Finally some fad I can identify with, except I'm not a girl. And I'm not pretty. And I'm not Syndrome. But everybody treats me like gold (I'm heavy and malleable)

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VaalaVasaVarde 36 points 2 years ago

If you are good at inventing doomsday weapons, you could become Syndrome!

Syndrome

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don 10 points 2 years ago

And I’m not Syndrome.

You could become Syndrome!

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ink 19 points 2 years ago

We could ALL become Syndrome!

And when everyone is Syndrome, no one will be…

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cows_are_underrated 2 points 2 years ago

Will he finally make the Doomsday Ark real?

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Brunbrun6766 19 points 2 years ago

Hey baby are you gold? Cause I wanna pack you away in fort Knox surrounded by guards never to be seen again by most human eyes

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radicalautonomy 54 points 2 years ago

It really is a thing. I went on one date with this super attractive redhead, and we were planning a second date, but I canceled because the time we were supposed to have together she whittled down (on the morning of) to just a couple hours she could pencil me in for. She got annoyed with me and became passive-aggressive because I didn't want to drive for two and a half hours round trip to her town for a two-hour date.

I didn't like the passive-aggression and explained that to her kindly. She got even more passive-aggressive at that. I told her I was no longer interested in dating her. She went ballistic, shit-talking me in a mutual FB group we were a part of, stalking my posts and comments on there so that she could add heart reacts to every single one before I blocked her.

I really should have known better than to try to date her as the first time I got to know her was when I was on vacation with my girlfriend in New Orleans where this woman and her husband were celebrating their one-year anniversary and we all met up for dinner, and she later told me they had a knock-down, drag-out fight in their hotel room.

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Speculater 9 points 2 years ago

So she was married? No judgement, but might explain why she didn't have time for you.

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radicalautonomy 11 points 2 years ago

Lol, I put that last bit there without explanation for the shock value because the people seem to love this. But yes, we were all polyamorous. She was married, I had a girlfriend and a nesting partner, my girlfriend had a boyfriend who had a wife who wanted to date me (I declined because she practiced polyamory unethically), and my nesting partner had a girlfriend.

The woman I was interested in dating, I knew she didn't have a whole lot of free time...neither did I truth be told...but I turned her down not because she had other partners and a busy life but because of the way she responded to me. It was basically, "Um, how dare you cancel plans with me after I took an extra morning shift on the day of our date leaving you with only two hours and with you having to do all the driving for over two and a half hours during rush hour traffic!" She was so used to people falling all over her because of how attractive she was, and it was really off-putting.

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phoenixz -1 points 2 years ago

Yeah I'm not so sure about your story now. This went from a normal girl who turned crazy once you rejected her to all of you I'm being in multiple relationships.

I understand the ope marriage and swingers thing, I don't think I get that polyamory thing.

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Anticorp 3 points 2 years ago

Hol up... You had a girlfriend and she had a husband, and you guys were going to meet for a date? Okay then!

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Entropywins 21 points 2 years ago

I've had a girlfriend and I've had a wife, but riddle me this...when I next go on a date I won't be cheating on anyone. How is that possible?!?!?!?

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Telorand 6 points 2 years ago

Polyamory or single. Could be either one.

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SpaceCowboy 3 points 2 years ago

You're a polygamous time traveler?

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radicalautonomy 12 points 2 years ago

Indeed. We are all polyamorous, and it's quite normal in our circles. I remember one time my nesting partner and I had a party at the house we were sharing, and there was a daisy chain of eight people comprising seven consecutive dyadic relationships in attendance (Stephanie <--> Troy <--> Chastity <--> John <--> Anna <--> Me <--> Esther <--> Amanda), and it was really great! Everyone was just enjoying each other's company, having drinks, talking about this and that, feeling compersion...it's a nice way to be when you're wired for it!

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Anticorp 11 points 2 years ago

I am definitely not wired for it.

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draughtcyclist 9 points 2 years ago

Yup. Those poor kids are stuck dealing with it too.

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Speculater 71 points 2 years ago

Holy shit, her entire catalog is a dumpster fire of insecurity.

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fine_sandy_bottom 20 points 2 years ago

Is this maybe just creative writing?

I mean the author is on medium to get followers and make money. No one wants to read a blog about how uninteresting someone's life is.

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Speculater 10 points 2 years ago

It has to be, and many of the articles use stock photos and generic writing. Maybe just like rage bait?

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idiomaddict 11 points 2 years ago

I mean, she posts to a blog called “vain asylum,” so she’s at least self aware.

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phoenixz 57 points 2 years ago

Yeah, I'm going to go ahead and say that Elle Silver seems like a bitch you don't want to be with.

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cornshark 46 points 2 years ago

Fafo?

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pleasejustdie 77 points 2 years ago

Fucked Around and Found Out

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iemgus 27 points 2 years ago

Fuck around and find out, maybe?

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intensely_human 22 points 2 years ago

Feces Acceptata, Feces Oblatae

It’s latin for “garbage in, garbage out”

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Iheartcheese 13 points 2 years ago

Feline Aids For Oprah.

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dumbass 1 point 2 years ago

MINGEY NOOOOOOOO!

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intensely_human 0 points 2 years ago

Wait what? I thought it was Feline Aides For Oprah.

Shit I gotta go make some calls

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radicalautonomy 0 points 2 years ago

Fly Air Force Ospreys.

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Anticorp 39 points 2 years ago

Vain Asylum sounds about right

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NeatNit 25 points 2 years ago

Did she write the "I cheated on my husband" article while still married to him? That's amazing

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SonicBlue03 24 points 2 years ago

Looks like there's some highly tarnished Silver available if anyone's interested.

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notaviking 22 points 2 years ago

Ok just my opinion, so clearly there might be some flack from the community, but I am glad she writes articles like this. It seems to be her form of outlet to process her emotions, decisions and their consequences. I think that is what these articles are an account from a person who knows they are flawed, knows they do not make the right decisions but are making decisions that are against common sense and she is documenting it as she goes. It is fascinating and past the schadenfreude that her consequences have given, the handful of articles I have quickly glanced she seems to be brutality honest discussion about her decisions and her struggles with the consequences.

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funkless_eck 5 points 2 years ago

reading the cheating article, it's pretty clear these guys were gonna divorce anyway.

It's a mistake not to separate and tell your kids before meeting someone else, but from reading what happened it looks like their marriage deteriorated to the point of completely ignoring each others existence, she finds happiness in someone who actually likes her being around, gives her the push to finalize the divorce.

Understandable perhaps but not exactly the right thing to do.

The way the meme is edited it makes it look like the husband found out and kicked her out and she deserves to be poor, reading the articles it looks like the classic case of "Mother drops everything for family, Father has to be forced to continue child support after divorce and does everything he can to avoid it."

Which, honestly, I support. Everyone knows that's part of marriage now, if you can't abide by the terms of the contract, don't enter into the legally binding partnership.

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intensely_human 21 points 2 years ago

Man, divorced women sure do have it rough

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Thcdenton 13 points 2 years ago

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JoMiran 13 points 2 years ago

You love to see it.

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Toast 4 points 2 years ago

☕

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Bryanbat -24 points 2 years ago

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ShaunaTheDead -28 points 2 years ago

Just for some pretext here: I'm not trying to defend this woman because I know nothing about her.

That being said and just for everyone's information, there is a scenario in which what she said is logical and fair.

It used to be that women were not allowed to have careers and some people still choose to practice that. So the women agree when entering into the marriage that they'll be homemakers and the husband will earn money and take care of her. If the husband doesn't keep up his end of the duties in that arrangement and they wind up being divorced then she now has no means to provide for herself. This is why alimony was initially created, so that women who were forced (or in the modern day chose) to be homemakers weren't absolutely fucked in the case of divorce.

Again, I'm not saying that's what's happening here, I have no idea, but I just wanted to provide some potential context because I find a lot of talk about alimony and divorce online often just dumps on women as being greedy and that's just not fair in every situation.

I gotta say though, it sure looks that way in this situation, especially with her talking about cheating on her husband, but again, who knows, maybe he's not holding up his end, maybe he's physically or emotionally abusive, we just don't know.

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Anyolduser 43 points 2 years ago

Alimony is off the table when infidelity can be proved in court. This was the case even when alimony was super common back in the 80s and 90s.

If you were a homemaker seeking divorce you could get alimony without being a perfect person, but infidelity was one of the few instant "no"s in divorce court.

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01010101011 15 points 2 years ago

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Anyolduser 15 points 2 years ago

The original intent behind alimony was to compensate a homemaker who had put their career on hold and essentially trashed their resume. They'd permanently hobbled their earning potential for the marriage and the marriage fell apart.

It only became possible to even think of alimony as supplemental income in the 90s and early 2000s when judges were handing decisions to women almost as a matter of course. It took a decade or two before divorce courts (and family courts) started to chill out and look at things a little more objectively, but even during the bad old days infidelity was the one thing that every single judge would throw the book at you for.

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intensely_human 1 point 2 years ago

It’s just so fucking painful to imagine. Being cheated on feels fucking awful. Then having to permanently pay someone who did that to you. Also, if that cheating was the cause of the divorce, then that means they’re not just taking money from you, that person took your marriage from you.

So you’re sexually violated, lose your most valuable relationship, and then you have to pay the person who did it to you like they’re your landlord.

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gramie 4 points 2 years ago

That is entirely untrue for divorce in Ontario, and probably other parts of Canada. Spousal support and divorce settlements in general have nothing to do with infidelity. No-fault divorce is available after 1 year of separation. For the financials the court uses a formula based on length of marriage and relative incomes as their guideline.

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Anyolduser 2 points 2 years ago

Good for Ontario for learning from the clusterfuck down South.

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SpaceCowboy 2 points 2 years ago

Bad for Ontario for creating a strict formula with no caps that doesn't consider the possibility that the man might not be making as money later in his career. Dave Foley got a divorce when he was at the top of his career, but since he's not on TV anymore and not making anywhere near the money he was getting when he was on TV. His alimony payments are higher than his income now, the judge admitted this, but the law didn't consider this as a possibility. Last I heard he can't return to Canada or he'll be arrested.

So it's a poorly written law.

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kn0wmad1c 16 points 2 years ago

She's a published author. That's called having a career.

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SmoothLiquidation 16 points 2 years ago

It's pretty obvious she has a career writing magazine articles complaining about her life, so she should have some sort of income, and alimony shouldn't count. Never mind all of the infidelity that everyone else is mentioning.

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trolololol 3 points 2 years ago

If writing on medium is a career then I'm a professional lemming

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grue 10 points 2 years ago

Just for some pretext here:

LOL, "pretext" is right.

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OsrsNeedsF2P 7 points 2 years ago

Even if she was a stay-at-home wife, then she would get half the husband's assets. So she shouldn't be dirt poor

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intensely_human 0 points 2 years ago

Unless all he had was dirt

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Arondeus -27 points 2 years ago

Its sad that your perfectly logical and objective comment got downvoted. Thanks for speaking truth that people dont want to hear.

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01010101011 22 points 2 years ago

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Cypher 1 point 2 years ago

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zaph 16 points 2 years ago

I cheated on my spouse

There's really just no way of knowing what could have happened to end their relationship. Truly one of the worlds biggest puzzles.

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kn0wmad1c 15 points 2 years ago

Except it's perfectly clear that she has a career as a published author.

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Tarquinn2049 14 points 2 years ago

We are totally ok with that truth. It just isn't relevant here. Especially given the 4th headline "I divorced my husband because I couldn't trust him with my money". It seems like her financial troubles and his lack of financial troubles had nothing to do with the state of their finances during the marriage. And if alimony is involved at all, it would be a contributor to her post divorce financial problems, as it sounds like she would be the one paying if there is any.

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