What's a dead giveaway that someone is a bad person?

3 years ago by TheArstaInventor to c/AskKbin

What would be a good sign coming out of such people?

readbeanicecream 69 points 3 years ago

When they do not return the grocery cart to the cart corral.

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Kerrigor 7 points 3 years ago

I'd say it's conditional. At a certain point, it's on the business themselves. For example, a giant parking lot with one or two cart returns only, in a front corner.

A massive sprawling Walmart parking lot with only one return, and I had to park really far away, and it's super busy and trying to get the cart to the return requires going through multiple rows? I'm a goodie two shoes who will clean up after others, and tries to improve places... but I've got limits with time, effort, and desire to deal with crowds of people in parking lots.

If they have good placement though, then yes, it's absolutely on the individual.

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Alto 14 points 3 years ago

Unless you have a medical reason for not being able to walk to the front to return it, you're still an asshole if you don't.

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CmdrShepard -3 points 3 years ago

Not disagreeing with you here, but just for fun, what would you say about a restaurant asking you to wash your own dishes when you're finished with your meal?

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Alto 11 points 3 years ago

What an outright laughable false equivalency

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idiomaddict 2 points 3 years ago

I’d say, if they make it clear that you don’t need to use their dishes, but if you do, you have to wash them, that you’re an asshole if you don’t wash your dishes afterwards.

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RickRussell_CA 3 points 3 years ago

This is the kind of balanced, nuanced take that will get you absolutely murderlated with downvotes.

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Alto 7 points 3 years ago

"But I have to walk a bit further!" Is not a reason to be an inconsiderate asshole

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TheArstaInventor 4 points 3 years ago

I doubt you can judge someone as bad based off that

EDIT: I'm gonna go with better terms here: Not responsible enough and ignorant, I still don't believe someone can be considered bad as a person for this.

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Coskii 27 points 3 years ago

There are two main reasons you wouldn't return carts to a cart return location:

Fuck them people
My time is worth more than this

At the very least the person is inconsiderate, and worst a complete psychopath. Both are not great signs, and all the ones between are also not positive aspects.

You'd think something that small wouldn't be much of an indication on a person's overall nature, but it's nearly always the little things that add up to the whole thing.

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Maeve 10 points 3 years ago

Yes. How one thinks of/treats hired help is a big clue.

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TheArstaInventor 2 points 3 years ago

I understand where you are coming from, but most people who do this at times are more likely just ignorant than even "fuck them people". In-fact, the walmart near me has a guy waiting outside along with the security most of the time to collect carts once the store closes, so many people are like "he is going to collect all the leftover carts anyways".

Especially for those who have parked their cars a bit away, I really doubt such people are going to return all the way just to put a cart on the cart return location, rather than just putting the car on the side and just take off with their car.

To make things worse, there are staff on stores often these days that organize and collect leftover carts, so it's been a while since I have seen a good chunk of people return their carts to their return location, especially from parking lots, unless they are close to that return spot.

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Coskii 16 points 3 years ago

Most if not all big box stores have cart corrals out in their parking lots where you are meant to return the carts so that they can be collected more efficiently without having some employee run all over collecting carts. Andtheres the matter of run away carts especially if it's a windy day. Those carts can really get moving and cause some damage to cars parked out in the lot. No one is saying to take them back to the entrance of the store, simply to put them in the collection point so they don't wander.

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Wookie 15 points 3 years ago

OP doesn’t put his cart back! Shame!

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TheArstaInventor 1 point 3 years ago

Wow, arguing another perspective (with a valid arguement) made me a victim, RIP

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Alto 9 points 3 years ago

There's two possible scenarios

you think your time is more valuable than others, thus making you an asshole
you simply don't give a fuck about inconveniencing others, again making you an asshole

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Taleya 8 points 3 years ago

It's actually a great indicator as to their view of the social contract and obligations to others.

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BaroqueInMind 7 points 3 years ago

Someone sounds like they are projecting...

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LinkOpensChest_wav 7 points 3 years ago

Cart Narcs demonstrates that you can lol

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TheArstaInventor 1 point 3 years ago

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sin_free_for_00_days 2 points 3 years ago

I find the people who judge others based on cart return status are the real assholes.

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snooggums 22 points 3 years ago

Just put your cart back already.

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sin_free_for_00_days 3 points 3 years ago

I had this discussion on here a week or so ago. I guess I'm just lucky enough to live somewhere where the summers are mid 80s and the winters are high 50s. My three friends who got jobs at the local Target all said that the best part of their day was collecting carts.

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TheArstaInventor 1 point 3 years ago

I do when I can! (although lately I have been doing a lot of grocery shopping online)

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TheArstaInventor 1 point 3 years ago

Yeah I mean, I have seen people do that countless times at the walmart near my house for example, I feel like that's just calling a very high portion of the population to be bad people unfairly.

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harmonea 40 points 3 years ago

Okay but....

There's really no reason not to unless you just give zero shits about the damage a loose cart can do.

That's exactly the kind of sign you want: it's a person who thinks "it won't affect me because I'm leaving, so it's not my problem."

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theinspectorst 4 points 3 years ago

I rarely see that and I definitely judge people when I do see it. Maybe you just live somewhere where anti-social behaviour is normalised?

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YeetPics 1 point 3 years ago

I mean.. you asked people for red flags that someone is a bad person, not 'what actions make someone a bad person'.

I think they're right and Cart Narc did all the field research for us.

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noughtnaut 2 points 3 years ago

This is such a strange phenomenon to me. In all the countries I've lived in, all but a few select stores have a dongle on each cart that takes a coin to unlock it from the chain of other carts. It's perhaps the cost of a back of toilet paper, but that seems to be sufficient for it to be exceedingly rare to see an abandoned cart. One can only imagine that any such carts are quick prey for enterprising teens looking for a quick boost to their candy fund.

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Hafler 1 point 3 years ago

Oh man. I live not too far from a Walmart (about 3 miles by car, but 1 by foot with shortcuts). Recently, someone in my neighborhood has started walking to Walmart, filling their cart, then just bringing the cart home with them and abandoning it on the access road in our neighborhood. We are 6 carts deep and my anger towards the perpetrator grows every day.

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EndOfLine 31 points 3 years ago

"You can easily judge a person's character by how they treats those who can do nothing for them."

... or something really close to that. I'm too lazy to look up the actual quote right now.

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LinkOpensChest_wav 28 points 3 years ago

Mean to animals

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NotAPenguin 1 point 3 years ago

Reminder that eating animals is unnecessary and cruel

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Narrrz 2 points 3 years ago

don't worry, people don't eat penguins except in extreme circumstances. even if you were a penguin, you'd be pretty much safe.

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celeste 23 points 3 years ago

If they're mean to waiters, cashiers, janitors, etc.

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Maeve 8 points 3 years ago

Additionally, whether they think someone has money, influential friends, etc determines whether or not they treat a person well.

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CorrodedCranium 17 points 3 years ago

Being unable to admit they are wrong or don't know something. I feel like it's one of those traits that snowballs into someone coming off as obnoxious and elitist

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detun3d 16 points 3 years ago

Everyone can be a friend when it's easy and convenient. It's during the bad times, when they suffer and it's not so easy to keep cool, that their true values or lack of come to light.

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TheArstaInventor 3 points 3 years ago

Haha yup, that's when the true color comes out!

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TheaoneAndOnly27 16 points 3 years ago

God, reading all these comments while baked in a hammock was a trip. I highly recommend the cart saga.

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RestlessNotions 13 points 3 years ago

Animals don't like them.

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RickRussell_CA 7 points 3 years ago

My special needs kid is terrified of pets. And they react in kind -- animals that are sweet toward a smiling, calm person will lose it in his presence.

Is anybody "bad" here? This seems like the worst kind of judgment based on initial appearances, rather than understanding.

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TheArstaInventor 6 points 3 years ago

Haha this can be a good one, especially dogs, they are great at sensing people. But they are living things too, and they can be wrong as well. Also sometimes we could misunderstand them, maybe it's not that they don't like someone, maybe they are hesitant towards new people because of a bad history with humans until the dog met it's current owner. A lot could be applied.

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RestlessNotions 1 point 3 years ago

Absolutely. I was thinking of my own experiences where I saw animals I knew react very negatively meeting someone I didn't. In one instance, the guy later turned out to be abusive, in another, dude was a rapist.

But it certainly isn't a universal truth.

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lol3droflxp 5 points 3 years ago

Hitler is a good guy then?

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TheArstaInventor 2 points 3 years ago

LOL

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TheArstaInventor 10 points 3 years ago

I'd say it's when they get angry when you tell them the impact their behavior is having on you, instead of actually trying to have a discussion and sort the problem out.

Or they get angry with you for enforcing your boundries.

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ApathyTree 6 points 3 years ago

Or they gaslight you about your boundaries..

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Zak8022 5 points 3 years ago

My personal favorite is when they gaslight you about whose “fault” it was. Failing to recognize that boundaries were only enforced because of decisions they made.

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ApathyTree 2 points 3 years ago

“I didn’t even know I had this boundary until I met you so, yeah, it’s not my fault this is happening…”

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donuts 10 points 3 years ago

Not to bring Trump into everything, but yeah... Trump supporters. Bonus level of shittiness if they have a maga hat.

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bjg13 9 points 3 years ago

Literal blood on their hands, bodies falling out of their ceilings and closets, and/or being a billionaire.

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Hyacathusarullistad 5 points 3 years ago

"I call them how I see them."

"I'm just brutally honest."

"I'm just telling it like it is."

These phrases are used exclusively by rude, obnoxious, condescending assholes trying to justify being shitty to other people for no reason.

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Eggyhead 5 points 3 years ago

Folks who opt not to clean up after their dogs. Particularly in public areas.

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mrnotoriousman 2 points 3 years ago

I can't stand this. Nobody wants dog shit on their lawn. If I can pick up big piles of shit from my dog you can too.

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PeepinGoodArgs 4 points 3 years ago

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Drusas 4 points 3 years ago

They don't like animals.

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Texas_Hangover 1 point 3 years ago

What kind of animals? I'm not crazy about badgers.

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Narrrz 3 points 3 years ago

good god, and you feel like you can just admit that for everyone to see?

classic example of Internet anonymity making people feel they no longer need to follow social norms.

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Drusas 2 points 3 years ago

I'm usually against emoji as a comment, but: 😂

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Drusas 1 point 3 years ago

I'll allow an exception or two, as long as it's not dogs (unless the person has had a negative interaction with dogs).

Edit: Badgers are adorable and I can't imagine what kind of nuisance they are as someone who lives in the US. Maybe like a groundhog? They're kind of cute but so destructive.

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xc2215x 2 points 3 years ago

Extreme racism.

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russjr08 2 points 3 years ago

When their opinions are... very extreme.

Earlier today, someone told me that they'd wish someone were no longer living if they mentioned liking a certain type of pizza. It definitely wasn't said in a joking tone either (not that I'd really want to be around someone who made that type of "joke" in the first place) - that was a pretty obvious indicator that they were a bad person in my book.

It was done under the guise of "I don't like to sugarcoat things" 🙄

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roofuskit 2 points 3 years ago

An unwillingness to admit fault, and/or learn from one's mistakes. It's the biggest and reddest of red flags.

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the_q 2 points 3 years ago

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Senex 1 point 3 years ago

How they treat their waitress at a restaurant. Big red flag.

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kaden_99 1 point 3 years ago

People who constantly ask for favors.

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