STRIKINGdebate2 244 points 3 years ago

This isn't mildlyinfuriating, this is terrifying

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foggy 90 points 3 years ago

I'm coming back to do something fucker

I will make u so mad

400 missed calls

Rejection is hard, but there is no embarrassing way I've reacted to rejection in my life that makes me feel as gross and wrong as I feel reading that.

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MIDItheKID 23 points 3 years ago

The texts are terrifying, what's mildly infuriating is that I have no idea what order to read them in because after the first image it's just a rant so it could really go in any direction.

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sourweasel 6 points 3 years ago

Right! I went back and forth trying to find the order. I think this person made the right decision dumping this person.

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animist 105 points 3 years ago

Is blocking people illegal in your country

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Cqrd 79 points 3 years ago

At this point I’d want the messages for proof for a restraining order, and also to know that I need to be on the look out.

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platypus_plumba 6 points 3 years ago

Yep, always keep those messages coming. They are digging their own legal grave.

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NullPointerException 4 points 3 years ago

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mizu6079 76 points 3 years ago

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Cokeser 75 points 3 years ago

Since the convo states 2017 as the date, I assume OP is not the source and/or the issue is not acute anymore.

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Mechanize 20 points 3 years ago

Thank you for pointing this out. I was too flabbergasted by the sheer insanity of the messages to even consider checking the date.

Probably a repost of some kind. Still. I hope the target of this meltdown could go through this whole thing without problems and be safe.

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Mothra 2 points 3 years ago

Well the older messages say 2017 but do the missed calls? Newer messages say "today". It could be the same idiot harrassing sporadically over years

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Hexanimo 22 points 3 years ago

Not to say that harassment can't span several years, but I'm guessing the screen caps were taken shortly after the calls. The phone would say it was "today" but the texts from a few days ago would already be dated.

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dakku 15 points 3 years ago

Definitely a "call the police" situation

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robigan -2 points 3 years ago

What makes me chuckle the most is the fact that OP’s psycho ex partner can be either female or male and yet here we are (or at least I am) thinking that the psychotic ex partner is of the opposite sex

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mizu6079 8 points 3 years ago

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robigan -7 points 3 years ago

Not necessarily, I am a heterosexual male and my best female friends refer to me as girl. Just cus you get called girl on my side of the planet doesn’t mean that you’re a girl by any means, either way we won’t know unless OP discloses their partner’s sex.

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Loki 9 points 3 years ago

The psycho ex is being threatening and an asshole, I doubt they're using the term "girl" just in a jokey and endearing way. Has more of a "you are my girl" vibe.

Edit: also, the "bitch" and "whore" are dead giveaways lol

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mockingbird -1 points 3 years ago

u dislike a whole gender?

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robigan 1 point 3 years ago

Ok fair enough that’s worded terribly, let me clear myself up. What I meant was the opposite sex, why I said it was because I was referring myself to the opposite sex that we do not understand because we aren’t it, which sometimes makes us hate it because we cannot relate to the struggles that they go through

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mockingbird 2 points 3 years ago

Okay I gotcha. I definitely think its easy to get caught up in the battle of the sexes, I definitely grew up with intense messaging about generalizing both sexes, so I sometimes have to catch myself before randomly thinking X is doing that "cause they're a man/woman".

I still sometimes fall into it but i eventually met so many different/interesting men and women that I stopped being able to assign expectations to them based on the sex I saw them as. Took a long time though/i think its a lifelong journey. I like that you can identify that it is something you are projecting onto them because you want to but don't understand. That's a great foundation to build understanding on

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Duke_Nukem_1990 63 points 3 years ago

I'd send those screenshots to their mom

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venoft 31 points 3 years ago

Maybe not even a bad idea. The police probably doesn't do shit, but the mom (or dad) might smack some sense into him. At the very least they can keep an eye on him with other girls.

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CannaVet 3 points 3 years ago

I've known a few parents who will straight up tell their kids date to run. 😂

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derpysmilingcat 63 points 3 years ago

This is called "start a chain of paperwork with the police". They of course won't do much to help but it's good for future restraining order proceedings.

Because you're gonna have future restraining order proceedings.

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MajinBlayze 44 points 3 years ago

Also gives the police a head start when investigating your murder

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Restaldt 14 points 3 years ago

*if you are a white girl younger than 30

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jocanib 6 points 3 years ago

*and he's not rich

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bunnybum 51 points 3 years ago

Just mildlyinfuriating? 😳

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Dippy 50 points 3 years ago

This goes well beyond mildly.

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weirdly_austin 47 points 3 years ago

Op please seek law enforcement. At least so they have something from YOU on file. That's fucking scary behavior Op for real. Be safe!

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oehm 11 points 3 years ago

The date stamps are from 2017 bro

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weirdly_austin 12 points 3 years ago

Haha! Nice, I will never be in criminal justice.

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sovietafro 47 points 3 years ago

Restraining Order... save this nonsense, get a lawyer and get a restraining order... that is not mildly infuriating, its downright dangerous

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FiniteLooper 42 points 3 years ago

This is what inspired someone to create the “block number” feature on phones. Wow. Sorry you’re dealing with this person. Hopefully they will quit this soon

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GenderNeutralBro 12 points 3 years ago

If possible on your phone, I recommend filtering instead of blocking. If you can set it to auto-archive texts and not send notifications, then they won't bother you but you'll still have the texts on your device if you ever need them — e.g. as evidence for police.

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Tedesche 39 points 3 years ago

That's not "mildly infuriating," that's straight-up scary. Call the cops.

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dandroid 38 points 3 years ago

I have a very close friend who suddenly developed a mental disorder, and before he started his therapy and medication, he did this. And then they called the cops (rightfully so), and they came and arrested him. IIRC, they got a restraining order as well. I can't say I blame them at all. This is absolutely terrifying.

Luckily he got help and is doing awesome now. He's back to his old self and wouldn't hurt a fly.

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SuddenDownpour 32 points 3 years ago

This person needs psychiatric help. But OOP needs to call the police and I'd wager that has far more priority.

*Edited OP to OOP, since OP likely didn't receive these messages themself.

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donut4ever 29 points 3 years ago

This person is "mildly" mentally ill and you need to stay away from them and also call the police and get a restraining order. Holy shit!!!!

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feedum_sneedson 8 points 3 years ago

That's basically it. Romantic obsession can look a lot like mental illness, and definitely feels like it. Being charitable to the guy, he might look back on this and wonder what the hell was going on in his head.

I know I've been through a breakup that nearly killed me, and sheer white-knuckling restraint is the only thing that stopped me acting like this. It's like a bereavement, but you also know the person is twenty minutes down the road.

Or he might have been like this through the whole relationship, who knows.

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drummerisme 22 points 3 years ago

Let's see: Denial, anger, depression, bargaining. Everything, but acceptance.

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Jesuslovesme 17 points 3 years ago

If you don't contact the authorities at least make sure lots of your loved ones know about this.

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Gerula 17 points 3 years ago

Ok, that is a potential dangerous person you don't want in your life. Be polite, calm and non provocative and get away from her. In the end she will switch her fixation from you.

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WiildFiire 10 points 3 years ago

The screenshots say it's from 2017 but good on ya for being supportive

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Gerula 4 points 3 years ago

Hihi, didn't catch the date 😁. I guess that if is he's here to post this thing went well for him, he survived 😜!

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Rhynoplaz 2 points 3 years ago

I think you swapped the genders there. I was thinking the same at first, but the last panel makes me think that it's a man harassing a woman.

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Gerula 1 point 3 years ago

Honestly I think they could be anything because the words are so mashed together it's hard to make a conclusion ...

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popemichael 16 points 3 years ago

This is going to be exhibit number 1 at his murder trial

Consider getting a restraining order

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ArcaneSlime 2 points 3 years ago

Honestly, considering the last two texts, a restraining order is only a piece of paper, she should get a gun too unless she can carry a police officer around with her.

Dude was crazy the whole time but "I'm going to come back and do something" is actually pretty serious imo, and the cops won't act on it as a threat in my area because it is too unspecific, so I'm on my own.

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Mugmoor 16 points 3 years ago

It's incredibly difficult to take this seriously when they can't even be bothered to spell whole words.

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TheButtonJustSpins -9 points 3 years ago

Yes, because only people with perfect spelling and grammar murder people, as we all know.

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Captain_Patchy 14 points 3 years ago

Jesus fuck I am glad I got married before any of this fucking bullshit became possible!!!!!

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corsicanguppy 10 points 3 years ago

I have an answering machine's microcassette stashed in case a psycho comes back to haunt me. This shit DEFINITELY existed 30 years ago, just in a different form.

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Eccitaze 3 points 3 years ago

Maybe consider digitizing that cassette, or at least listening to it to make sure it's still usable (assuming you can stomach it). Cassette mediums degrade over time and it's quite possible that microcassete could be reaching the end of its usable life: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/...

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AnalogyAddict 7 points 3 years ago

Until you find out you married someone like this without realizing it.

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Skullfurious 3 points 3 years ago

I think they'd know after this amount of time my dude.

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Feweroptions 4 points 3 years ago

Thing is, you don't always know. This stuff doesn't always come out until you're leaving them.

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AnalogyAddict 1 point 3 years ago

Yeah, I was more thinking about myself.

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iamjackflack 13 points 3 years ago

Mildly?

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majortomm 12 points 3 years ago

I'd have to break up with them just because trying to read their texts would drive me insane.

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TheMagicalTimonini 12 points 3 years ago

I wonder why it didn't work out...

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ilovecarrotjuice 10 points 3 years ago

“Common”

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Flashoflight 10 points 3 years ago

Damn take care of yourself OP.

Also… there are plenty of less crazy fish in the sea. Let this one swim.

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phileashog 10 points 3 years ago

Good lord... Sorry you have to experience this. Massive disrespect from your ex, especially when you've set clear boundaries.

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ninekeysdown 9 points 3 years ago

Reminds me of my ex with BPD…

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iamthatis 7 points 3 years ago

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Doherz 6 points 3 years ago

Mildly infuriating my arse.

The only future outcomes are wholly and completely infuriated to the very core of your being if the ex escalates past phone harassment to real life.

The feeling of smug self satisfaction of dodging the fucking firing squad when this person leaves your life without further fuss.

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nothendev 5 points 3 years ago

Missed call Missed call Missed call Missed call

How much is enough for them ?!!!!?????

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Noxvento 4 points 3 years ago

Defenitly not 4 missed calles.

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nothendev 1 point 3 years ago

Yeah, I know I didn't include all the 91838383928838929292939 calls. Sorry. /s

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Thcgrasscity 4 points 3 years ago

Wow, im sorry you have to deal with this. I finally got the point across to my ex a few months ago and it was like 2 years at that point, and i also moved to the other side of Canada for work in this span. It wasnt this bad, but consistent.

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NettoHikari 4 points 3 years ago

Wow, that's really crazy. You're gonna have a stalker now, I guess. First question that arose in my head, though: Why didn't you block them?

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AlaskaMan 3 points 3 years ago

This is more than mildly infuriating. It’s sad this is actually common in our society. People like that need a lot of therapy, not romantic relationships.

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jcb2016 3 points 3 years ago

Dam!! 😬😬

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Im_old 2 points 3 years ago

Yikes...

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intensely_human 1 point 3 years ago

Never give up!

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SA2HA -8 points 3 years ago

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sab 11 points 3 years ago

Don't worry, there's plenty of batshit crazy women out there as well. In OPs post it could honestly be either gender.

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ghostermonster 4 points 3 years ago

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r00ty 5 points 3 years ago

I think the last few messages make it far more likely to be a man, until then I wasn't sure myself. But yes, this level of crazy is not limited to a single gender.

In this case, it does warrant a police report. But, that's just my opinion.

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