What's the best reason you've ever heard?

3 days ago by Lady Butterfly she/her to c/microblogmemes

Gloomy 60 points 3 days ago

A friend of mine used to cancel appointments a lot. A common friend of ours got really pissed about having their appointments canceled repetedly, often very late or last minute. Their friendship broke over it, tough it was only the last staw.

Appointments i had with my friend got canceled too a lot. I spoke about it with her and it turned out that she was having mental health issues and just didn't find the curage to be open about it. So we talked it over and now the agreement is that i always treat plans we make as optional. A cancelation is expected and never a big deal, i'll always have a backup plan ready.

I guess what i'm saying is, don't think it nececarily has to be about a person not wanting to meet with you, sometimes they just can't. And that is fine.

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MoffKalast 29 points 3 days ago

Communication? In my friendship? It's less likely than you think!

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Viking_Hippie -1 points 3 days ago

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laranis 8 points 3 days ago

You're a good friend and compassionate human being. Honestly, more energy than I would probably have invested but I respect the hell out of you for it.

#belikeGloomy

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Viceversa -1 points 3 days ago

sometimes they just can't. And that is fine.

No, it's not fine.
Even if it's because of their mental problems - it still hurts and rightfully depletes your initiative to make shared plans.

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kazerniel 7 points 3 days ago

Yeah, it just makes me not want to make plans with that person. And I say that as someone who struggled with depression and anxiety. We all have limited budgets for emotional work, and there is a level of flakiness where I just don't feel like trying to be friends with the person is worth the effort.

If they are at a close enough friendship where that sort of open, honest communication as Gloomy suggested can work, good, but from personal experience, trying to develop a new friendship with such a person can just be too hard when they don't communicate, so I don't know if their lack of engagement is from lack of interest or something else.

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GiveOver 5 points 3 days ago

Yeah I hate this expectation that I have to be completely ok with "friends" avoiding me and cancelling plans. I'm not ok with it, it sucks, and if you keep doing it I'll find new friends.

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NocturnalMorning -5 points 3 days ago

I'm glad your mental health is fine.

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prettybunnys 5 points 3 days ago

This is where your choice to associate with people comes in to play!

If people hurt you and you’re not able to empathize with them or give them grace then resentment is inbound and that’s a relationship neither of you need!

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Viceversa 1 point 3 days ago

It wasn't fine even in the OP situation. That's why they had to look for a solution.

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prettybunnys 4 points 3 days ago

This is where I exercise the free will I’m trying to tell you about

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Bonje 47 points 3 days ago

Very valid tbh This entire uprooted tree happened recently in my area

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Gormadt 21 points 3 days ago

"Sorry can't go to the movie, it's perfect kite weather! I'm going to the park and I'd for for you to join me!"

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FinjaminPoach 5 points 3 days ago

I uaed to love kites as a kid, never got enough time to play with them. Definit3ly relate

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Grail 5 points 3 days ago

You should go get a kite and fly it today.

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Viceversa 1 point 3 days ago

Or get an edible - as a substitute.

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prettybunnys 3 points 3 days ago

What if I told you that you could do both, at the same time.

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FinjaminPoach 1 point 3 days ago

Lol. Childish whimsy to brownie addiction pipeline

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Viceversa 3 points 3 days ago

Your keyboard is tied to a kite, by the looks of it!

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Catoblepas 17 points 3 days ago

I realized my husband and I had truly become southern Californian when we considered canceling plans over “rain” (0.1” over the day).

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A_norny_mousse 11 points 3 days ago

My new home is in the Nordics, and first snow barely impacts traffic. Trains and buses are on time. It always makes me chuckle with schadenfreude because my old home was and still is the opposite: snow = chaos. Accidents, ridiculous delays, traffic jams...

Canceling "because it snowed" would not be a good excuse here. Unless you're a plow operator.

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Viking_Hippie 11 points 3 days ago

On the flipside, the moment the temperature climbs over 30°C, we're all melting!

Sincerely, Dane barely keeping it together in 24° 😁

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chefdano3 3 points 3 days ago

Dude, it's 27° here in New England and I'm dying. I feel ya. I was born for the cold.

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Viking_Hippie 2 points 3 days ago

It's now climbed to 29 here and I'm sweat fountain whenever I leave the area of my floor fan for more than a minute 🥵😄

I too am built for the cold, quite literally!

I'm trying hard to bike away most of the seal blubber, though 😁

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prettybunnys 10 points 3 days ago

I asked Mr. Bunnys to bring my water bottle upstairs and he said no, he had more important things to do.

Usually he isn’t so curt so I knew something was up and “angrily” demanded he show what was more important…

Anyways. He was right.

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FinjaminPoach 5 points 3 days ago

/> steph doesn't mention the plans were sky diving or bungee jumping

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garbagehead 4 points 3 days ago

As a road cyclist, that makes complete sense.

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