I heard a story about a whole world that was perfect because they locked a kid up in a room and threw all the bad stuff in there with the kid. The poor kid suffered all of the world's miseries so that others could enjoy life. That kid's name? 4chan.

4chan is 99% deplorable garbage. I won't even go into /b/. Helllll no. But oddly enough, some of the internet's best memes come out of there.

Through this sieve would come the ascended madmen. Those who escaped the cave and rejected the reality without, retreating to their chamber of hate and stagnation. The truly unhinged. No more naive, parroted bastardizations of the Socratic method. Only irreparables.

This select choir of lunatics voluntarily ablating their sanity will be decadence enough, I think

Yeah, we're way better over here on lemmy. (The lack of racism really does make us better tho)

Ive got some news for you....

I love how so many of you make these stupid as fuck assumptions with the titanium certainty of a doctor of psychology.

Just goes to show how low quality the crowdsourcing is here

The ifunny watermark really tips this over the edge, comedically.

Ah, am woman, can confirm I only date mane with a Gonial Angle over 140 degrees, or under 30

I've no doubt that at least half the articles about those phrases will lead you down a path of right wing fuckbaggery.

As a gigachad I can confirm.

Some people take pleasure in being pitied and victimised.

Anything but the harsh reality that they could get laid if they behaved better and presented themselves better

Do I really?

No one is accusing me of raping a cow (I got a milkshake)

No one is blaming me specifically for the state of the environment (I drive a car to get my milkshake)

Funny you say that lol. I study electrical engineering, and my friends from uni ABSOLUTELY talk about linux, self hosting, and privacy. Still looking for someone to fill out the "bad thing that amazon did today" conversation niche.

My lemmy experience is not like your lemmy experience.

Are you my ...therapist?

(Read this as in the butterfly meme LOL)

The year of the Linux desktop!

As time goes on I’ve noticed more and more of it is just projection.

Exactly.

Honestly, if I was dating today, I probably wouldn't select my SO based on looks, because let's face it, we're both getting older and a bit less attractive. But that literally doesn't matter to me and I find them beautiful, because of the life we've spent together. I was initially attracted to them based on looks, but after some weeks, that really didn't matter any more.

Likewise with friends, I probably initially made my friends based on looks, but I honestly don't care what they look like anymore, they're just my friends.

Wait, really? Whenever I spend more time at work or at home I tend to forget how many really attractive people are really out there. Whenever I go out after a long period of time I end up being positively surprised. I would also not look at Tinder as an example, but because of the opposite: people on tinder look much uglier than in real life. But then again, usually outside you don't look at people for more than one or two seconds, while on tinder there's loads of photos for you to examine every single flaw

Hell yeah I BBsaw one at the sauna the other day

Yup. I used to ride the bus to work, and I'd usually chat with whoever was there. Sometimes they appeared homeless, sometimes they had mental disabilities, and sometimes they were just everyday people. I'm quite introverted, but I made the effort and have had some pleasant conversations.

Once I'm on the bus though, all talking stops, because thems the rules.

That's true

Tbh I discuss ON more than BC. Must be regional

Basically a better version of the post since I was writing that in the morning while I was half asleep

My classmates are full on degenerates and call the milk that's in the refill machine in our school's cafeteria "boy milk"

Yes I know it's awful, I don't know if i got down voted because they do that or because half asleep me couldn't write a legible post

So my post was explicitly about how I dismissed a lot of things I read on the internet as BS until I encountered them in real life. The part about "ethnical non monogamy" was something I didn't truly believe until I saw it more than once, including some explicit details at a 4th of July party provided by a wife with a visibly uncomfortable husband.

What is your definition of "outside"?

So the behaviors are the same kind of things that you've seen forever among people who can get away with it. Immaturity, bigotry, cruelty, etc. However I myself am a liberal, and live in a liberal area of the country. A lot of people use liberal rhetoric to behave in an objectively toxic way, often by coding criticism of their actions as conservative or the toxic actions themselves as liberal.

I mentioned sexism from women, so I'll focus on that:

• As I mentioned earlier, a lot of "ethically non monogamous" relationships that are basically a woman gaslighting their partner into letting them cheat on them. This is often talked about as a sort of a sexual identity, with the implication that hating on this is the same as hating on a gay relationship or a woman who chooses to be single.
• As I mentioned earlier, women are highly encouraged to support other women regardless of circumstances. A failure to do so is implied to be sexist.
• In general there is this default assumption that a man is nefarious, usually with some reference to true crime or "the implication". This assumption is not only a massively sexist generalization, but is never logical. If a man is tall and built he gets the benefit of the doubt, despite being objectively more of a threat than a short chubby guy. The first thing I do when I meet a woman I don't know in a social setting is to somehow work in that I have a girlfriend in a way that feels organic, and a good amount of times I can see their body language shift. This is despite the fact that my SO is often not with me, and that there are a million different true crime stories involving a heterosexual couple both being evil. All of this is justified with progressive #metoo rhetoric
• There are a lot of single women I know that are very much architects of their own misery. They have super shallow dating standards, unrealistic expectations, and this mentality that if a man is attractive enough red flags are just misunderstanding. When things inevitably go wrong they make sweeping statements about men. Despite this being more or less nonsense, it's considered sexist to call them out.
• There are multi hundred member Facebook groups of women in every city that gossip about the men they date. This is obviously toxic, but the organizers frame it as a #metoo thing so it's widely considered acceptable.
• Basically everything I mentioned would be considered absolutely unacceptable if genders were reversed, but if you bring this up then you'll get a pseudo academic lecture about historical oppression and the patriarchy that basically boils down to "it's different when I do it".
• This isn't a big deal at all, but it's sort of ridiculous that most women I meet both consider themselves feminist but will get peeved if men don't pay for the date.

Of course, sexism is just one example. I use it because I find this stuff is the most egregious. I also have a lot of frustration about other things, most notably shitty people making a huge deal about how much they love drag queens in what I view as an effort to obfuscate from how shitty and judgmental they are.

My response to all of this has been to become more conservative. Note the delta. I'm not conservative. However I am also in no way shape or form a progressive anymore. I don't think liberals have nearly the moral superiority they think they do when it comes to how you treat people on a day to day basis. I support queer identities, but have become more conservative in my idea of monogamy and commitment. I even briefly considered staying home this election when it looked like the main line of attack democrats were gonna do was just to call republicans weirdos over and over again until November, because I'm personally just done associating myself with middle school mean girl politics.