R/girl dinner diary's is truly horrific.

2 hours ago by mechoman444 to c/offmychest

I don't know how many of you are familiar with this particular sub. There is a male version of it as well, called Dude Dinner Diaries.

I don't spend much time on Reddit, but every now and then I get bored enough to lurk around. I came across this relatively new sub on r/all, and holy shit. I genuinely cannot begin to express how infuriating it is to read some of the advice these women are giving to other women who are dealing with genuinely traumatic, life-changing relationship problems.

And I'm not talking about harmlessly bad advice. I'm talking about advice that could have serious consequences for someone's marriage, family, finances, and entire life. At one point, I saw people essentially encouraging a woman to abandon her husband during a trip to Italy and go stay in a hostel. I was sitting there thinking, what the actual fuck am I reading?

I pointed this out in a comment, and apparently, as a man, the only thing I'm really allowed to contribute to the conversation is emojis and GIFs. Actual text responses from men are specifically held for review.

I honestly find the whole thing infuriating.

Not because I think women shouldn't have a space to talk to other women. They absolutely should. But watching someone come into a community looking for advice during one of the most consequential periods of her life, and then watching a bunch of strangers confidently dispense catastrophically bad relationship advice while my perspective is treated as inherently suspect simply because I'm a man...

Jesus Christ.

I just needed to get that off my chest.

originalucifer 8 points 2 hours ago

crazy, but this was genuinely happening on reddit over a decade ago, prolly longer. i had used reddit since before subs existed.

pick a sub/forum with the same content in almost any context, and the same shit comes up because reddit is unfortunately a reflection of humanity in general, and we are stupid, in general.

careful moderation is the only cure, and you see how impossible that can be when your agenda does not include the general well-being of humans.

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SpruceBringsteen 8 points 2 hours ago

A greater than zero percent of those posts are bots/agents actively sowing discord.

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justsomeguy 6 points an hour ago

Always important to keep this in mind. They got OP to engage with it despite not even being the target audience of the sub because engagement bait works.

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mechoman444 1 point 26 minutes ago

I believe it absolutely.

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mrmaplebar 3 points 33 minutes ago

Yeah, I'm not sure where GirlDinnerDiary and BoyDinnerDiary came from, but it's very Reddit.

Call me cynical but it all feels like another prelude "battle of the sexes" incel red pill culture war stuff to me.

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