If you could go back and tell your childhood self something about their future that would improve their childhood, what would it be?

3 years ago by AstralWeekends to c/asklemmy

Shelena 40 points 3 years ago

Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.

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Flannels9658 27 points 3 years ago

She invited you over at 2am cuz she wanted the D you fucking idiot

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gloriousspearfish 22 points 3 years ago

You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.

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DharmaCurious 21 points 3 years ago

Tell Mama to divorce him now. Give her this letter.

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natedog526 17 points 3 years ago

Hit the gym and stay consistent about it. Not only will you feel better about yourself you'll also be able to manage the physical pain you will have a lot better.

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ArmoredThirteen 16 points 3 years ago

"You're trans lul, and don't worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn't give a fuck" Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.

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happyhippo 14 points 3 years ago

Ask that girl out JFC!

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captainlezbian 13 points 3 years ago

You’re trans and mom’s headaches aren’t normal she needs to get them checked out

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makuus 13 points 3 years ago

Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.

They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.

The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.

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Shelena 3 points 3 years ago

I am sorry to hear that. It is not your fault. It is the fault of the bullies who did it and it is the fault of the adults that did not protect you. You were just a child. You cannot be expected to solve something so difficult as bullying all by yourself. Many adults cannot even do that. Apparently, the adults in your environment could not solve it, so how could you be expected to do it?

Regretting it does not help. Regretting it just prolongs the pain. It just keeps the idea alive that it is somehow your own fault and that you had control. You did not have control. However, you do have control now.

If you still feel invisible, do something about it. You do not need to still keep suffering the damage. That is something you actually can do something about now.

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MisterHavoc 2 points 3 years ago

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you are well.

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Squirrel_Patrol 12 points 3 years ago

You're experiencing abuse and it's not normal. You also don't have to put up with your family because they're your family.

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OnopordumAcanthium 11 points 3 years ago
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photonic_sorcerer 7 points 3 years ago

That doesn't mean that things can't be better!

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SouthFresh 4 points 3 years ago

Or worse.

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OnopordumAcanthium 0 points 3 years ago
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malchior 11 points 3 years ago

You'll regret buying Heroes of Might and Magic 3, but you'll soon appreciate its greatness. Also, hold off buying a game called Skyrim until the Anniversary Edition releases.

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Disgusted_Tadpole 11 points 3 years ago

Always take spare batteries for your GameBoy

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Gmork 3 points 3 years ago

The real life changing advice ⬆️

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tacosplease 2 points 3 years ago

Game Gear was the worst for this. 6 batteries gets like 2hrs of play

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loudWaterEnjoyer 11 points 3 years ago

Buy bitcoin and dump all of it at 65k

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s_s 0 points 3 years ago

Ah yeah, just withdraw all the liquidity that is most certainly there...

You have just demonstrated more faith in neolib pretendy dollaridos than I have or will never have.

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loudWaterEnjoyer 2 points 3 years ago

Yes man, try that in a small town amirite

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hoodlem 10 points 3 years ago
  • See a psy doc when you’re a teenager. Your teachers asking “Is everything ok? Is something wrong?” out of the blue are red flags that you need help.
  • When in doubt, forgive others
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leah 8 points 3 years ago

"Those teachers and your fellow students? They're not actually that stupid and you're not crazy. Confront your parents about those standardized tests the school had you take; they're hiding the results from you. You could do so much more if only they'd let you skip some grades, but they don't want you to grow up too fast and think you'll socialize better if you don't skip. You'll be bored and never learn how to actually learn hard subjects if you don't get away from these imbeciles quick. Oh, and you'll develop a condescending tone which drives away every potential friend you could have had if you don't do this. Also, you're trans."

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XEAL 7 points 3 years ago

You have ADHD, fight until you get diagnosed ASAP.

Also, dad is a fucking bully, a liar and a manipulator. Don't trust him.

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EnmaAi22 7 points 3 years ago

Your parents are mentally ill. And you will be too. Ask them.

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NuMetalAlchemist 6 points 3 years ago
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loffiz 6 points 3 years ago

You have generalized anxiety disorder. Learn to handle it. Also, it is very normal and most people are unaware of their psychological issues.

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Stalinwolf 6 points 3 years ago

It's not that hard to lose weight. You don't have to eat only lettuce. You just have to eat less.

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altima_neo 1 point 3 years ago

Not even that, just gotta eat the right things! I can eat a ton of veggies and fill myself up.

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Stalinwolf 1 point 3 years ago

Veggies are great too. I remember when I first started using a calorie counting app, I was blown away at how quickly the weight came off of me, even though I was getting fairly minimal exercise. I went the entirety of my teenage years being fat as hell, basing my idea of weight-loss on having observed my brother years before, running laps around the property, eating salads and other foods I disliked, and sitting in the laundry room with sweats on as though it were a sauna. This deterred me from ever really trying, and unfortunately he was usually the one giving me weight-loss advice.

Didn't find out until my twenties that I could still have the foods I liked, as long as I closely controlled the portion size and/or earned a larger deficit by walking throughout the day. I'm still a rollercoaster of self-control, but I at least remain on the lighter side these days.

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iforgotmyinstance 6 points 3 years ago

Don't go into manual labor.

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andrewta 5 points 3 years ago

Improve the child hood. Not much really.

Help someone else’s childhood. Yeah I’d alert the family to the problem with their dad before the abuse.

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Mrderisant 5 points 3 years ago

College is not for you. I know you are looking forward to it but it will ruin your mental health, land you in massive debt, and lead to a suicide attempt. You won't finish anyway. Join a union and don't work for a place that makes aluminum molds. Do lots of ab workouts and you could avoid a couple of hernias

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cinxin 5 points 3 years ago

It's okay to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Don't let your fear of criticism stop you from trying new things.

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CADmonkey 5 points 3 years ago

When dad gives you advice, do the exact opposite. He's not stupid, the world has just changed so much since he was a kid.

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nawordar 5 points 3 years ago

"You will have a psychotherapy and regret it hard not doing it earlier. School psychologist is not enough. Find a psychotherapist now"

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blkpws 5 points 3 years ago
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StarPupil 4 points 3 years ago

And when to sell them!

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dlspicey 4 points 3 years ago

You won't always be poor so don't worry about money.

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WtfEvenIsExistence 20 points 3 years ago
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Karlos_Cantana 4 points 3 years ago

Don't drink.

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hamburglar26 4 points 3 years ago

The Chuck Taylor All Stars you wore to school are cool, and the douche who made fun of you for not having Nike Airs is a loser. In general, care less about what other people think and be yourself. And finally, join the band or orchestra instead of play football and learn a skill you can take with you for the rest of your life instead of getting your bell wrung for nothing.

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pelicans_plight 4 points 3 years ago

Stay away from sugar, and only eat whole foods, this will make your life tremendously better (at least it did for me), even if you just start today.

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skatrek47 4 points 3 years ago

It’s ok to go to therapy! In fact I encourage it 😁

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waka 4 points 3 years ago

All kinds of Sugar and Starches are alcohol for your body. Keep up with that japanese course. Invest in Crypto hard just like you wanted to but thought it was expensive and risky at the time. Keep crypto, no sell, until a super rich publicly well known guy suddenly invests, then leave crypto days later asap.

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Rocky60 4 points 3 years ago

Say no more often

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shinigamiookamiryuu 4 points 3 years ago

Love your close family more, you will need it.

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M_Reimer 4 points 3 years ago
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Moghul 4 points 3 years ago

There aren't too many things I regret. I'd tell myself to keep my mouth shut in a couple places, don't start drinking coke, maybe buy and sell some bitcoin. But for the most part, there was a lot of good with the bad, and reward from hardship.

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JSens1998 3 points 3 years ago

Enjoy life to the fullest as a kid. Adulthood freaking sucks.

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Duamerthrax 3 points 3 years ago

You don't have a learning disability and you don't belong in the special classes. Don't trust anyone that says it will be fixed the next year and go to a different high school when they say the classes you want are filled.

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s_s 2 points 3 years ago

Don't go to college.

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Elw 2 points 3 years ago

Don't get back together with her and don't fucking stay with her into college. She'll just break up with you, again, at Disney... again.

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Wojwo 2 points 3 years ago

Mormonism isn't true, but she's worth it. (not the girl you think I'm talking about, she dumps you while you're on your mission.)

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Armetron 1 point 3 years ago

Start taking your education seriously because it becomes hell afterwards. Forget about being a mechanical engineer and instead focus on software. Start working as a full stack engineer and transition towards ai afterwards

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DakkaDakka 1 point 3 years ago

Actually do what you want to do. Don't try to please everyone else with your life choices, you're the one who has to live with them.

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Blizzard 1 point 3 years ago
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NorthWestWind -2 points 3 years ago

Please die. Thank you.

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