How good are you at this?

22 days ago by LadyButterfly she/her to c/autism

I'm pretty lousy

troot 19 points 22 days ago

Oh, I listen. And I forgot after two minutes. What's worse is I can't remember faces either.

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DaddleDew 12 points 22 days ago

I listen, repeat the name a few times in my head. Tell myself that this time I'll remember it. And then I forget anyway.

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SeductiveTortoise 4 points 22 days ago

The daughter of friends was in Japan for six months and when she came back I didn't recognize her face. Not because she changed so much, but because I don't have a large face cache.

Oh, and I have no clue what her name is...

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MimicJar 2 points 22 days ago

Luckily faces I'm excellent at. I can even remember what we discussed. But I have no idea what your name is.

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troot 5 points 22 days ago

When I finally remember the person, I can recall weirdly specific memories like "oh yeah we met 2 years ago, it was a tuesday, you made potato with garlic and wore an orange jacket".

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DavidFriedland 1 point 11 days ago

Me, except happens six days later when I’m trying to capture detail details of a new conversation I’m having with someone else.

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cRazi_man 19 points 22 days ago

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protogen420 3 points 22 days ago

so me

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Whats_your_reasoning 15 points 22 days ago

When I meet someone new, I straight-up say, "I apologize in advance for forgetting your name." It usually gets a chuckle, and an admittance that they'll probably forget my name, too.

Which is great, because then neither of us feels embarrassed when the inevitable moment comes.

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Cityshrimp 1 point 21 days ago

I wish it was this easy. Somehow people I forget the names of all have elephant memories.

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whatsisface 11 points 22 days ago

One must meet me on at least three separate occasions before their name earns a place in my memory.

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Grail 3 points 22 days ago

I think we should only exchange names on the third meeting.

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Janx 10 points 22 days ago

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deacon 8 points 22 days ago

I would absolutely dominate at competitive name-forgetting.

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Dyskolos 5 points 22 days ago

I can trump this:

Remembering your name depends on things I can't even name. E.g. in my direct social vicinity are two people. Really nice, I like them and I do know their names now, after like 2yrs knowing them. But, for the love of any deity, I don't know who got which name. I do remember their faces and they're not like twins.

It makes up for so many embarrassing situations it makes me angry. Like where one of them said hi to me and then I meet the other one. Or not. I don't know. Do I say "hi" now (to the one I met before) and look like a dumb dingdong, or do i ignore the greeting and look like an impolite Dingdong (to the one i haven't met)...

That's all beside the not-easily remembering names at all.

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Signtist 4 points 21 days ago

I listen, but only after I remind myself to really listen this time, by which point they've already finished telling me their name.

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wingnut 1 point 21 days ago

6 or 7 times a say in varying contexts I swear ffs

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danekrae 2 points 22 days ago

I have the same problem.

I've gotten pretty good at using different memory techniques. I can recite pi to 150 decimal places, but it's so hard to remember a name, when you don't listen.

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skribe 2 points 22 days ago

It's not like you're ever going to use their name, anyway.

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daggermoon 1 point 22 days ago

I do that.

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kichae 1 point 11 days ago

LadyButterfly I have a neighbour named "Neighbour Lady". Her dogs are Oats and Bailey. The next neighbours down are the "I think they're a gay couple: Big one", and "I think they're a gay couple: Small one". Then there's "Black Rachel", whose name I can remember because I already know several Rachels, and she's the only African-Canadian one.

There's also "The Guy with the Grey Cap Whose Mailbox is Next to Mine" and "The Guy with the Two Kids Who Lives Three Doors Down" who may or may not be the same guy. I have no way of telling.

I'm a good neighbour.

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