When in an elevator, I like to put people at ease by letting out a long reassuring fart to prove that I'm not hiding anything up my ass

He's not a "Sucker Idolizing Mediocre Pussy"

He's a man making sure women feel a little safer.

Using the word "SIMP" in this context runs counter to every example of protective familymen I've ever seen. Derision against his behavior is as good as calling yourself a creep, a predator, an enemy of all that is good and right.

You have the morals of an opportunistic thug ... yet I have no doubt you think yourself some kind of faithful man

Eh possibly, but many of the women I've slept with have told me that I make them feel safe and that it's a huge turn on for them. Shocking, I know, that people might want to feel secure before they get intimate.

My gf does this constantly. She is afraid of every man on the street. If there is a homeless or god forbid mentally ill person on her path she’s basically terrified.

Yes, she does listen to true crime podcasts. Yes, we live in a relatively safe part of a relatively safe country.

Yeah obviously but it is no justification. I definitely understand how material conditions can influence behavior

Or you could just realize that it’s not personal and give signals that you’re friendly when possible. I’m a man, and I walk around my neighborhood a lot by myself. I get different reactions from different women when I pass by or walk behind them, some amicable and some standoffish.

It feels a bit bad when I get the impression that someone is scared of me, but I have the understanding to know that many women are cautious and possibly traumatized, and no one owes me friendliness.

Also, your comparison to Muslims is really off. Most people with prejudice against Muslims are rarely (if ever) exposed to them in real life and have their opinions influenced by conservative media. Women with fear of men in public spaces are usually informed by stories from their friends and their own previous experiences. I’ve witnessed enough to know as much.

Shit, I cross the road to overtake because I'm a smoker and don't want to inconvenience non-smokers with my addiction. Never even crossed my mind that may make people feel safer.

Lmao @ someone actually switching sides.

just not changing pace is good enough in my opinion, that makes it look like he was actually chasing her

if he takes the same road and she is scared it's more of a she problem since he's just going home

imo the solution is just not to do anything sketchy, and teach younger people what's right and wrong, so that the problem can get solved with a better society in the future

Doesn't have to be women, I've accidentally startled dudes as well. Being a pretty broad and tall dude I usually only keep my size in mind to keep out of the way or make sure I don't bump into things or hit my head on stuff.

But when I think about it, of course it would be intimidating to run across someone a foot and a half taller and twice your weight. It would be like me being tailed by Shaq in the middle of the night.

"I'm not gonna rape you, I'm a little boy"

Maybe if you skipped?

If it makes you feel any better, a large person walking with a scary dog seems much less likely to be a psychopath than just a large person by themselves (to me, at least).

Obviously not to say that large people are psychopaths 😂 just that someone with an animal they're caring for doesn't strike me as someone who is going to attack me.

Wear a reflective vest. It makes it obvious you're just trying to safely walk your dog, makes you less likely to be hit by a car and signals safety because dangerous people don't usually want to be conspicuous

I think (as a white dude, so take your grains of salt as you please) that a dog would make you less threatening. Makes it clearer what you're up to, and people bringing their dogs along to mug or rape someone is exceedingly rare.

talk to your dog

I prefer "of coloredness"

According to...?

I've never even considered this perspective before. It's frustrating enough for guys to get lumped in with shitty guys, but to be a woman lumped in with shitty guys, that's gotta be aggravating as hell.

I'd wager you're probably right, though; you've probably got a better buffer against weirdos than a dainty little flower might.

Name the law.

Going home wearing a hoodie is unwelcome?

No it isn't when there's probable cause. And "dude started running after me" is enough for self defense to kick in. Actually it is probably enough to charge the dude.

Intentionally causing a person to fear harm is assault. Greentext is committing assault. It might not be possible to convict for it, but it's still assault.

They had legitimate reason to believe they were in danger. Not assault at all. Unlikely to be assault.

Edit: Guess I shouldn’t say “definitely not assault”. Don’t have all the information here, so can’t come to any definitive conclusions.

It could be on Sumerian clay tablets my dude, it would still be about threatening rape for amusement

Noice