Straight men don’t have enough friends—could gay men be the cure?
a year ago by return2ozma to c/news
You can absolutely be straight and have gay sex. A hole is a hole. I've known a few straight men who have done it and still don't seek out men or find them attractive. Conversely, I know gay men who have fucked women and don't actively seek out women to this day.
A circumstantial fuck is just that: you getting your rocks off when given the opportunity. We don't need to be questioning people's identities as if we know other people's minds like our own. That's not our place and we don't need to be prescriptivists.
Imo if you fuck a dude in any way, you lose straight as a title forever and you become at minimum heteroflexible.
Source: Gold Star cishet who wishes to be even slightly gayer cus damn it looks fun
I’ve never been a mushroom fan, but every 5-10 years, I taste them again to see if my tastes have changed, though they never do. Does that mean I do in fact like mushrooms?
Actually scratch that question - it’s not a decision that anyone but the person in question can make. Correcting someone about their orientation is a major overstep.
(I know you weren’t the person who initially did that, I’m just speaking generally)
No, no, he's saying the lesbians give the best BJs...
I don't care who you like to fuck. Can you play Warhammer?
They gays aren't really big into Warhammer, now the furries, they have all that disposable IT money to spend on some respectable units.
Fake. The furry and LGBTQ+ overlap is huge. I was originally gonna say "almost a circle", but that would imply that almost all gay people are furries. So instead, here's my 5-min Joplin 100% scientifically proven graph.
Now show furries in IT, it will have the most overlap with straight and then bi and trans will be the minority.
I was confused at first because I thought you meant LISP the programming language, not lisp the 1990s stereotype.
I don't know anything about warhammer, but I agree to your first sentence. I really don't care how people spend their free time or how they look under their clothing. And I really wished all the people would think this way.
So what I'm hearing is you can't play Warhammer. We'll start you on Kill Team.
I don't know if I'm able to learn this. I'm a nerd, you know?
Bro, the demographics don't matter. Just make friends with the people that you mutually enjoy the company of. If they're not a horrible person, then you should be friends. Expanding the demographics you're willing to accept as friends can only really expand how many people you have as friends. Unless some of your friends have some sort of hatred for some of your other friends.
A partner of mine had many fay male friends. She relayed a story once about one of her gay male friends hanging out with a straight person he was trying to be friends with. She showed me the texts he'd sent her on their hangout and they contained things loke: "what the fuck do straight people like?" and "what the hell are we supposed to talk about?" and "we are just kind of sitting here silently and I feel awkward".
I don't have a point with this anecdote but I always laugh when I think about it.
Good questions. Uhhhhh, some common interests include video games (gay people too), there's sports sometimes. Cars I guess. That's the vague shit at least. I feel like most straight guys have to like at least one of those things. Most have other interests that are more niche. Honestly, fair enough question lol, hope he found a couple out!
Seems like an absolute win
Damn, weren't gay men just teaching us empathy last week thanks to Obama?
I can't wait to see what hetero deficiency the media drops in your lap to fix for us next week.
Thank you so much, and I'm sorry?
Straight men need to wash their assholes more and stop claiming cleaning their butts is gay. Might make more friends that way.
they should try pissing sitting more too
Honestly... overrated unless you are at home and looking to kill time or take a moment to yourself.
I'll take a sauna/bath/sitnpiss on the occasion but the quickie is just easier in most cases and definitely outside the home where you're dealing with public restrooms.
I've done a lot of pissing pre and post op.
Pissing while seated on a toilet sucks if you have a penis.
Penis-havers really should have more access to urinals in residential settings imo, that body configuration is just not built to pee sitting down.
The only man irl I've met who didn't wash his ass because he thought it was gay ... I found out was raped as a child.
The joke isn't funny anymore. The number of men I've met who were raped as children by other men, is a lot higher than I think people realize. It's traumatizing and there isn't support.
I've read one too many r/AITAH where the guy is like this and the woman is like, "he streaks the couch and bed sheets. Should I leave him?"
Honestly I just want friends. I don't care who you are, who you love, how you identify.
Why can't I find other people to sit around, drop acid, and argue about good music?
Hello friend.
Isn’t a decent chunk of San Francisco part of one massive polycule by now, anyway?
How about a n NBC sitcom about a Republican racist asshole who moves to Seattle and makes a ton of friends only to find out they are all gay at the nude bike riding parade?
I remember dat phan did a bit like this:
This neighborhood is so nice.
Everyone is holding hands.
O look a Walmart! wait?
Gay-mart? wtf typo?
W/e
Hey that man stole my.... curtains!?
I just made a gay friend from school and it’s honestly great. Were both gamers and he has a ton of cute girl friends that he has introduced me too lol
In my neck of the woods, that is changing rapidly. Even the strongest "manly men" are beginning to break down their own barriers and starting to express themselves, and it's transcending age groups. The older they are the more resistant they are, but it's spreading quite quickly.
Call me a snowflake, but fuck it, it's not helpful to generalize men this way. From Gen X through Z and kids today men and women are getting the education to speak to each other more open and with clinical "awareness". It takes generational education and you have a political climate activity screeching at them to be hyper masculine or whatever you want to call it.
Statements like this are not helpful and breed resentment.
/End Soapbox
Maybe, but honestly I think they should really just focus on befriending good people that they get along with. Any given straight man may find that in a gay man, but plenty of others will find close friendships in people regardless of gender or orientation.
I don't know what I expected.
People are lonely, everyone could do with a few good friends no matter their sexual orientation. Gay men are people and therefore have people problems, i don't think they have it better or worse in this regard. I personally haven't meet a gay man who has been that much different from other men, so i find this article very odd, or at least built on stereotypes (maybe just me?)
I have a long rant about the loneliness epidemic in me but ill spare everyone. main thing is this isn't as new thing, but that does lite to help and doesn't add value to the conversation.
As a straight, married man, sounds good to me.
I had quite a few gay friends growing up. Was neither here nor there for me. They were my friends.
Are those damn fabulous bastards gonna help rebuild this broken car-centric society?
What the living fuck. My gay friends have always just been normal dudes that like to suck cock. Nothing special about them. They aren’t an enlightened emotionally available class of supermen. They like video games, weed, and sci-fi, that’s why we got along. Common interests, not some unacknowledged desire to broaden our horizons.
This article is 90s gay.
Probably more important to find people you vibe with and like doing the same things you do than to specifically seek out token characters from different demographics.
Also if you're excluding people from being your friend because they're gay, you don't deserve to have friends anyway.
Wait I thought gay sex was the point? Is that not what we’re talking about?
Anyone befriending anyone is always highly subjective.
It comes down to the personality of both sides. Most of the gay guys in my circle of friends throughout the years have been too high strung I think it's just luck of the draw. The gay women in my orbits are more chill. I'm chill so we get a long better.
, many INSECURE straight men/ or "straight" are quite afraid of potentially gay men approaching, even staring in thier direction freaks them out. plus the insecure hypermasculine communites like, gym/bodybuilders are extra homophobic. on some yt videos people who follow some bodybuilders, they are so afraid that they wear masks so people cant potentially hit on them, someone called them out why they are wearing a mask, are they gay? and another comment tried defending them saying they dont want gay people thirsting over him.(you put yourself in public for viewing thats on you)
I'm not reading the article. Are these people all born after the year 2000?
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As a completely straight man myself I find the gays to give the best blowjobs.
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