💫Sexism💫
basiclemmon98 68 points 6 days ago
a_non_monotonic_function 4 points 5 days ago
It is also a sword making video. I sort of want a link.
Macchi_the_Slime 2 points 5 days ago
For real. I was made to feel like I was broken for so long because it turns out I'm Ace. My ex had me convinced for years that I was being emotionally neglectful and abusive because I wasn't horned up for her basically 24/7 and would start huge screaming fights any time I had the audacity to say "No" to her advances for literally any reason. Then she'd go completely cold on me for days sometimes weeks at a time.
But it was all my fault because I wasn't "Making her feel desired enough" or whatever. She eventually pretended to be poly to Monkey Branch to one of my friends. That was fun.
ShutUpWesley 111 points 6 days ago
Would I rather have sex, or watch a new Alec Steele video? I think the answer is pretty clear.
MentalEdge 27 points 6 days ago
Hell yeah! The days counting down is killing me.
I wanna see that thing mush metal around like it's playdough.
ShutUpWesley 27 points 6 days ago
I know! He was such a tease uploading like 3 videos in 4 days, then leaving us dry for nearly a week now
faythofdragons 30 points 6 days ago
Only one of them involves a real hammering.
ShutUpWesley 17 points 6 days ago
I love a good power hammering.
faythofdragons 13 points 6 days ago
So hard and hot and fast 🥵🥵
RFKJrsBrainworm 18 points 6 days ago
I thought I was being trolled but I looked up alec Steele anyway....Nice!!!!!!!
SkyeStarfall 10 points 5 days ago
The solution here is clearly to have sex while watching the video
Wildmimic 101 points 5 days ago
Ladies, if you want sex, say so. Nothing shameful in it. The times where every little bit of initiative has to come from the guy are really past, and even if some of you seem to think that - we cannot read your thoughts and you might just sit there in your underwear because you are comfortable that way.
exasperation 19 points 5 days ago
I think it's perfectly reasonable to complain when a partner will never make a move, or hasn't made a move in a long time.
I'm a straight dude in a long term monogamous relationship, and I don't like stretches where I'm the only one initiating. It needs to be give and take, over time. Being desired, especially when I'm not expecting it, is part of my own emotional needs, and I can't imagine it's uncommon, even across genders and sexual orientations.
Wildmimic 16 points 5 days ago
I fully agree that this is a 2-way-street. But in my experience over the last 27 years of relationships, women still somehow think that simply responding to male sexual drive is enough, while most young men nowadays are keenly aware about the fact that permanently lusting over their partners is a very pushy thing to do, and they have adapted to that reality. Also, young men (at least the ones worth of being in a relationship) also realize that this is a 2-way-street. So it is only fair to expect from this lady - who is publicly complaining instead of talking to her partner, which in itself is somewhat fucked up - to voice her desires instead of holding her partner to an impossible standard.
Edit: she can complain publicly again if her partner categorically refuses sex with her regardless of circumstances, but she might be better of separating at that point instead of whining - there are enough men out there that are viable partners and who would do a lot for that opportunity - if she is a decent partner herself.
lightnsfw 8 points 5 days ago
when a partner will never make a move, or hasn’t made a move in a long time.
That's how I've ended up in situations like the OP. If she's shot me down the last 20 times I've tried to initiate anything I'm going to stop doing it. It's on her to let me know when she's in the mood at that point. I'm not gonna just keep dealing with rejection and feeling like I'm pressuring her to do shit she's not interested in for whatever reason.
Wildmimic 4 points 5 days ago
Yep, that's my experience too. After a series of getting shown the door, she has to announce when it's ok again. This is a basic curtesy to expect from a partner (regardless of gender) that was not in the required headspace for sex for a while.
heartSagan5 3 points 5 days ago
My wife is ace/demi so I have to initiate it; otherwise, it's rarer than Mewtoo. I'd enjoy being pursued sometime because it'd be a boost to my self image.
Wildmimic 1 point 5 days ago
That's a harsh situation if your self-worth is hinging a lot on being desired. But it is also something that can be overcome with communication and some basic agreements if both of you really want to pursue that relationship. I am pretty sure that if you told her that your self-images hinges on her desiring you, that she would occasionally go out of her way of expressing how much you mean to her.
Diplomjodler3 14 points 5 days ago
Depends on the underwear.
Wildmimic 7 points 5 days ago
Not even that is a sure indicator. They might just wear the intricate and fine stuff because they felt like it, not because they are horny. It still needs some confirmation about her motives, especially in this age where (finally! and even against the backdrop of erosion of womens and LGBT+ rights) consent is so important.
Wildmimic 2 points 5 days ago
I know - plainly saying that you wanna get some action can be hard. But it gets easier the more often you do it if your partner goes along with it in my experience! It validates you in some primal way, because it isn't just a default response to titties and dick grabbing - it is an response to YOU acting on him. The experience of your partner getting fucking excited by what you are doing to him is worth it, and it should also be reciprocated by his actions at another point in time. It ensures both of you that you still find each other attractive.
late_pessimistic 1 point 5 days ago
Bold to assume any heteronormative women to who this advice applies are reading your message here.
Wildmimic 5 points 5 days ago
It was a general advice, and it does not only apply to heteronormative women - i only used "ladies" because it matched the OP and because heteronormative women are probable the most susceptible to this way of thinking. This is general relationship advice, because communicating your needs is necessary for any successful relationship, regardless of gender.
Lim_Lim -46 points 5 days ago
A woman might get beaten up or even raped as being "a whore" for being too outright about wanting sex. The risk is not very high, but if you repeat an action with a small risk often enough, the risk will realize.
Yeah, this is a thing that needs to change in the society. But, to change it, first it must be made safe, which means men actively standing up against other men when they behave in misogynistic ways. The bad guys look externally precisely the same as the good guys, and they ruin extremely much for the rest!
Wildmimic 58 points 5 days ago
Ehm, we are talking about a situation where a woman is sitting next to her boyfriend and not voicing what she wants because she expects him to read her thoughts. You are missing the mark here, although i agree with the rest of your sentiment.
Lim_Lim 0 points 5 days ago
Dunno. I don't think she literally expects him to read her mind but this is rather an allegory of sorts.
And here comes the thing that her life doesn't happen in a vacuum. She has been conditioned in all other parts of her life since she was only 12-year-old to not show sexual desire outwardly. It takes a lot of wisdom to understand not to apply in this situation something that you have accepted as a basic axiom of life.
Yeah, it would be much better to be outspoken about one's needs, but that's a very big thing to demand of a young and inexperienced woman. Relationship skills grow during the relationship. They are not something innate.
As long as the rest of the girl's life conditions her to a certain behaviour, I would be primarily angry at those things conditioning her to that shit and only secondarily to her not recognising she has been conditioned to bad behaviour and should unlearn that usually necessary behaviour in certain contexts.
Wildmimic 6 points 5 days ago
It is also a very big thing to demand of young and unexperienced men to be vocal about their desires, because men are also being conditioned to have only a few states - stoic, angry or horny. So we are on pretty even ground here, because admitting that last part is not that easy if you are a decent guy and respect your partner. And if that man is worth a shit, he will respect you and not just want to fuck you every waking moment, while also having other interests that are a very healthy thing to have.
Demanding that people do their part in a relationship and voicing what they need to feel appreciated is not a big ask, it is the basis of any relationship. Demanding that a partner drops whatever they are currently doing because you feel horny might be ok or might be rebuffed, and both are valid answers and have to be respected. But the important part here is that YOU ASK, and not air the dirty laundry on social media instead because you were not capable of initiating a dialogue with your partner.
EvilHankVenture 1 point 5 days ago
Please no, I can't invest $1000s in another new hobby I will abandon in 3 months.
snoons 6 points 6 days ago
https://yt.chocolatemoo53.com/watch?v=namXt4Etn_o
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The Ulfberht
Godort 31 points 6 days ago
The last time I saw this posted, someone linked this NOVA episode about the Ulfberht
snoons 0 points 6 days ago
https://yt.chocolatemoo53.com/watch?v=namXt4Etn_o
watch?v=namXt4Etn_o&
Diplomjodler3 4 points 5 days ago
This is of course the only correct answer.
RememberTheApollo_ 24 points 6 days ago
Thanks everyone. 12:30AM and I’m watching a swordmaking doc.
MyBrainHurts 5 points 5 days ago
Jesus, it's like you're me from a different timeline where I don't have a midterm tomorrow. Or a different timezone I guess.
Whats_your_reasoning 5 points 5 days ago
Maybe you can watch it afterwards, to unwind?
Either way, good luck on your midterm!
MyBrainHurts 1 point 5 days ago
Thanks!!!
BeMoreCareful 24 points 5 days ago
Real talk: A lot of hey-this-will-be-awesome sword making documentaries on YouTube have gotten to where they're trying to sell them.
That's not what I'm about. I don't care about your side hustle. I care about your interest is veering into a passion that goes a bit beyond what is acceptable in polite society.
I Don't know how far a halberd would penetrate into a 2019 GMC Yukon. That's what I'm about. That's what the world needs.
exasperation 14 points 5 days ago
There's an xkcd hover text that really captures some of my feelings about people and their interests/passions:
I never trust anyone who's more excited about success than about doing the thing they want to be successful at.
This is an underlying filter for whether someone else's passion strikes me as interesting. I need a level of authenticity in the people who I interact with on any given topic.
Hueristic_Autistic -6 points 5 days ago path: 0 26228417 26228950, hotness: undefined, score: -6, children: 0
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HalfSalesman 18 points 5 days ago
I've commented on this before, she needs to learn to communicate her desire and not just assume her being in her underwear instantly communicates "I want sex."
Like, sure, if he saw her in her underwear and understood this was her way of communicating that and he is still not going for it maybe there is an issue. But by default there is no way to know that is what their relationship is like.
lightnsfw 10 points 5 days ago
Yeah, I've had exes where them being in their underwear meant they wanted to have sex. It also meant they were just getting ready for bed and weren't the slightest bit interested. If I was in bed watching a video on my phone it means I've already broached the subject and been shot down. I'm not going to make an attempt again just because she took her clothes off. She's going to need to actually communicate if she changed her mind.
hardcoreufo 2 points 5 days ago
Yeah I had an ex who had to tell me the opposite. She just had weird germophobia about sitting on public seats then sitting on home furniture. I thought she was always just raring to go when we returned to one of our apartments.
ParlimentOfDoom 17 points 5 days ago
I mean the solution is simple.
Fire up that forge. Then she can finally start pounding that hard rod.
Neverclear 0 points 4 days ago
*soft rod though
ExtraJudgement 15 points 5 days ago
Be more interesting than a documentary?
JustPlainDave 5 points 6 days ago
Good guy Greg.
TrackenDaKracken 2 points 5 days ago
This proves that the classics can still be reposted.
RichardDegenne 4 points 5 days ago
I would argue that they're classics because they get reposted.
PhoenixDog 2 points 5 days ago
There's a reason shows like MASH and Seinfeld see so much viewership in syndication.
Run the classics, baby! People want it!
IamMoonPie 1 point 5 days ago
I can’t speak to medieval sword making docs, but Nova has an amazing one on Viking weaponry called Secrets of the Viking Sword. I very much enjoyed it.
IamMoonPie 1 point 5 days ago
Right but most people don’t really thinking Viking when you’re discussing medieval swords. Hence the addendum.
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