I feel ya. Got a similar situation. She often does not want me to go down on her or similar bevause she does not have the energy to reciprocate. But she still says she wants it. The she keeps saying 'oh you don't have to do all this'.
It's odd but sometimes we do stuff because it feels good to make our loved ones feel good.
Ma'am, I'm trying to pleasure a Lady down here, that's hard work. Please stop worrying and enjoy the trip.
Besides that, I found blowjobs to be boring every time. It just doesn't do that much for me.
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I genuinely wonder what that's about. Why is it so much of a sacrifice, why is it any different from giving a back rub (assuming you have good hygiene). I certainly am not bothered by going down on her - on the contrary.
From what I understand, her previous relationships had all been transactional, where the guy made her feel like she owed him for every nice thing he did. She's still working on allowing herself to receive without feeling a sense of debt.
I've dated quite a few women and had a couple of long-term relationships. They all seem reluctant to give a blowjob - it happens but rarely. I've never pushed it, only shown in every way I can how much I enjoy it when it does happen. My current domestic partner does it, but I probably go down on her 10-20x more often than she does me.
But it's also kind of a general pattern that they expect me to take the initiative in sex, and they are relatively passive. One hypothesis I have is that taking too much initiative makes them feel "slutty" or that their own desirability is not confirmed enough. Maybe this is just a part of that general pattern. But what do I know.
You are reading into it too much, you just have big dick problems.
it sounds like she wants to reciprocate giving pleasure in some way, just not that one. give her an idea.
the sexiest organ you can use during sex is your brain, then your voice. communication goes a long, long way.
I'm very fortunate that my partner loved giving blow jobs, she'll even just randomly start sucking my dick unprompted because she's filthy and enjoys it so much.
That said when I met her, she wasn't as keen on receiving but luckily enough I have been able to warm her up to it more, because I love eating her delicious cunt.
Romance isn't dead
I see you are a recent refugee of lemmynsfw
Can you ask her to write a tutorial on how to enjoy getting ate out pls, cuz I can suck dick all day long, but the second there's a face anywhere near my twat, I'm instantly closed for business. And I know my husband wants to too, I just... ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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Ah.
I think if you find someone like that you'd literally have no time to leave the house.
why leave the house?
why not all three?
speaking of your username, i love the palestine support but i keep thinking HEY HEY HEY every time i see you because of when i grew up.
Well, "good hallucination" was meant more as an interjection, like "good sir" (i was taught to be polite to everyone, even hallucinations) but i guess i'll take that answer as a yes
gotta get tortillas and salsa sometimes
they built a what now
There was an old highway that they're converting to an interstate, and because they have some weird naming convention it's going to be Interstate Highway 69. I straight up offered to the friend that told me about it that I would fly in and 69 him, but it was a no go.
hope you get to do it.
69 - the most equal position.
If you fit. My gf is so much smaller than me (more accurately I am much taller/bigger, she is about average size) that it quite literally dors not work. I can barely kiss her normaly without breaking both our necks during sex.
I'm over a foot taller than my wife and we don't have any issues.
Guss it depends. We have these issues often
what do you think we're practicing at the computer all day
I do have to put a pillow under my head to close the gap, but I did that with an ex who was only 2in shorter than me too.
My recommendation would actually be a yoga block since it won't get in the way of her legs, and it won't squish down like a pillow.
Is this the first meeting of Muff Divers Anonymous on the fediverse?
Perfect. I first saw the term on an altered classic red/white scuba sticker.
Well, with the loss of lemmynsfw, it could be you as the founding member!
“I’m not just the president but also a member.”
I enjoyed the chuckle this gave me.
Is that like a helldiver, but for labia?
If you're finding bio titans, fucking run
aaand we’re talking about men
We had a junior high school office called Officer Bates. That dude hated us intensely lol.
I don't really like blowjobs, my wife loves giving them. I love going down though, so I just let her enjoy before it's my turn.
This is me, I’ve got a severe oral fixation and eating pussy and ass are among my favorite things in life but it’s not easy for me to enjoy it myself. Although I will concede to enjoying pretty much anything oral as long as the other party LOVES doing it. I’d rather just have sex than get a half assed blowjob but if someone loves having a dick in their mouth it makes a huge difference
Oh, I haven't been up there in years. My idiot sister made the brilliant decision to move from those beautiful lands down to a desert, and I haven't had a reason to go back yet. I loved the view from the puget sound, and seeing mountains in every direction if you can get a little elevation is just amazing.
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Ok, but you still want to suck him right? We talking like a 70/30 split?
Anywhoots yea I know the feeling. Horndogs unite! (And also perform large amounts of cunnilingus/felatio)
sorry, most importantly committed, also enby. but i think what you're looking for is silty loam, not a man.
I get major Tumblr girl vibes from OP
Exactly what my first response used to be on Lemmy NSFW, which would be the first thing I'd do, while I was still into that phase. There's no shortage of such men.
Okay but like I like blowjobs and it makes me not want to go down on a girl if she won't reciprocate. I deal with it because I like eating pussy but it's definitely on my mind when it's my turn and she doesn't want to reciprocate.
I'm sorry, It turns out I'm not a man u.u
But that does explain why I was so turned off at the prospect of getting sucked (yuck) Because this junk on me is the wrong parts!
The most fun relationships I've had, my own body was hardly even acknowledged and I made it all about what I can do for my partner ^^
Besides, receiving sexual gratification of any kind is aggressively mid to me anyway, because I'm pretty sure I'm on the asexual spectrum.
I want to please my partners solely because I'm panromantic and when anyone i love has a good time i get the warm fuzzy giddy mushy sappy tingles~ :3
I can be that man ;)
bruh
ok bro
Incel vibes
What kind of Incel is this? Why are there so many of these?
thanks for using Leebra!
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My wife hates giving blowjobs, to the point where she doesn't even want me to go down on her since she feels bad for not wanting to reciprocate. It's like, I don't do it because I want to get something in return, I just want to make you feel good, haha!
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