Had this same problem with a friend I saw some four months after I had figured out I'm trans.

"Are you sure?"

"Maybe you are actually __"

"Have you not thought even for a while that you might be wrong? I recommend you think about that possibility!"

"You are okay as you are."

"You don't need to feel dysphoria."

"You're always being so radical, is this just about you hating men? You should not hate men."

He seemed hellbent on asking every infantilizing question anyone has ever invented about trans people. That was one very very very strenuous "conversation"!

Most people are like this about pretty much every chronic issue... fucking sucks.

I handled it so badly when my son came out to me. I just kept getting images of him being abused by transphobes, getting hurt, dying. I freaked the fuck out and said a bunch of shit like this. I deeply regret it. If your kid comes to you with something like this, if you need time, take it, do anything other than word vomit nonsense at them. I'm lucky my boy is so great, but I have no doubt I probably hurt him with my outburst.

I am not trans but i get sooo frustrated with people even if they are "supportive".

Like i had a huge fight with a friend bc he said that medical intervention should only be allowed for adults and i was like, the parents of the kids, the kids themselves, their physicians and psychologists says its good for them and statistics agree too and he just wouldn't stop saying " its just my opinion its just my opinion, why can't you accept my opinion" Because your fucking opinion is WRONG objectivly WRONG. You didn't do the tiniest bit of research, you do not have a single argument, i layed it out step by step for you and you still come to the wrong conclusion just say i don't know enough to have an opinion on this but if you form one and voice it you gotta defend it ESPECIALLY when this community is under threat and your stupid ass "opinion" based on nothing might make the differnce for trans people if they keep their rights or not.

It shouldn't be controversial to expect that people base their opinion on more than a gut feeling. If you feel "passionate" enough stating your opinion out loud you should feel passionate enough to take like half an hour to get your facts straight. Fucking infuriating .

I'm a cis people, but struggling with mental health and life and ... so many things.

I think "normal" people are just oblivious to most things outside their scope.

"You're depressed? Have you tried to be happy?"

"You're feeling burned out? Have you tried to be happy with what you have? Other people have way less!"

Geez, thanks for the idea! I'm much better now!

And sorry for breaking in here. I do not mean harm.

Have you tried prayer? (Do I need /s?)

YUP. Do they think transitioning was the first thing I tried? Or maybe it was the end result of a decade of “untreatable” anxiety and depression, plenty of therapy, self-reflection, being in the queer community, and talking to other trans people?

Turns out the anxiety and depression is pretty treatable after all, thanks E!

Cis person here. I cannot comprehend what it's like to be trans.

I don't mean that in a disparaging way, I mean I literally cannot comprehend it because I am comfortable in my own gender. I can only imagine what it might be like if I was born with the opposite gender yet am exactly how I am otherwise. Is that even a valid thought? Would I be exactly the same otherwise, or would I be entirely different thanks to the trauma of have no understanding of my own body?

I literally have no idea at all. None.

Cis people suddenly pretending they love and support feminine men always gives my brain a tickle, but also i was already a fae man, no thanks, but also, everyone thinks i'm just a femme man, checkmate

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Not trans here, Mentally ill, so know a little of your frustration when given "advice" for what you should have, should do, blah, blah, blah. I've been told to "just be happy". Asked "why are you depressed?". Told "Don't worry, you'll get over it soon. I always do.". Nobody knows exactly what goes on in anybody else's mind. People with diagnoses like mine have an idea of what's going on in my head (somebody should), but never exactly. Noone should offer me advice, share my diagnoses/what I've shared with them or judge me at all for what I am. Likewise I should provide everyone the same respect.

I worry a lot if I'm coming across like this to my trans friends. Its really hard to fight the urge to try and "help" when I see those I care about in deep distress. I worry about them a lot.

To be fair this is just how people are in general. I'm not saying it's good, but people always seem to make assumptions regarding your knowledge of your own feelings and not trusting you to act in your own best interests.

"You don't like SRS because you think it's an abomination

I don't like SRS because I need more gocks in my life

We are not the same"

Yes, but have you tried a regimen of hormones, lifestyle changes and living your best life?

"Im concerned about this for a whole five seconds and then will never think about it again."

Okay, but have you considered that these people are world experts on anything and everything and that their insights and advice are magnificent gifts humanity should be grateful for?

I have questioned my own gender a lot in the past few months and on and off throughout my life. I've kind of come to the conclusion that I'm gender ambivalent with a lot of traits that mean I probably would of had a better life had I transitioned to a woman a long time ago but now don't really see the point.

And before you guys say it is "never too late", remember I said "gender ambivalent" I don't identify as any gender. I would have been a hot woman, now I wouldn't be. ATM I'm a relatively hot scrawny (by american standards) older guy. The trade off's for me are not worth it.

If I realized "Oh hey actually I 100% just identify as a woman" sure. I'd probably do it even at this age (about to be 38). But its more either would be fine, identity wise, I just wish I had figured out I was gender ambivalent and would have been significantly happier making an early transition for practical social purposes.

My personality is a mismatch. I'm not a masculine person in key ways. This has led to consistent relationship issues.

I do often idly hope that making medical science will reach a point where we can have anti-aging tech that would effectively give us all access to indefinite youth. I'd probably transition then but that's probably a pipedream unless we're just before some kind of exponential curve. Finger's crossed I guess.

"more radical" mfer, maybe they aren't trying to be radical!

As a cis male, I'm the greatest thinker on trans topics of all time.

I'm kidding, of course. Some people are pretty dumb.