I had to zoom in on my phone just to be able to read that!

When you're actually using the app instead of having the compression artifacts of being screenshot several times, it's not as bad.

People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you'll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they've lost their chance. It's a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn't know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she'll drop it.

Or he might just be an idiot.

Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.

Nah it's one of those things where some guys just prefer to talk about what they think matters to everyone, their job or financial conditions, music or other personal stuff might just be an extra on their minds

The last four songs I've listened to on YouTube are three pirate shanties and "We Know The Way" from the Moana soundtrack. I'm not answering this question either. :)

I didn’t even know it was humanly possible to not like music at all. What were they like? Like their personalities? Did they seem sociopathic or were they generally “normal”?

early shakira songs in spanish are the bomb though, look up her mtv unplugged album

Yeah this is like the people who would answer “radio” back in the day, when asked what their favourite music was ._.

I used to share my music taste quite openly but these days not so much. Sharing stuff just gives some people more ammo to shoot you with when they want to try hold shit over your head

Incidentally I just tried banana soylent and it’s pretty good.

I passed this post like 5 times before I read it for this reason

It’s from bumble. That’s their colors

seriously. I'd be doomed to die alone if i hadn't met my wife in college. thank god my friends decided to set us up on a blind date because we had the same birthday and they thought it was funny

I am also happy that my marriage was arranged.

I found my spouse through a dating app, but we matched up really well since neither of us like this kind of shitty small talk.

If I were that lady I'd boot the hell outta that dude, such a prick.

It can work. I used a dating website (pre smartphone) and I just put in a photo of myself sitting at my computer and a list of bands and movies I liked. My wife approved and asked me out on a date.

If you're talking about Ken Ashcorp's "Absolute Territory", that song goes super hard. Just don't pay attention to the lyrics, lol.

haha yeah that song

do you uh happen to have a link

nono, I want to watch it ironically, my interest absolutely wasn't piqued by "anime thighs"

This is not a comment on you, but I do the same thing and have come to realize it's at least in part a response to being judged in some way (or feeling judged at least) over things I shared with my family, so now I just don't share.

If it's important to you, it might be worth having a conversation about why they are withholding and, if it's for similar reasons, addressing why they feel that way and assuring them you'll do your best to keep them from feeling bad about sharing.

Music and entertainment tastes in general tend to be quite personal, so it's probably a bit of insecurity. He'll get over it, just explain that it's not a test, you're just chatting. Maybe share some of yours first or something

It's really weird to me. As a teen I loved telling the world what I was listening because it was obviously the best thing on earth, man.

Cuz kids don't like having their parents asking questions about their life... how is that even surprising to you? It's ok to ask but if they aren't forthcoming you can't just say it's stupid. That's how you get a kid to start doing things secretly.

If he don't want to tell you then don't ask. It can be really annoying.

"You can't trust people. People like Coldplay and voted for the Nazis"

What's wrong with coldplay

It was all yellow.

What I wouldn't give to see Patrick Bateman hacking Jared Leto to death while ranting about Coldplay.

Ugh, also u2

Lmao, this is indeed a red flag, stay the fuck back haha

That's a flag I'd fly any day

GOTTA GET DOWN ON FRIDAY

I mean really, who isn't looking forward to the weekend, weekend

Sick reference, I hadn't thought of that song in years. She was bullied and harassed endlessly over it. Turns out it was just a relatively well produced amateur music video she did with her friends one day for fun. I always thought it was a poorly produced professional song/video being force fed to us. Felt real bad when I found that out, poor kid hope she's doing alright.

Laaame

His*

Lol it's interesting how a negative person in a conversation in text is often instantly assumed to be a woman's voice

Just lie then, what's the point of acting like this

But how did you find out you have different tastes without first ever sharing your music tastes

That's the perfect moment to know if someone will ridicule you for your music choices. If it happens, you stop the conversation right there and save yourself the trouble of a awful first date.

Well, even saying that you can't remember the song because you snorted cocaine out of your adult diaper is better than being a jerk.

Even if that’s the reason, still, come on

I've had a girl straight up say to me in my car, "your music sucks, can I put mine on?" And I still wouldn't act this way

So, if your wife asked as to whatever song your listening to is, you would react this way?

People don't respect the Colgate Comedy Hour anymore, this is why we don't have genius like Paul Bufano or Roy Donkins anymore. Her music collection must be all meat and potatoes.

My musical taste is cringe and my spouse has known it since we started dating years ago. Never felt the need to hide it from them. Good partners can respect each other's preferences, so there's zero need to hide what you enjoy.

I would share my music taste more openly if the opportunity arose, but more often than not, I'm either out of data or the song on YouTube has gone (!)

You’ve presumably had conversations with your wife, though, where you shared, and she wasn’t into it. I dunno, at the least you were, perhaps, honest about not wanting to (or not being comfortable with) sharing.

Furthermore, it’s a song and she asked. No one is being subjected to anything. No one has to listen to the song named, or, if they do, even finish the song.

But I bet she shares hers. Speaking from current experience

These people need to learn how to conversation then. Remember: it's not an interrogation or exam, you don't have to exactly answer the question as though you'll be flunked out of a class for the wrong answer. So:

"Oh man, I don't remember. But I really like x by y. What kind of music do you listen to?"

It's not that hard.

What does "saving" a song even mean? I'm old and confused

People do that when they don’t have an answer

People do that when they don't know the basics of interacting with another human being.

Just say whatever song you like. It's better than acting like a jerk. Even saying "I can't remember, I haven't heard a song in a long time" is better than being a jerk with a person you just met on a DATING APP.

You gave a perfectly reasonable answer to the question in eight words. No evasion.

I don't do that. Just tell the truth, no need to drag a question out like this, it's incredibly annoying. Just say you can't remember since it's all streaming now.

I agree, though he's still not a great conversationalist

Oddly enough, since I'm so used to being open when I'm ~anonynous on the internet, when I need a confidence push to be open with someone in person I just pretend I'm on the internet and they're a stranger, and bum bam wam suddenly I don't give a shit what they think of me & I can just speak comfortably

Molten, mushy, and smooth?

He probably thinks she's playing hard to get or some BS.

You use the term "you" a lot here. This is an old post, so you're not going to be talking to the actual person that experienced this

"What time is it?" "Why would I tell a stranger the time?"

What are you strangers all talking around here anyway, hm!? I swear it’s everywhere on this site.

"Why would I answer a stranger asking me about a stranger asking about their day?"

It fucking happened to me, i asked that douche what he was doing in a day, just me being curious. Appearently i was jealous and trying to control him. Jesus fuck that kind of people, they are not worth it.

A cloud of adjectives surrounding no noun.

"Did you ever know that you're my hero?"

My first thought was something older but really well known

Haha that was great

How about the doo doo fighters

NOFX

Offerblod

Raon Lee, mostly know for her covers, but her originals are also great. Next one below!

Or maybe it was Baby Shark

I think you can't, just copy this post and reference it in yours

Why you wanna know?

"Fine... It's Imagine Dragon... These balls over your face! Eyyyyy!"

It would've at least given us closure.

Is something wrong with Gorillaz now? Demon Days was the shit.

Now that's what I call old school

More like someone who struggles with social anxiety and low self-esteem

Exactly, this is an undercover napster sting operation. He was listening in the Rebecca Black speakeasy.

Looks like bumble.

So you don't think just answering the question like a normal human being would of been the better way to have a conversation? It really doesn't sound like this is even working on her.

That's total bullshit, sorry.

I've had fantastic relationships with people who like music I hate, and bad ones with people who like the same genres as me.

You can't judge someone's personality by their music taste outside of it just being basic or not. Such a strange thing to hang your hat on.

The red flag is the mf trying to play "mysterious hipster" and just showing how fucking insufferable he is

I don't know that it's that big a factor, people can connect in different ways, but it can certainly be a spring board for getting to know someone and make a connection.

Online dating is very much the norm. I have no idea how I’d meet a new partner without it (if I was in the market for one).

Met my wife online, though not on a dating app. It's not all hopeless!

Granted this was 6 years ago, but I met my now fiancée on bumble. It might be worse now, not sure

It's the best way to find a partner.

And it's basically the norm, like someone said. Been like that for many years.