What's the best part of your life right now?

a year ago by Flamangoman to c/asklemmy

What's bringing you joy?

zer0 36 points a year ago

My kids. Not much else though.

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Flamangoman 18 points a year ago

Gotta love the kids, I made this post after getting my youngest to bed and having my heart feel so full of love

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Maeve 3 points a year ago

Thank you for this thread. I'm a little misty-eyed and feeling so wonderfully blessed. Pumpkin Tikka masala and coffee for breakfast (I know, right?!), mixed greens, tomatoes, blueberries, strawberries, mozzarella with good balsamic vinegar for lunch, for the time in months, I made a half-gallon of iced tea, sweetened with local raw honey, fur baby sleeping next to me as I enjoy the sound of the storm, outside. So many have no meal, no roof, no companion. It's nice reading the simple pleasures here. No one mentioned their private jet, Bugatti, haute coture. It's nice when we recognize the real riches life grants us.

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

My pleasure, it's been a treat hearing about all of the different ways people are soaking up life right now, including all th wonderful things you listed here 🙂

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krash 9 points a year ago

Ha. My kids is the best AND worst part of my life 😆

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Brkdncr 31 points a year ago

That all of my recent health issues the last 3 months were temporary.

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Flamangoman 13 points a year ago

GOOD. You need your health, and I find it's the uncertainty that can be so stressful

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none 22 points a year ago

My crow bro, Kenny. Most days I go for a walk after work and meet up with him to feed him some peanuts or dog food.

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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

This is so fucking cool, nobody I know has a crow bro. How did y'all grow to be friends?

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none 4 points a year ago

Crows are smart. Look at them and toss some unsalted peanuts in their general direction and they'll understand what you're doing. After a couple of visits they'll recognize you and slowly get more relaxed around you. They each have their own personalities, where some will be easier to befriend than others, so just give them space and time.

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eldavi 22 points a year ago

I'm aware that it makes people cringe, but it's so true that I've never been more happy; more bottoms than a top could ever ask for... Enough to over come the negativety from all the judgemental or bitter queens.

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Flamangoman 10 points a year ago

Stoked for you, and Iove that description ❤️

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eldavi 11 points a year ago

Not more stoked than I; I've never had a busier social life and my asocially autistic ass is still surprised by it each time I get another invite.

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Corno 9 points a year ago

Super happy for you and wishing you lots more happy years ahead! ❤️

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SCmSTR 3 points a year ago

I'm not a top, but I know that feeling, and it's amazing. That was my entire year last year. It was so freeing and empowering. Don't do things that harm the sustainability of that like meth or smoking. Keep your health up and keep drinking water and hygiene. Take care of yourself and you'll just continue to get more and more powerful :)

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eldavi 2 points a year ago

I never thought of it as powerful before and I like it! Lol

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SCmSTR 2 points a year ago

:D

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kionite231 21 points a year ago

I am about to get married =)

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Flamangoman 10 points a year ago

Congratulations to you, I hope you have a lovely day and life together ❤️

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southsamurai 20 points a year ago

Right this very second, my chicken preening herself next to me, occasionally pausing to make sure I see her preening herself so that I continue to sweetly praise her

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PostiveNoise 14 points a year ago

Good chicken! What a pretty and fancy chicken...

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Flamangoman 10 points a year ago

That is adorable

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gilgameth 20 points a year ago

If everything goes according to plan, I'm moving to Europe.

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Flamangoman 8 points a year ago

That's so cool!!

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gilgameth 4 points a year ago

It's gonna be!

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Hellstormy 6 points a year ago

Which country do you plan to move to?

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gilgameth 6 points a year ago

France

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Blisterexe 2 points a year ago

live in canada rn, definitely gonna do the same.

The fact i already have citizenship from birthright helps

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gilgameth 1 point a year ago

From Canada?! Why? (If I may ask)

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NONE_dc 19 points a year ago

I was able to revive my old PlayStation 2 thanks to Hacks and Homebrew and I'm replaying several games from my childhood apart from playing several others that I couldn't at the time, and I'm having a wonderful time.

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eezeebee 11 points a year ago

I'm interested in knowing the titles you're playing, if you care to list them.

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NONE_dc 14 points a year ago

Oh the list of all the games is veeeeery looooong, like 70 games, but my current favorite that I couldn't play in the day are:

  • Psychonauts
  • Zone of The Enders
  • Yakuza
  • The Simpsons Hit & Run
  • Downhill Domination (this game is Rad as hell!!)

While some that I'm replaying because they are really REALLY good are:

  • Devil May Cry 3
  • Soul Calibur 3
  • Lego Batman
  • Sonic Megacollection plus
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BlackRing 6 points a year ago

Soul Calibur 3!!! Yeah!!!

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Rai 4 points a year ago

Have you played Raw Danger? It’s one of the best PS2 games. It’s so… PS2 era. I love it so much.

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NONE_dc 4 points a year ago

Its in my play-list! I may play it next after I finish Psychonauts.

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Flamangoman 6 points a year ago

Hell ya, got deep into the wii / wii u homebrew stuff for a while. I completely missed the PS2 and really that whole generation of gaming growing up. What are you playing?

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NONE_dc 6 points a year ago

I'm currently playing Psychonauts and Downhill Domination (This game is so cool omg).

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Flamangoman 4 points a year ago

Going check those out

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mybuttnolie 4 points a year ago

I discovered pcsx2 (ps2 emulator) a week ago and have been playing granturismo 4, so happy!

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NONE_dc 3 points a year ago

Pcsx2 is the best it can be nowadays. I remember using it years ago and how difficult it was to configure it, but now it runs like silk even on outdated hardware like my PC, I don't know what black magic the team behind it did. After the original hardware, pcsx2 it's the best option to play the Ps2 gems.

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mybuttnolie 1 point a year ago

To me it seems like it's THE best option to play ps2 games. Can run them at a bigger resolution and saving states can be used as a little cheat

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NONE_dc 1 point a year ago

You can do the same in the original console with Homebrew apps.

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SnokenKeekaGuard 18 points a year ago

I made a shit tonne of brownies and ive had 2 cups of sugar in one day alongside 5 cups of coffee. WHAT A DAY TO BE ALIVE

PS. Folks add pomegranate molasses to your pantry and your brownies. One of my favourite ingredients to give a dish complex depth in flavour, works with sweet and savory.

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Flamangoman 4 points a year ago

Sugar for all its supposed evils really does bring me daily joy

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refurbishedrefurbisher 1 point a year ago

You should also try date molasses. You can find it at basically any Arab market.

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piranhaconda 15 points a year ago

Sobriety. 2 years 3 months since I've drank.

Still relearning some aspects of being an adult. Figuring out who I am. Picking up old hobbies again and trying new ones. So many things bring me joy nowadays where it used to only be alcohol that triggered the ol happy brain chemicals.

I'm in a much better place than I was a couple years ago when I was abusing alcohol as a coping mechanism.

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Agent641 7 points a year ago

Dude, you and me quit at almost the same time!

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piranhaconda 4 points a year ago

Nice! Congrats my dude. Would've been closer to the same day but someone gave me a bottle of whiskey for Christmas that year and I hadn't told anyone I was trying to quit yet

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SCmSTR 5 points a year ago

Oh hell yeah congrats! I dated an ex alcoholic (very close to dying) and his thing now is running, eating ultra efficient nutrients like honey and liver, and not using soap ever for anything. He's one of the happiest guys I've seen in a long long time. Though, he does preach a bit, I can understand his zeal hahaha

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piranhaconda 5 points a year ago

Thanks :) I don't really talk about my sobriety with a ton of people in person, still some shame associated with who I used to be, appreciate being able to share online.

And yea exercise in various forms is one of my big things now, definitely relatable, I try not to be preachy about it. Lifting, swimming, and rollerblading recently. I need to do more yoga though... I'm in wayyyy better shape than I was two years ago, feeling almost as good as my college athlete days.

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SCmSTR 4 points a year ago

If it means anything, I'm of slim-average build and working in my 20s (painter in construction) destroyed my knees and I've been walking a few times every week for the past month to rehabilitate them because I'm tired of not being able to do stuff. We can do it! It's worth it!

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piranhaconda 4 points a year ago

Heck yea! Walking around the block is where I started again a couple years ago. It's definitely worth sticking with it. Life got in the way a few times and I had to be gentle with myself and repeatedly remind myself that progress isn't linear, and that doing something is better than nothing.

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Hell ya, I'm a teetotaler myself. Nothing like sobriety over the long term, keep up the good work!

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Gloomy 15 points a year ago

Love my kids, love my wife. Feel useful at work. Getting rdy for the final stretch of my undergrad. Life is a grind atm and I don't have a lot of free time, but I wouldn't swap it for anything else.

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Flamangoman 6 points a year ago

I'm in the same boat, I feel like I've never been busier or more stressed at times, but it all feels so worth it for all the good things going on simultaneously

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MrsDoyle 13 points a year ago

The bees. All our hives made it through winter and a fairly mild spring so far has given them a boost. Queens are laying like crazy, workers are working hard.

I've started wearing very thin gloves while inspecting the hives after realising that they make it less likely I'll be stung, because I can be gentler. A bonus is that I can feel the warmth of the bees, and that really does bring me joy.

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joshchandra 3 points a year ago

omg you'll be among the saviors of the world, given the way bees are going according to the news.

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Flamangoman 1 point a year ago

This is so cool, especially the bee warmth, I never thought of them putting off much heat, but I imagine with enough of them they would!

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Retro_unlimited 13 points a year ago

I’m very happy to be a land owner. Just a few months ago I bought some land and now live in an RV on the land. Tomorrow we drive about 7 hours round trip and get the last of our stuff from storage. So happy to not pay that rent anymore.

We have fresh air, beautiful views, and tons of space to work on projects, free electric from solar, and soon free water from rain. I can’t wait to start our garden soon, then it will be free groceries.

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Flamangoman 6 points a year ago

Living the absolute dream, that sounds like an amazing new venture and I wish you well in all of your future projects

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SCmSTR 2 points a year ago

Damn. Amazing. Are you in the States? What's your latitude/geography like? Do you have a water source, as well as electricity?

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Retro_unlimited 3 points a year ago

We are in Arizona, high elevation so it’s not as hot as the big cities. (Over 5,000 ft)

We want to order water delivery first, then collect rain water after we build a roof over the RV.

We have solar and it’s been enough for us so far, but I know when it rains during monsoon season that I may need a generator.

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SCmSTR 1 point a year ago

I'm assuming you mean petrol/diesel, but depending on how much wind you get and power you need, you might be about to use wind or some kind of gravity fed.

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Retro_unlimited 2 points a year ago

We do have a lot of wind most of the year, my neighbor gave me 2 wind power generators, but I need to get them and install them.

I was saying that when it’s really rainy the clouds will block the solar, so I might need a gas power generator to keep my batteries going. We have only been here a few months so not really sure what to expect.

Right now we are very light on power, the most power hungry is our portable iceco fridge that uses about 40w of power on and off. We have mostly rechargeable lights and phones, and my laptop that is USB-C to charge.

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srock 12 points a year ago

Factorio!

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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

I've not played it, but I've seen it mentioned often enough to think I should probably give it a whirl

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dentoid 2 points a year ago

Yes do it! 😈

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univers3man 1 point a year ago

The factory must grow!

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flambonkscious 12 points a year ago

I'm really struggling but actually doing extremely well, all things considered. We've had a hostile takeover so even if I keep my job, it really feels like it's going to shit. My garage was broken into and my bikes nicked or damaged - that really sucks bug moreso because is my main hobby, exercise and coping mechanism :(

I'm hoping I can order a new mountain bike with a gearbox, so that'll be really exciting - but it's ages away at best.

The reality is my family love me and I'm successful, so in real terms, things are good - but I really need to work on my imposter syndrome and inner accuser!

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Flamangoman 7 points a year ago

That does sound stressful, and I'd be pissed if anyone fucked with my garage, that is a sacred space! Sounds like you've got your priorities in order though, keep on rockin!

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refurbishedrefurbisher 11 points a year ago

Actually, the thing that is causing me stress is also my source of joy.

I quit weed last week. Going through withdrawals which are pretty bad, but I know in the long term, it's going to be worth it to have a clear mind.

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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

Been there too many times to count, you got this!

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gon 11 points a year ago

My family. I feel really good that I can trust and rely on my parents, that I can talk to my brother, that I have my grandma close and still healthy. It's a privilege to be related to these people, to be honest.

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Flamangoman 8 points a year ago

Can't choose who you're related to, so ya, it is a great privilege when you're surrounded by good people and you have that network of folks you love and can rely on

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Melatonin 11 points a year ago

This instant? PBS Kids.

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Flamangoman 6 points a year ago

Love pbs, whatcha got going?

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Melatonin 7 points a year ago

I have no idea. Something called "Milo"?

It's just nice to be able to put something on that's innocent and childlike. There isn't much like that around.

It's gentle.

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SCmSTR 3 points a year ago

That's a fantastic idea, I'm stealing this

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secret300 11 points a year ago

My dirt bike

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umbrella 6 points a year ago
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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

Hell ya 😎

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mugthol 11 points a year ago

This post. There are a lot of negative news in the world and Lemmy feels often pessimistic. Reading everybody's answers made me feel lighter, so thank you for the question

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Flamangoman 6 points a year ago

I'm glad you are enjoying it, and as am I, it's been so nice to read about all the good in everyone's lives.

I feel like Lemmy is kind of like anything else in that you get out of it what you put into it to a degree.

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Corno 10 points a year ago

I don't wanna reveal too much personal info but things have been going so well for me for a while now! So I'd say this current one 😃 I'd say the past two years have been the happiest ones of my entire life

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Flamangoman 8 points a year ago

As long as you're happy, I'm hyped for you, keep that happiness streak going!

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SCmSTR 3 points a year ago

Had a friend like that in 09 who went for a motorcycle ride and died. Left a wife and newborn behind.

Ride the happiness, not motorcycles. And if you do, don't crash. #1 rule: don't crash.

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Corno 3 points a year ago

My condolences to your friend and those affected. Motorcycles (along with helicopters) honestly freak me out which is why I'd avoid riding on either

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pineapple 10 points a year ago

The home server im setting up. I can finally break free of the clutches of cloud storage.

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Flamangoman 1 point a year ago

Oh buddy, I'm right there with you. I just got a free cpu and mobo off marketplace and got my own thing running, I had so much fun figuring it all out

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pineapple 1 point a year ago

What? people just give away computers?

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Cowbee 10 points a year ago

Wedding prep

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

I think a lot of people find that stressful, but really you get to tailor a big party that includes all of the closest people in your life to see you celebrate love

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Cowbee 3 points a year ago

I'm more excited for the future after the wedding, to be honest, haha. It's just most fun to be in the moment right now is all.

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VirtigoMommy 10 points a year ago

… not much.

My romantic life is painful and turbulent at best. My job is collapsing because of the tariffs. I owe too much on my car to keep it if I lose my job and it needs a new clutch anyways, which is about $3000 that I don’t have for the cheap one. Family is distant, cold, and unsupportive. My government is doing its best to make life (as a trans person) as painful as possible. Best friend died last year, my only other friend has just kinda fallen off the face of the earth. My hobbies are frustrating and unfulfilling. I have vivid nightmares nightly. My body is deteriorating to the point of near disability. I eat the same shitty $5 chicken sandwhich every day. Insurance won’t cover therapy and suicide seems more and more likely by the day.

My coffee was warm this morning though so, I guess I’ve got that going for me today.

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Flamangoman 8 points a year ago

Damn, that's all so very heavy. Honestly, I wish I had prefaced this post in some way, because the truth of the matter is that not everyone is feeling happiness these days. I'm really sorry, especially for the persecution trans people are experiencing, y'all unequivocally do not deserve any of that. I hope things improve, and that you're able to find peace, safety, and meaningful happiness in your life, you deserve it ❤️

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pikanut 10 points a year ago

Its summer here and I hate summers!! But I feel so greateful and happy that I am in a safe and comfortable enough environment to be able to be naked whenever it is too hot.

This is such a privilege considering I am a girl.

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Flamangoman 7 points a year ago

As a never nude I commend your bravery and I hope you enjoy it to the full extent of the law

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Today 9 points a year ago

Most days my husband. Some days my kids. Some moments my job. Every night i love how comfortable my bed is.

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Flamangoman 8 points a year ago

Love this, I am like 3/4 of the way there, I just need a bed like yours to crash out on 😂 mine is killing me!

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Today 5 points a year ago

We ordered it from Costco. They have a great return policy and will pick up things they delivered if you want to return them. Plan was to buy a mid price memory foam mattress and then, if needed, keep exchanging it for the next one up until we hit our budget limit. The first one was perfect! It's been 9 years. I don't know how long beds are supposed to last. We rotate it periodically and it's still crazy comfortable.

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Glytch 9 points a year ago

Getting together with my friends online a couple times a week to play R.E.P.O.. I've been going through a rough patch with my fiance recently and being able to get out of my head and sneak around haunted houses has been really helpful

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SCmSTR 3 points a year ago

You gotta play hard to work hard, and work hard to play hard. Life is about balance. If you take loans out from your future, you still have to repay them. Always invest in yourself. I'm in a similar place as you, though not relationship wise, and I find the more I'm able to let go and carelessly lean into my actual interests, the better I feel. Weird how that works huh lol

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

Gaming with the pals, one of the great pleasures in life, I'm glad you have that going for you!

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MrVilliam 9 points a year ago

Right now, I'm working a ton (72 hours per week) and my wife is working and going back to school, but every Tuesday is an entire day together. We just started playing Baldur's Gate 3 for the first time, and we look forward to it all damn week lol. We started like a month ago, but we're still only just now wrapping up the goblin camp. We both were already really familiar with 5e DnD, so a lot of the mechanics feel pretty intuitive to us. I have gripes with the camera (PS5 version) but overall it's a fantastic experience.

Before picking this up on sale, we were passing the controller back and forth through Astro bot. Also amazing! We rolled credits, and I'll probably aim for the platinum trophy at some point without her. There's truly not much left before we snag that, so she's not missing out.

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Flamangoman 4 points a year ago

That's really sweet that you guys get that time together and share that common experience. I played through BG3 over the past year with a group of buddies and we had some great laughs fucking around, truly such a fun time.

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ovalofsand 9 points a year ago

I'm teaching guitar to a couple of students in town. I've started doing an active listening at the end of our shared class. I'm introducing them to all kinds of music they haven't heard and I love it. They're responding and listening to some new albums outside of the genres they've liked.

Thank you for the opportunity to share some good. :)

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

That's awesome, I used to teach guitar, and I wish I had thought of that as an idea for incorporating into a lesson.

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Nayfun 9 points a year ago

I'm a month away from completing my union electrician apprenticeship. It's been a lot of work, and there is plenty more to come. But after five years of working towards something, it'll be nice to reach a big milestone.

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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

Well done, that's a hell of an accomplishment that will set you up for life, world will always need sparkies

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SneakyWeasel 3 points a year ago

Congrats! I rememeber finishing mine and it was a lot of work. Just remember to take care of your body and especially your ears! My body has started to hurt in my wrists from all marrets and wire twisting

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Nayfun 1 point a year ago

Yeah very good advice. I see guys in their 50s that have never stretched or eaten too well. Even walking looks painful for them. Not much we can do about our wrists though!

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Witchfire 8 points a year ago

I have a ticket out of the US

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Flamangoman 1 point a year ago

Cool, where you headed? (if you're open to sharing)

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imagineer 1 point a year ago

Sounds great! Me too 😌

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mamotromico 8 points a year ago

A friend just had his first kid yesterday, he’s so happy it’s honestly contagious. Everyone in our group is already doting the kid and he’s only 12 hours old.

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

New life is the gift that keeps on giving ❤️

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Brumefey 8 points a year ago

What’s bringing me joy ? When I go back home after a day of work and my daughters (7y) run towards me with a real smile. Knowing that she is really happy to see me.

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Aw man, that's the best stuff, isn't it

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ICastFist 8 points a year ago

Playing X4, despite the crashes.

But to be really honest, giving drawing lessons to 9-11yo kids. Something I never considered doing in my life, but damn does it make me feel good, though the kids' progress (or lack thereof) often leaves me wondering if I'm actually being any good

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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

That sounds like rewarding work. I feel like even if they're not progressing that fast, just having a positive role model in their life is probably really meaningful

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umbrella 3 points a year ago
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ICastFist 4 points a year ago

X4 is a very complex game. You start as a relative nobody in space, but can earn money to create big mining and trading fleets to get more money while you're busy with other stuff, finally using said money to buy military fleets.

It's full of eurojank, it's a huge time sink (I'm a bit over 100h now), but it may be the kind of thing that tickles your neurons just right.

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weariedfae 8 points a year ago

My cat has been extra cuddly lately. Earlier she slept in my arms using one as a pillow.

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Cats rule ❤️

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SCmSTR 8 points a year ago

Sunlight, food, my handsome partner, orgasms, music from my past, sleep, my cat, socializing while playing videogames, the knowledge that I'm improving my physical state, angry validation from other queers, peace and quiet, masturbation, porn, drugs, knowledge in general, good anime, the long healthy grass I can see from my window, drinking cool clean fresh water, the filthiest queer poly cnc abo smut i can find, the degoogle tech movement, the anti-facist movement in paris, luigi followers, star trek, ice cream, gw2, making music, carbonated beverages, getting better at things, seeing pictures of myself in threesomes, looking forwards to good things :) in the future, being lusted after, being loved, feeling love for others, trying to find my people, learning about myself, meditation, the fediverse and being able to speak relatively freely again, living in a liberal area, knowledge that I live in a liberal area and don't have to fear as much, cozy outfits, cuddling, piracy, helping make technology that I believe is ethically good, seeing people that also want to do good in the world and have a spine about it,

Yeah that's all I've got for now.. basically it circles around setting the good things in life, no matter how small, and also appreciating the few objectively nice things I do have in life, like a loving partner and my functioning senses.

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

I'm glad you have so much going on to appreciate, sounds like you've got it made in the shade!

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SCmSTR 2 points a year ago

Lol i really don't, trust me

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Maeve 8 points a year ago

Thunder, lightening, the sound of rain on my window.

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Love a nice storm, so relaxing in a way

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some_guy 7 points a year ago

Partner and kitties. When they (kitties) aren't screaming at me while I'm on the phone for work while wfh. So fucking rude. That's sarcasm. No one seems able to infer it anymore.

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Flamangoman 5 points a year ago

Cats are brats but too cute so they can get away with whatever

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SneakyWeasel 6 points a year ago

I have about 2 months left of college (Canada). Going to be graduating with about a 3.9GPA. Finally going to have a degree to my name and hopefully going to be having a job right away when im finished.

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Flamangoman 1 point a year ago

Congratulations, I hope you find gainful employment swiftly!

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grumpo_potamus 6 points a year ago

Cycling now that the weather's warmer. My family and pets. Coffee and word games.

Thanks for the reminder to look for the good. I often feel like there should be so much more, but I know that's more than some people have, so I should feel lucky.

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

My pleasure, it's actually brought me great joy to read about everyone else's slices of happiness 🙂

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Drekaridill 6 points a year ago

My cats

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Flamangoman 4 points a year ago

Love my kitter cat, for being a free street cat, she has brought me immeasurable joy over the years

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MOARbid1 6 points a year ago

Started a new job that I landed after nearly a year of being unemployed. 100's of applications and maybe 10 interviews for my effort. I finally get a break from that fucking slog.

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Flamangoman 6 points a year ago

That's amazing, congratulations! I despise looking for jobs

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MOARbid1 5 points a year ago

Thank you so much!

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vl1t0 6 points a year ago

The closest friend i made since moving abroad alone 2 years ago, changed their mind and they are not moving out of the city. Also, two of my favorite bands put out killer new albums that fit the eternal combo of coffee+tobacco really well

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

What is life without good friends and music? I'm glad you have both of things bringing you joy right now.

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Ludrol 5 points a year ago

The possiblities. The potential. Recently I have overcome my trauma and I have energy to spare on doing things I want to do.

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

Yes, this is a great outlook, you can do anything!

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Ludrol 1 point a year ago

Not really anything but I can do valuable and meaningful stuff.

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Wrongdoer1 5 points a year ago

I quit my unecessarily stressful job with no plan next, and I feel like anything is possible now!

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Sonor 5 points a year ago

My wife

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

A good life partner really makes it all easier imo

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Sonor 2 points a year ago

For sure. I certainly think i have lucked out with her, knowing how little of an idea I had about almost anything when i got married:D

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Casuallynoted 5 points a year ago

I’m working on a project that’s really important to me - and I think that there’s a good chance I’ll see it through to completion at this point.

Admittedly, outside of that project… my life has not really been doing much for me lately. I’m glad to have something right now that’s helping keep me stable and sane in a world that really feels like it’s falling apart, but sometimes it really feels like I’m working to finish it and get it out there before life becomes a bit too much.

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ovalofsand 3 points a year ago

What's the project?

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Casuallynoted 4 points a year ago

I’ve been working on archiving/restoring material from an unpublished musical that was written in the 1980s, the playwright who originally wrote it passed away and was never able to publish it. It’s a sci-fi show that got a disturbing amount of things right about the world now (for example, there’s a song about being kept up at night staring at a screen and falling into existentialism - aka doomscrolling. The link is the playwright singing so it’s not nearly as strong singing as the demo but it gives an idea), and it all resonated with me deeply when I first read through the material.

We’ve been able to transcribe by ear most of the music, and recover the other music projects from floppy drives, while recreating the synth patches he used. I’ve even been interviewing cast members who were part of the show when it was being workshopped, to get a better picture of where everything fits in the show’s history. My hope is that maybe by the time I’m done it’ll be in a state where it’s more likely to be picked up and produced one day - because before I got to it it was very disparate and kind of scattered across a lot of different folders without much context.

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ovalofsand 2 points a year ago

That's awesome and very interesting!! Where is this project happening? I am an amatuer audio engineer. Not sure if you could use any of that kind of help, but if so, id love to help.

Also, if it ever happens I'd love to watch it but chances are, distance time and money might be too much to overcome.

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

Wow, that sounds like a labour of love!

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Kurtagag 4 points a year ago

Seeing Jason probably

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Flamangoman 2 points a year ago

Nice!

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Tieas 4 points a year ago

I quit a higher paying job to move to the Columbia River gorge. Sure I make a lot less money but I'm so happy being out in this beautiful area. There's something calming about it

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Wrongdoer1 2 points a year ago

Dude, that's awesome!

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CapriciousDay 4 points a year ago
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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Rest well and I hope you make a full recovery and enjoy this time of peace in your life

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CapriciousDay 2 points a year ago
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captain_aggravated 4 points a year ago

I think I've done a reasonable job improving my dovetail jig.

That 12 inch Porter Cable model; it has some problems with repeatability. The reference marks are quite wide and positioned in a way to give a lot of parallax error. There was no real way to quantify how far you've moved the template in and out, which meant it's basically guaranteed to come out of alignment. So I took a knife to it. Scribed the alignment line around all the tines and put graduation marks on the brass thumb wheels. It's a lot easier to be deliberate in adjusting this thing now.

It still needs a few other things here and there, and I need to put those alignment marks on other templates. But it's a start.

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Flamangoman 1 point a year ago

That's awesome! Dovetails a plenty in your future!

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captain_aggravated 1 point a year ago

And here are some using my new "dial it in" method. Cut a test, measured how far off it was, adjusted the template that far and it's done, no guess-and-check-oops-too-far.

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obscureprodigy 4 points a year ago

lol

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Flamangoman 4 points a year ago

What is a better expression of happiness than laughing out loud?

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yrmitz 3 points a year ago

The fact that this all is going to end sooner or later.

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Ya, sometimes life can feel so overwhelming and I long for death, not in like a suicidal way, but just like the absence of the stress of everything

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Flamangoman 3 points a year ago

Hi all,

I have enjoyed all of the replies in this thread, and it has brought me happiness to read about yours.

I also recognize that not everyone is feeling joy right now, and that's ok too, life is not always fun to live, sometimes it's downright brutal. If you're going through a time like that, I wish you the best in getting through it, there are few forces stronger than the power of the human will.

I think there are a few main themes here in the replies that seem to be spirit boosters, and let's be honest none of these are unexpected, but I think it can be nice to have a reminder of what's good.

In no particular order :

  • Pets
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Children
  • Partners
  • Accomplishments
  • Projects
  • Art
  • Hobbies
  • Freedom
  • Teaching
  • Health

Now I don't think you need to have every one of these things in your life to truly be happy, but if you're feeling like nothing is bringing you joy, maybe one of these things might.

I think most importantly, gratitude is the attitude, if something is making your life better, taking a second to recognize it can make it feel even better. If someone is bringing you joy, make sure they know it deep down in their soul ❤️

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midtsveen 3 points a year ago
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Bieren 2 points a year ago
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Flamangoman 1 point a year ago

It depends on the reader I suppose, but I meant it in ernest

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Boop 2 points a year ago

I've started practicing yoga. It's been about two weeks and I love it. I like pushing my body to do the poses and finding out that most of the time I can actually do more than I thought I could. And if I can't, that's another opportunity to get better.

Thanks for asking this question. Have a nice one.

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blackstrat 1 point a year ago

I've got a great Plexi sound from my Helix and Les Paul for playing Led Zeppelin numbers.

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Agent641 1 point a year ago
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Tinks 1 point a year ago

I live in the US, and with the state of things I have decided to make my life more analog and disconnected this year, and for the foreseeable future. Instead of online games, I do puzzles and listen to audiobooks. Instead of doom scrolling for hours, I've decided I'm going to start backpacking. Instead of watching so much TV, I've been reading more.

All of these things are helping bring me peace. I've been pack training with my dog, which means doing longer day hikes with a heavy pack for each of us, and it's just been so nice. I'm losing weight without trying (which is a good thing as I'm overweight), I'm seeing parts of my area I've never seen, and spending fantastic quality time with my dog. This weekend we're doing a shakedown car camp to see how he does in my smaller backpacking tent and I am SO excited. In 3 weeks we go on our first backpacking trip with a friend, and I'm already dreaming of future trips. All of this is huge for us because I'm allergic to the sun (literally) and he (my dog) is very sensitive to heat, and allergic to wasps (we have to carry epipens for him) so deciding to spend time outdoors has taken a lot of consideration, determination and planning, but we're doing it. I'm so excited for the adventures we'll have, I can't even put my emotions into words.

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daggermoon 0 points a year ago

Not a damn thing. There aren't enough words in the English language to express the animosity I feel towards this world.

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Flamangoman 4 points a year ago

I think that not feeling any semblance of happiness is a feature of life at certain times, and I'm sorry that you are feeling that way. The world is neither a place of good or bad, but a mix of both, and if you're not able to see both sides, you're missing something. I hope that you're able to find some happiness in your life, and if it's at all in your control, I suggest you open yourself up to letting it in.

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daggermoon 1 point a year ago

Thank you! I'm feeling a bit better today. I'll try harder to be open.

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