 4 points 17 days ago
I let one in the other day and heard the spiel, she seemed so grateful someone agreed to hear her out. I didn't buy anything but don't mind brightening they're probably shitty day when I have the time.
ApathyTree 4 points 17 days ago
I have one hand-written one, taped to the door, back of an envelope.
No soliciting
No exceptions (underlined)
Along with another set of instructions to deliver packages to the back, indicating I expect goodies if you show up at the back door, and I wont answer the front.
It has made a huge difference because people are taught in solicitation training to assume that no soliciting stickers that look maybe old are potentially from a prior owner and should be disregarded. (I’ve had this training personally and balked at it - I’d never risk bothering someone who explicitly doesn't want to be bothered, even if I'm wrong and they don't care and it was from someone prior) low quality stickers look old after a couple years, you shouldn't have to replace them, but thats why I don't bother with them at all.
chloektboehnchen 33 points 18 days ago
Haven't had too many experiences with men (yet), but 100% of the times I've been hit on by a man in public they were overstepping boundaries and not once was my initial no respected.
chloektboehnchen 19 points 18 days ago
I dont exactly get to choose which type of guy is hitting on me.
Also, please make sure you're following the rules of this community, thank you.
FearMeAndDecay 16 points 17 days ago
Seriously more people need to hear this. And if you're worried about giving out your number to a stranger then it should be obvious that other people would have the same concerns about you. Hence the whole fake phone number thing
EmilieEasie 14 points 18 days ago
In general every "I just women would be honest and blunt with me" type complaint I've ever heard from men I know IRL has come more from a place of trying to increase social pressure on women to go out with men they don't want to go out with and not so much a genuine desire for closure. The more I got to know them, the more increasingly clear that always became to me.
i_dont_want_to 13 points 17 days ago
Accidentally posted before I was ready and deleted it. Oops.
Yes, I agree.
Men can be in danger. Women can be the perpetrators. That is often not the case.
In the case of dating, on average, it is more dangerous to be a woman. Just saying no to a man can end poorly. You cannot always tell who will become violent.
If the man hurts or kills you, you are likely not going to get justice.
Giving out a fake phone number prevents a lot of this.
If your feelings are hurt by getting a fake phone number, I genuinely am sorry. But a life is more important than feelings.
It's really hard to find an equivalent scenario that men can envision. The salesperson one is ok.
I did notice that men on this thread have also (correctly) pointed out it can be dangerous for men encountering door to door salespeople too. It may be illuminating for them to imagine this salesperson and think about what gender the salesperson is likely to be.
Fredselfish 2 points 18 days ago
That's actually good idea. Glad I am out of dating world. But if I ever had to endore that shit again. I just make up business cards with my contact details and use those. Maybe with little about me and yeah give them all the power.
EggInDisguise 9 points 18 days ago
I see nothing suggesting they aren't. No hate, no bigotry, no politics, no anything except someone saying something that supports the above post.
Wren 7 points 18 days ago
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EggInDisguise 6 points 18 days ago
Cool, but that came after your initial comment, for which I saw no rule breaking.
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Wait, people make excuses at the door? I just rudely say no and immediately close the door.
if they have a problem with my rudeness, well, maybe they shouldn't be ringing my doorbell.
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