Time. It just takes time.

I washed bodies and wiped butts for twenty years. Most of the time, my patients were not on my radar anyway, as I'm hetero and the vast majority were men. Among the women, I'd say 3/4ths were elderly enough that they were well beyond my upper range even now that I'm middle aged.

But there were a few, in the early years, that were very attractive. Of equal or more importance, when I transitioned to home health instead of facility care, family members of patients would sometimes not only be attractive, but assume that I was perfectly safe to be naked around, or even request contact that would be considered intimate to some degree or another.

It really, truly, didn't take long for my inner switch to just stay in the off position at work. By the time I was thirty, I had family members of patients outright put moves on me and it would take multiple attempts for me to notice because my switch in my brain said that work time is work time, not happy penis time.

It did take seeing a goodly double handful of goodly handfuls before I adapted though. Butt, if your job requires more frequent contact with bodies you'd be attracted to, it'll happen faster than it did for me in terms of time. More exposure to the experience starts dialing down the sexuality of it. Oh, you might find some arousal on occasion even after years, but it'll be occasional and you'll develop the ability to ignore it.

Short term, it's the same as any stressor you face at work. Identify it, control your breathing as you accept its presence in your mind, and allow that control to filter it out. And it will. It's a basic meditation technique that's infallible assuming the ability to breathe with control, and enough practice. The more you control your breathing, the more control gets spread to the rest of you.

Find a place and a time to vent it.

Never talk to these people about it, ofc, but find a trusted person to talk to. The world wild internet cannot replace a trusted person.

I think I found OP:

Aren't you going to get used to it after a few days, like to everything else in life?

I haven't seen it mentioned, so what I consider an important perspective: it's a perfectly normal and biologically expected reaction. Having thoughts and feelings is never incorrect, shameful, or immoral. It's our behavior which has consequence.

Remember that in the opposite role, as a patient, it might feel embarrassing or inappropriate to become visibly aroused when a doctor or nurse is manipulating (or even just looking at) parts of your body, but the professional is trained to recognize this as an autonomous physiological response to stimuli, and disregard. There's no place or reason in this context for judgement.

I would encourage you to, and honestly, as the professional in your circumstance, expect you to, foster this same clinical disregard for your own arousal. It's perfectly fine and expected to be aroused when touching or being touched by another human; that's not behavior and must not be judged.

But developing what could be understood as a "kink" by perseverating on your "naughty" feelings toward people in your care, finding it titillating how embarrassed or unprofessional your reactions are, isn't uncommon. It's exciting because it's transgressive. If you can't operate professionally by treating your normal feelings as normal, you do owe it to the people who've placed their trust in you to step away.

One time I did see one patient that was exceptionally attractive so I just kinda shoved it down for a while. I did have a bizarre dream (don't remember any of the details other than that it involved that patient and was bizarre). Then I had to clean their bathroom real fast when they had to move rooms and I no longer found them attractive. Problem solved. Dunno if that helps in your situation. Maybe look into more about how intimacy coordinators in the TV/Film industryhandle things? They gotta handle people who are actually like. HOT.

As an asexual person, my flabber is so gasted reading through these comments. I truly have never even considered that any of this is a possibility.

Anyway, good luck I guess OP. Now I will proceed with my life with even more anxiety about having humans touch me.

What matters to your patients isn't your thoughts but your deeds. If you are acting professionally it doesn't matter if you are having inappropriate (sexual) thoughts. You might have to channel this energy elsewhere and eventually it will be less stimulating as you get used to it.

Maybe try to see your work as systematic act. Brake the touching down into small purpose driven steps to disconnect it from sensuality during your work.

Otherwise its ok to have unprofessionel thoughts as long as you dont act on them unprofessionely.

Possibly it might help to accept that your conflict is not unusual, professionalism is an attempt to limit the chaos of human thought into a narrow channel but it is only an attempt. Understanding that emotions from arousal to repulsion are natural and have evolved specifically to overcome attempts to suppress them is important. Expectation and acceptance of errant thoughts is a way to nullify their potency and manage their weight on your actions. Those thoughts that flit in and out of your mind are in the minds of everyone around you, and always have been and were in the minds of the owners of those butts. The chaos does not escape our minds not because it is not there but because it does not fit into the world we have made. This essential goodness of fit to the world of a conscious well mind is what limits the stream of unlimited options coming unrelented from the subconscious.

Jerk of before work. Maybe not applicable to people with vaginas, but it's quick and for me at least really makes a difference in how horny I get

Think about preventing repetitive stress disorders.

Nothing shuts down the sinful thoughts* quite like OSHA regulations.

(*not actually sinful)

Is this a new activity to you? You will get used to it

Eventually, you'll become desensitized.

Every butt as boring as the next. They'll lose meaning to you, like saying the same word over and over for 18 hours straight. You'll only find them attractive when attached to the right person first.

Good luck!

Are you a proctologist with a midlife crisis?

We aren't really socialized to have uncomplicated unsexual fondness for butts, etc, so take comfort that most people would struggle in your position, and that socialization is something that can change with time in it right environment. As long as you cultivate the right social setting at work, you probably don't need to make any big changes, since those will happen with time.

Alternatively, you could pivot to other butt touching career, but that's a decision best made with your partner.

The FBI supposedly figured out that Jeffrey Dahmer was a smoker, because they found butts in the garbage can.

Turned off yet?

As a pro your career depends on your ability to be completely dispassionate in the non-work aspects of butt, you must classify them as “work butts” where the work butts may hold work-related and necessary information and be required, but they are fundamentally different from the fun “non-work” butts. You just have to turn those thoughts off. I’ve been disassociating in the human services field for a really long time so I know it is easier said than done, but your professional and personal life really do depend your ability to compartmentalize these things. Maybe think of them as slabs of meat.

this is some the cylinder must remain unharmed shit

Think of baseball? Get to meditative sort of state. Practice with fake butts?

Do you have OCD?

So is there any chance that perhaps someone responded inadvertently and got you with pheromones?

Edit: to add to this, you'll be super desensitized real soon

I flip my boner up into my waistband. It hides it and it feels awesome.

Kinda feels like you need to find something else to do, if I'm being honest. If you can't push it aside, then you are getting sexual gratification in a non-consensual way.