This is literally my current relationship situation, and hey, I'm happy :3
We both look a bit different on the outside, but on the inside...this is us 🩷
Also I won't ever stop wearing this really fucking stupid-looking hoodie. You literally can't make me 😭
Hehe I really love that term. Sometimes it is the only one that fits lol
And yeah, I've definitely seen both sides of that coin and I don't take anyone's feelings personally. I'm just glad that my cuties experience euphoria when I do or say certain things and that I seem to become a safe place for them 🥰
I feel it's because (generally), they like both either way and so their loved one transitioning is like having both cakes and eat it too /lh
Not in a chaser sense, but a genuine sense of "omg, amazing, i get to enjoy both sides from the same person?" and that for a trans person, being pre-transition, they can feel safer knowing chances are in their favour that the other will like them regardless.
Like I've heard tales w/ cishet and trans relationships where it is more of a coinflip -- sometimes they realise they do love them regardless, othertimes they realise, "sorry, i don't swing that way". And that is okay too, as long as it ends on good terms. That goes in general with most relationships and ties: whether they strand or not, having good terms is the big part.
Sure, it can still be the case that it doesn't work out eventually between bi and trans people in a relationship. But that's less likely to be due to the transition itself, and that's kind of relaxing in some way.
(signed, someone who got adopted by a bi person before)
I'm gonna be brutally honest...
I started reading this and got super offended 😂
But then...you know, that actually makes a lot of sense. I think you're right.
My bf once told me "I don't love you as a boy or a girl...I love you as you" and I'm still not sure how to feel about that...but I'm starting to think it was a compliment ♥️
This was months ago. I am DENSE, lol
Hello, bi male friend of yours, here to accept that compliment!
There you are! I was actually really starting to miss you, wondering if I had done something. No, reaching out didn't occur to me 😭
Forgive me for this...I somehow didn't piece together you were bi. It's good to know, tho! Keep being awesome 🩷
Sorry, I got crazy busy all of a sudden. I’ve driven about 1200 miles in the last three days for family obligations. I’m almost home though, so I’ll shoot you a message soon. 🙂
Bi guy here. Why I had to be born in Hungary, where trans rights are scarce, so I can't get myself a cute trans GF? 😢 Now I have to hunt down the few non-bigoted Hungarian cis women (harder than it sounds like, esp. in more remote areas).
I hate that I understand that so fucking much...my country is the same. This is a gross generalization, but the men are conservative (and drunk af), the women are conservative, no one even knows what trans people are, everyone's either knowingly or unknowingly a transphobic prick and I'm depressed from the fact 🥲
The "default" word people use to describe a trans women here is transka. I'm still not quite sure if it's offensive or a slur, but it sure as shit sounds like a slur. I've been called that word before (by my ex-BFF, nonetheless, fuck that guy and his TERF gf) and it definitely didn't feel good...
I fucking hate this country. People are like "Oh, I don't care, I'm tolerant, I don't care about you I only care about my own life." and they go from that to "No I'm not gonna use your preferred pronouns, you fucking t*****, you don't seem like an enough of a woman to me. When I feel that you're ""female enough"", I'll try. You've only been on hormones for a month anyway, it's not like you just turned into a woman."
These are legitimately words aimed at me. I've heard these from him. This was early HRT, a very emotional time. It hurt like hell. And he STILL insisted he wasn't bigoted, that he only "had a differing opinion". God, what an asshole.
Pans can file taxes electronically, bi's can by mail, or in person.
The simple explanation is that bi implies a binarity of gender (men/women) but pan applies to everybody regardless of their physical attributes (you're attracted to a person, whatever physical form they may have)
No; it doesn't. We've been saying this since, at least, the 90s:
Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own. —The Anything That Moves Manifesto, 1990
Bisexuals are attracted to people who have the same gender as their own and those who have a gender different from their own; that's the extent of the two.
The emotional support hoodie is my life.
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I've always felt that bi+ ppl are an especially great match to trans ppl (though any can work) :3
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