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5 days ago by VetOfTheSeas to c/adhd

orca 71 points 5 days ago

Quits job and retires early

“You told me to avoid stress…”

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prole 46 points 5 days ago

Until your meager savings runs out and now the stress level is 100x what it was before

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y0kai 52 points 5 days ago

lol y'all have savings?

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queueBenSis 16 points 5 days ago

not for long at this rate

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idiomaddict 10 points 5 days ago

What do you think the pennies in the jar are for?

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Whats_your_reasoning 5 points 5 days ago

To punish myself for swearing too much

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Gerudo 5 points 5 days ago

Hey, copper prices are going up, that's an investment!

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jim_v 3 points 4 days ago

I am too garsh darned broke to friggin' swear.

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some_kind_of_guy 2 points 4 days ago

Entertainment budget. Every day I walk down to the tracks, retrieve the smushed penny from yesterday, admire it for a moment and set another one on the rails

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orca 6 points 5 days ago

Definitely not enough at this rate.

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irotsoma 1 point 3 days ago

Who has savings, most of us just have debt.

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Lushed_Lungfish 52 points 5 days ago

I love all these YouTube videos, health gurus and influencers encouraging me to sleep a full eight hours.

Y'all motherfuckers have never had children, have you?

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blimthepixie 32 points 5 days ago

Or worked hospitality. These fuckers have never done an AFD or a clopen

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MonkeMischief 11 points 4 days ago

Love the word "clopen". It's a terrible word and it gets the point across perfectly.

You don't even get to finish "close" before you're already opening. There's no hyphen or breath time in-between.

It's all just mashed together, rushed, and stressful, just like the shift it describes.

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UnderpantsWeevil 20 points 5 days ago

Christ. My son has a cough, and he crawled up into our bed last night. Spent hours coughing directly into my ear, slapping me with flailing hands, and crying for milk (which he then rejected after it was offered).

I am in an absolute haze this morning.

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binarytobis 11 points 5 days ago

That’s rough, buddy.

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NottaLottaOcelot 3 points 4 days ago

It gets better. The early years are so exhausting that it’s hard to function. It so often feels like you’re talking to a wall and repeating yourself every day. And then little by little, they start to parrot your saying and mannerisms (which is frankly, hilarious). Be kind to yourself while you’re in the trenches, it will get better and every year will be easier than the one before

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UnderpantsWeevil 1 point 4 days ago

Oh no doubt. We've got friends with older kids and we're getting a bunch of hot tips about what comes next - some good, some bad.

One of my friends swears the best day in a parent's life is the day you change the last diaper. But the second best is the day your kids beat you at chess.

So I've got a lot to look forward to

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NigelFrobisher 7 points 4 days ago

Why would you have children if you wanted to sleep ever again?

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Lushed_Lungfish 1 point 3 days ago

Because sex is fun, birth control is not always perfect, my wife did not wish an abortion and I respect her bodily autonomy.

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bridgeburner -3 points 5 days ago

I mean that's totally on you. Like it's so obvious beforehand that u are not gonna get a lot of sleep once u have children. People nowadays really don't think things through, do they.

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sheogorath 4 points 4 days ago

The name fits your attitude perfectly :D

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ExcessShiv -8 points 5 days ago

Go to bed at 9PM, that should work out to around 8h even with kids getting up early and a few interruptions during the night. That worked for us at least when the kids were still infants/toddlers.

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Whats_your_reasoning 8 points 5 days ago

Not all kids sleep a regular schedule, despite their parents’ best efforts. I work with neurodivergent kids and every day there’s inevitably some kid who woke up at 4am, or didn’t fall asleep until midnight, or both.

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ExcessShiv 5 points 5 days ago

No if course they don't, neither did ours (youngest still doesn't consistently at 7yo)...both our kids are ND. Key for us is division of responsibilities. One has them in the evening/night, the other takes mornings. Switch around however it fits your everyday schedule requirements. One can covee afternoons if adult naps are needed as well.

This still allows for pretty consistently getting a decent amount of sleep. If you're a single parent, then yeah it's fucked.

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Gormadt 4 points 4 days ago

My niece and nephew have perfectly regular sleep schedules. As in their sleep schedules are super consistent.

Is it "regular" like "regular people have it"? Fuck no!

But their schedule is like clockwork with it's regularity.

Wake up at 4am, full of energy until 4pm, unconscious until 8pm, wide awake until midnight, asleep until 4am, repeat. They're 10 now and I really hope they get a job someday that let's them keep that kind of schedule because it works so well for them.

EDIT: I should clarify though that their schedule is almost perfectly at odds with my brother's (their dad) schedule.

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cheers_queers 4 points 4 days ago

what about people on 2nd or 3rd shift

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ExcessShiv 2 points 4 days ago

I dont think I've ever heard of 2nd and 3rd shift, Pippin

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a_jeering_serpent 42 points 4 days ago

Being stressed out by the world is unhealthy. Withdrawing from reality to avoid that stress is also unhealthy. The fuck am I supposed to do move to another planet? In this economy?

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nullspace 10 points 4 days ago

"Avoid stress" is code for don't worry about things you have no control over.

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faintwhenfree 13 points 4 days ago

Where to get my next meal, is something I don't always have control over. Unfortunately it's also not something I can stop worrying about.

Edit: made it clear that my situation is much better now, but it wasn't always.

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nullspace -11 points 4 days ago

Huh? Where and what you eat is absolutely something you have control over. A war in Iran raising prices on food is not something you have control over.

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faintwhenfree 11 points 4 days ago

Oh yeah? I'm jealous you never had to worry about what job to do in the economy that will feed me. I had few months where I was going door to door, hoping someone wants their lawn mowed or windows washed so I can eat that night. And I'd say I'm privileged ones because I knew this kind man who was willing to lend me his tools to mow and to clean windows. I'm lucky because I got a scholarship for tuition for university and I don't have to worry about what to eat anymore.

But for the few months I relied only on window washing and lawn moving, I remember I at least had 4-5 days where despite going through 100s of houses, no one needing the services. But Please tell me how absolute of a control I had about what I eat with 0 earnings in that day and my networth being essentially 0. I guess absolute control I had was starve.

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bequirtle 10 points 4 days ago

Thinking I have no control over things feels defeatist

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Lyrac 7 points 4 days ago

You can control things, just not everything.

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bequirtle 5 points 4 days ago

Well yea. My point is, there is very little you have "no control" over; and "things I can influence" is where stress comes from

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exasperation 5 points 4 days ago

Y'all have never been to court ordered alcoholics anonymous meetings and it shows.

Reinhold Niebuhr wrote the first known version of the Serenity Prayer, and it's been through a few revisions just by popular word of mouth or even literal Hallmark greeting cards, but the version they say at AA meetings is:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

The basic principle can be decoupled from the religious origins and still be a useful approach to life. Learn not to stress about the things not in your control, while still taking control of the influence you do have.

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Ensign_Crab 3 points 4 days ago

don’t worry about things you have no control over.

Is code for "just don't have anxiety or burnout! It's easy!"

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ironycanal 1 point 3 days ago

Maybe you not liking the taste of boot is some kind of mental illness? Or maybe you just need more drugs. No I will jot prescribe them. Yes I will judge you.

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a_jeering_serpent 0 points 4 days ago

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OleFoFa 2 points 4 days ago

I suppose drugs? The doctors have a lot of those. Though those drugs make the Sacklers a loooot of money and ruin people's lives. So I suppose one can choose artisinal life-wrecking (by a guy named Kevyn who made the drugs himself at home in his trailer, or the industrailzed version. But that's the US I suppose, not being from there I just take a stroll in the woods and feel fine

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tigeruppercut 41 points 5 days ago

Who wants to be decorative anyway?

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Dojan 5 points 5 days ago

Gollum with his bros.

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JargonWagon 4 points 4 days ago

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Chais 38 points 5 days ago

Gargoyles are water features. So unless you want to be installed at the end of a gutter and vomit water, I recommend becoming a grotesque instead.

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BradleyUffner 29 points 5 days ago

Ok, wow, this just made me realize that "gargle" and "gargoyle" share the same "mouth/throat water" origin. Mind blown.

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smeenz 5 points 4 days ago

And the Spanish word for throat is garganta

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HerbalGamer 5 points 4 days ago

AND YOUR MOM IS GARGANTUOUS

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TheLowestStone 20 points 5 days ago

One of my favorite fun facts is that the proper name for a Gothic grotesque that is purely decorative is hunky punk

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EldritchFeminity 1 point 3 days ago

Oh, so Kirk was the new college gargoyle, not just grotesque. Now I get it!

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Blackmist 21 points 4 days ago

Don't let your dreams be dreams.

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MyTurtleSwimsUpsideDown 21 points 5 days ago

Sadly. No one wants to hire a hermit to live in their garden these days.

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A404 20 points 4 days ago

I would love to unsubscribe from the economy

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LuminousLuddite 1 point 4 days ago

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sundray 16 points 5 days ago

Patient: "Uh, there are systemic reasons I can't avoid stress, doc."

Doctor: (Dusts off hands) "Well, my job is done here!"

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saltnotsugar 13 points 5 days ago

Just move to Stardew Valley bro.

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Eternal192 12 points 5 days ago

The only way for me to avoid stress would be suicide and even then there would probably be some cunt in the afterlife like "nah, nah, nah no rest yet, because you are here early you have to work off the remaining years you should have been alive and then we'll talk about interests, oh wait that's kinda like it is now...

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AmyAye 5 points 4 days ago

Stress of dissappointing people who may care.

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Whats_your_reasoning 3 points 5 days ago

With a username like that, your worries are completely reasonable.

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PrimeMinisterKeyes 11 points 5 days ago

Grotesque

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skittle07crusher 1 point 8 hours ago

What is this? Mulder from the X-Files?

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ZILtoid1991 6 points 4 days ago

Same doctors also started to call teeth "cosmetic only" once they realized they could make a shitton of money from the organs people use to eat.

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nul9o9 5 points 5 days ago

I dissociate via video games. Shapez2 has gotten it's hooks in me.

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fubbernuckin 2 points 3 days ago

Also thank God for indie + AA games and GOG + itch. Gaming can get pretty predatory but at least there are some places still where new games come up that aren't using every engagement technique to bleed you dry.

I've been really enjoying rain world and just getting to be a little guy running around and dying a lot.

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endless_nameless 4 points 5 days ago

She could try not doomscrolling and blasting herself with horrible news and opinions from crazy people on social media for a start

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InfiniteStruggle 12 points 5 days ago

Reminder that every sizable company in the attention economy retains amongst its employees individuals who have the academic and professional background to fine tune their systems to make and keep a vice grip on the attention of it's users/victims, regardless of the negative effects it has on the micro level for an individual victim, or the macro level on society as a whole.

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MonkeMischief 10 points 5 days ago

On top of that, most of us only get meaningful substantial social interaction at work, if that.

Just "quitting all social media" is tougher than it sounds because deep down humans want to interact with each other, but we often can't! And aside from algorithms, lots of stuff sucks right now, so that's what people are talking about. And that's before we bring algorithms into the equation.

The Internet used to be this wonderful place to reach out and meet other human beings from anywhere, and make friends, and share, and be connected to those other people without being stuck in 100°F heat and traffic or airlines. It was a digital "third place" for humanity to hang out.

And now the main 'net is an unholy, ravenous corporate homunculus that wears the skin of that third place.

We're still mostly physically isolated from the rest of our species unless it's an unpleasant obligation, but the "people" are harder to find amongst all the shapeshifting shills, ads, propagandists, and most of all, bots.

Lemmy has none of those algorithms, and a lot of the articles and posts bum me the heck out, badly, but I still feel the urge to visit because outside of work and my overworked family and busy friends on wacky schedules, I too, am isolated.

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VeganCheesecake 3 points 5 days ago

Did that for a while, cause I had no choice. Very little stress, for a bit. Till the money starts running out.

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NocturnalMorning 3 points 5 days ago

Quit my job and moved to the woods and a survival for dummies book.

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MyTurtleSwimsUpsideDown 1 point 5 days ago

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skittle07crusher 1 point 8 hours ago

Perhaps “goblin mode” is a viable option?

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Impractical_Island 1 point 5 days ago

What's stopping you?

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plantfanatic -1 points 5 days ago

They mean dont do high stress hobbies, like maybe don’t race cars, don’t play competitive sports, stuff like that.

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webghost0101 32 points 5 days ago

Ah yes, keep doing the things that are causing you massive chronic stress but please stop doing that one fun activity your using to charge your batteries cause your hearthrate might go up from it and we cant have you waste your remaining health on something that is not economically useful.

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plantfanatic -15 points 5 days ago

You can choose an adjacent hobby without the same stress level, that’s a choice. Instead of doing basketball tournaments, plays some beer league, or just shoot some hoops. There’s always options.

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webghost0101 16 points 5 days ago

I mean i was just making a relatable joke for people who know what its like to struggle mentally, this wasn’t an issue that needs solving, but if you cant relate then honestly that is great for you.

My partner has been looking for a hobby that does not burn them out for over half their life that is not “sleeping till next shift”.

Most of these generic kind of suggestion all amount to “have you tried to just not having problems?”

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Simon_Shitewood 11 points 5 days ago

The point isn't the stress level of the hobby, it's that you're expected to drop your hobbies to manage your stress, not your much more stressful job.

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MonkeMischief 10 points 4 days ago

That always bothered the heck out of me. Healthwise, jobs are basically society-mandated cigarettes with a ton of "virtue" on the packaging.

Toxic friends? "Leave them! They're so bad for you!"
Addiction? "Quit that. It's so bad for you!"
Chair all day? "Get away from that, go get some fresh air!"
Terrible job? "Woah woah...let's not be hasty. Do you have another terrible job lined up to take its place?"

But yes, you have a hobby that makes you feel alive but doesn't pay money? Here comes the lecture about "being an adult means..." and "Sometimes you need to make room for important things."

It's no surprise of course. Human success and happiness is not something our socioeconomic systems strive for, in the eons-long game of competing empires. 🙄

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Jax 4 points 5 days ago

I hate to break it to you man, but the point of life isn't work.

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plantfanatic 1 point 4 days ago

How the hell did you get that from my comment?

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Impractical_Island 1 point 5 days ago

I couldn't be a juggler because, uh, well I have an impediment, but I turned that into my educational art project where I can teach behind a screen and not, uh, not have that impediment.

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RamenJunkie 5 points 5 days ago

I mean, with the cost of everything, all Hobbies are high stress.

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Whats_your_reasoning 5 points 5 days ago

Foraging is a good, low-stress hobby that costs nothing. You get to be out in nature and score free food. Bonus points if the plant you forage for is invasive - then you’re helping the environment, too!

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MonkeMischief 2 points 4 days ago

Bonus points if the plant you forage for is invasive - then you’re helping the environment, too!

And you can spice things up by calling it "botanical bounty hunting." :D

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rhymeswithduck 5 points 5 days ago

But I never have done anything like that? That's like saying just quit smoking to someone who's never smoked. The stress is just from being alive.

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plantfanatic -3 points 5 days ago

How are they to know that? It’s general advice for everyone lol.

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minorkeys -1 points 5 days ago

Their job is to give you the answers not figure out how to integrate them into your life, know if it's possible or how much sacrifice it takes you. Or maybe that's just my experience with doctors, I am poor afterall.

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