What happened to "You're welcome!" as a response to "Thank You"? It's not even included in the canned answers on an apple watch. Have we as a society abandoned it?

2 years ago by Melatonin to c/asklemmy

I hear "No problem" far more often.

pruwybn 128 points 2 years ago

Years ago, I had to do customer service training for a job, and one thing they said is to always say "you're welcome" instead of "no problem", because some people think "no problem" is rude. But I think it's a generational thing, and it's kind of the opposite with younger folks.

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tsonfeir 88 points 2 years ago

No worries.

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relative_iterator 43 points 2 years ago

All good

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halykthered 30 points 2 years ago

You got it.

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Blizzard 20 points 2 years ago

My pleasure.

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creamed_eels 13 points 2 years ago
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Aussiemandeus 10 points 2 years ago

Hit him with a "No wukkas mate" that will sort him right out

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MrsDoyle 4 points 2 years ago

I go with "no wuckin furries".

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cerement 3 points 2 years ago

explanation I got long ago was that “No worries” was reserved when the situation was so bad, nothing you did would change things – sit back, “No worries”, crack a beer, and enjoy the spectacle

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jkrtn 2 points 2 years ago

I'm now weirdly self-aware of how often I say that. It is probably better if I don't meet your friend.

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bandwidthcrisis 2 points 2 years ago

Has he seen "The Lion King"?

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creamed_eels 2 points 2 years ago
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lanolinoil 22 points 2 years ago

Nothing is worse than other options though like Chic fil a's mandated "my pleasure"

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SnotFlickerman 20 points 2 years ago

When a chic-fil-a worker hits you with that, you gotta one-up them with "No! The pleasure is all mine!" and then hit the gas, peeling out cackling because you stole that pleasure motherfuckaaaaah.

(Or better, don't go to chic-fil-a)

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Zeppo 5 points 2 years ago

I told a bartender “oh, the pleasure was all ours!” one time just sort of joking around and he said “you have no idea how much”. I wasn’t really sure how to take that.

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Schmoo 2 points 2 years ago

I would be wondering what I did to make his job more difficult.

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lanolinoil 4 points 2 years ago

OH YEAH I"M GETTING PLEASURE TOO!

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Mongostein 19 points 2 years ago

I think we collectively decided that “you’re welcome” doesn’t make sense. Welcome to what??

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artichokecustard 15 points 2 years ago

you're whale cum

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lanolinoil 9 points 2 years ago

to impose on me duh

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intensely_human 8 points 2 years ago

Welcome to what??

Isn’t that obvious? You’re welcome to the thing you received. The thing you are thanking them for.

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ettyblatant 6 points 2 years ago

Maybe it's "you are welcome (to ask me for help/favors, as I am neutral to the task. I might even enjoy it.)"

And "it's not a problem (for me to do what you asked me to do; we have now both acknowledged that I have done something to help you that was not organic to me, but now we can move past it with no further conversation.)"

I bet "no problem" to some people is like seeing someone wear a T-shirt to church. They'd really prefer it if you would put on a suit and tie, even though the purpose of both are the same (cover my body when away from home because that is our current social agreement), because a T-shirt is disrespectful.

Also everyone sucks, it is a problem, and you are not welcome.

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illi 15 points 2 years ago

I had to do one communucation trainung where the trainer saud that saying "no problem" should not be used, because it implies there might've been a problem. I was not convinced though.

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blackbrook 12 points 2 years ago

Then "your welcome" implies you might not be welcome. Seems like either both work or both are problematic, he can't have it both ways.

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illi 4 points 2 years ago

Agreed. Might also be because "problem" is a word with negative conotation? Idk, I don't see a problem (hah) myself

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EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted 8 points 2 years ago

Wow. facepalm The words literally say there's no problem, and yet it somehow implies there is a problem? Talk about overthinking what someone is saying.

This is why I often hate neurotypical communication styles. The world would be a lot more straightforward if people just said what they meant. Jesus fucking Christ on a motorbike...

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Mouselemming 2 points 2 years ago

... would be quite a sight to see. Although if He can do all those other miracles, I guess fucking Himself on a motorcycle wouldn't be impossible. So I guess it's just a straightforward statement on your part.

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EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted 2 points 2 years ago

............I ship it.

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olympicyes 1 point 2 years ago

Then why are people tripping about saying “you’re welcome”?

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EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted 1 point 2 years ago

I'm sorry; what are you asking?

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intensely_human 1 point 2 years ago

It doesn’t imply that there is a problem. It implies that there would have been a problem, if it hadn’t been generously waived by the “no problem”.

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MrsDoyle 7 points 2 years ago

Someone said that to me just the other day! That saying "no problem" implies there might be a problem. Crazy. I'm thinking of switching to "well it was quite an imposition on my time and energy to help you out, especially given you're not paying me, but I'll let it slide this time because you seem like an ok person and I'm in a good mood" just to annoy them.

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intensely_human 2 points 2 years ago

I doubt that would annoy them more than “no problem” since it is perfectly in line with what they think you’re saying by “no problem”.

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Nyanix 14 points 2 years ago

I think a lot of younger generation, myself included, prefer casual responses, conflating professionalism with being rude, slimy, or otherwise malintentioned

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littlewonder 4 points 2 years ago

I've been making an effort to use "happy to help" at work, instead of "no problem" because I was also informed it's a generational thing.

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sping 3 points 2 years ago

For paid service I like the simple "of course" recognizing that is what I'm here for and it's normal. No faux generosity nor implication of a tolerated imposition.

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Empricorn 4 points 2 years ago

During my years in retail exactly one customer ever had a problem with me saying "no problem". He also said he was an assassin. That's not a joke. This old, fat boomer said I shouldn't say 'no problem' because some people might take it to mean 'yes problem' and then told me he kills people for a living.

That's the stability of people that can't understand the meaning of words. If I go to a police station and say I am a serial killer vs I'm not a serial killer, I don't expect them to react the same...

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fmstrat 2 points 2 years ago

But what about "No problem at all"?

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BluJay320 85 points 2 years ago

I see “no problem” as nicer. If I say that, I’m expressing that I really don’t mind, and there’s no need to thank me. No problem, as in I had no problem with doing this thing

“You’re welcome” feels more like “I appreciate you thanking me, because I went out of my way to do this”, if that makes any sense

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sping 8 points 2 years ago

Huh, to me, YW is much more gracious and positive that you're happy to do it, while NP is more like "it was a tolerable burden".

Though for paid service I don't like expected faux enthusiasm. I think "of course" is classy and not demeaning then, meaning "it's what I'm here for".

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jack 4 points 2 years ago

In German, "you're welcome" means "gern geschehen" which can be translated back to "I did it gladly". So yea, I also think YW is very positive

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overcast5348 2 points 2 years ago

Duolingo taught me "wilkommen" for "welcome." Is that used IRL?

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jack 2 points 2 years ago

No, not in the context of "you're welcome". Wilkommen is only used for saying e.g. "welcome home"

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intensely_human 0 points 2 years ago

Except “no problem” traditionally means “no problem [despite this situation containing a likely problem]”.

It means the person being thanked has gone outside their set of responsibilities to help you.

Like “Thanks for letting us borrow your spare tire so we could get our car back to town” -> “no problem”.

Here the other person had no responsibility to help with the others’ flat tire, much less lend out a piece of their own safety equipment.

“You’re welcome” is the one which means “It is perfectly expected in our current roles that I would have provided this”.

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Pandantic 3 points 2 years ago

And I see it totally opposite. Interesting.

Also, can you cite this “traditionally” you reference?

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olympicyes 0 points 2 years ago

I go to DMV. “You need a number to be in this line”. “My mistake. Where do I get this number?” “Over there.” “Oh, I see, thank you.” “You’re welcome.”

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Pandantic 2 points 2 years ago

Wow, because the DMV uses it? Thanks for the source! Wait, I’ve heard a person at the DMV say “no problem” before…

Also, I was asking the original commenter about the “traditional” use of “no problem”.

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Drusenija 80 points 2 years ago

Here's a response I've seen about this around the net for a while now that feels right.

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"Actually, the “you’re welcome/no problem” issue is simply a linguistics misunderstanding. Older ppl tend to say “you’re welcome,” younger ppl tend to say “no problem.” This is because for older people the act of helping or assisting someone is seen as a task that is not expected of them, but is them doing extra, so it’s them saying, ‘I accept your thanks because I know I deserve it.”

“No problem, however, is used because younger people feel not only that helping or assisting someone is a given and expected but also that it should be stressed that your need for help was no burden to them (even if it was).”

“Basically, older people think help is a gift you give, younger people think help is a requirement.”

https://didyouknowfacts.com/...

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Hobbes_Dent 8 points 2 years ago

That’s some stereotyping ageist bullshit.

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Drusenija 11 points 2 years ago

To be fair, with no data to back it up, this is just an anecdote. So saying it's stereotyping ageist bullshit is a perfectly valid response to it. I just felt it fit the question quite well so I went and dug it up and shared it. If you feel differently, no stress!

The reality is going to be different to everyone, and it's as much a learned behaviour as anything else. It's not like collectively an entire generation got together and decided "it's 'no problem' now instead of 'you're welcome', okay?" Language evolves over time after all, and knowing why that happens and the actual causes for it are something that will require a lot more analysis than a couple of anecdotes from the internet.

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Hobbes_Dent 4 points 2 years ago

Yeah, sorry, I should add that I refer to the article, not your posting of it.

The meat of the thing is a rando reply to a tweet by a guy, not any research the guy did.

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Zoomboingding 6 points 2 years ago

As a not-so-young-anymore young person, I've always said "no problem" for exactly this reason

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Makeshift 1 point 2 years ago

More of an observation on a generational shift. A culture change with a language change coming with it.

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CooperRedArmyDog 3 points 2 years ago

and yet the youngers are the "entitled generation"

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macabrett 49 points 2 years ago

you can say "you're welcome", its no problem

you can also say "no problem"

hope this helps, you're welcome

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Rhaedas 42 points 2 years ago

Languages change over time. As long as the intent is clear, don't get hung up on what is and isn't "correct". "You're welcome" probably was seen as extreme at some point itself.

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Ephera 16 points 2 years ago

I mean, I'm fully on board with not getting hung up on what's "correct", but these are words that do have a specific meaning and I do find it interesting that the preferred choice of words shifts (even if it is only caused by relatively few people, that actually think about their word choice there).

Specifically, "no problem" is kind of like saying "there's nothing to thank me for". And ultimately, it kind of says "I don't expect something in return".

Whereas "you're welcome" acknowledges that yes, I did help you, you are right to thank me for that, and also kind of "I would appreciate you returning the favor".

My personal theory is that the change in language happens, because we have a lot more contacts with strangers, either in big/foreign cities or online.
When you help a stranger, you know upfront that they won't be able to return the favor, simply because you won't stay in contact. So, not only should it definitely not be a personal sacrifice for you to help them, it also feels right to communicate that they don't owe you anything, so that they can go on in their life.

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lanolinoil 6 points 2 years ago

Wow -- I think you're right this makes a lot of sense

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Eranziel 5 points 2 years ago

I kind of disagree with you, in that when I think about the standalone meanings of the words in each phrase, I think they do say the same thing.

The meaning of the words "You are welcome [to the help I gave you]" implies, to me, that there wasn't actually anything to offer thanks over. You're acknowledging their thanks, but telling them that they are welcome to take/use whatever it is you're talking about. [EDIT: normally when someone tells me I'm welcome to something, I feel less compelled to ask and thank in the future. "You're welcome to anything in the fridge", for example.]

It does not imply, to me, that I would appreciate them returning the favour. That might be implied meaning in the phrase, but it's definitely not what those words mean by themselves.

In any case, "You're welcome", "no problem", "no worries", etc... are all idioms that mean something different than what their individual words mean. The phrases as a whole carry a different meaning than the words themselves suggest.

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intensely_human -3 points 2 years ago

No “You’re welcome” means “You deserved that thing already”.

That’s why the Spanish equivalent is “de nada”. It means “You’re thanking me for something that was already yours”

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Ephera 7 points 2 years ago

I don't disagree with your interpretation of "you're welcome". At the end of the day, it is still a phrase which sort of weakens a "thanks", out of politeness.
I'm saying that there's a difference between "you deserved that thing already" and "there was nothing I did, which anyone would need to be deservent of".

And "de nada" is actually a bad example here. Yes, the dictionary will tell you that it's a valid translation for "you're welcome", but the actual words translate verbatim to "of nothing", as in "you're thanking me for nothing". So, "de nada" is very much like "no problem" in Spanish.

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JuxtaposedJaguar 3 points 2 years ago

Giving permission by saying yes to a "would you mind" question is the hill I die on. Usually I say "I would not mind" but if I'm feeling frisky I'll say no and watch their brain melt.

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copd 1 point 2 years ago

I got called out for saying someone was "nuts" for competing in the isle of man TT. Which as a conversational objection, was nuts

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klemptor 1 point 2 years ago

What was the beef with "nuts"?

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copd 3 points 2 years ago

Apparently you can't call someone "nuts" because something about disability

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klemptor 2 points 2 years ago

Ay caramba

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AMDIsOurLord 0 points 2 years ago

Languages change, aye

English, only for the worse

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mjhelto 36 points 2 years ago

I saw a post a while back that said millennials use "no problem" instead of "you're welcome" because no problem signifies the act was of little effort and was no problem to do. However, "you're welcome" implies entitlement, as in you are welcomed to my time and effort, or some shit. I don't remember, but yeah, just a "generational thing."

So yeah it's a "can I speak to your manager" boomer thing, as usual. Only group I ever see getting their panties in a wad over a phrase. Just like "Merry Christmas" changing to "Happy Holidays" erases their religion or dares to put other similar holidays, in the same approximate time of the year on equal footing, making their religious holiday less significant.

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Ioughttamow 36 points 2 years ago

The appropriate response is that the debt must be repaid in kind, within the fortnight, lest their house fall into disrepute

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investorsexchange 5 points 2 years ago

Or, simply: noblesse oblige.

Actually, this might be the absolutely most obnoxious possibly response, especially in English. I’ve heard it used unironically in French, and I think I recall hearing it used sardonically in English. Anyone else?

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Notyou 2 points 2 years ago

The only time I say those words, Noblesse Oblige, is when I joined a clan of the same name in Kingdom of Loathing. I was still confused then and we just called it NO.

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amio 32 points 2 years ago

"You're welcome" was always taught to me as the proper thing, but sounds slightly stilted. They express the same sentiment, roughly, but "[it was] no problem" is arguably clearer about it. I personally just think it's a slightly "nicer" nuance.

Of course, sometimes maybe it actually was a problem, and then I'd only say it if going out of my way to be nice about it.

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SuperApples 15 points 2 years ago

Yes, to me, the nuance is what's important here.

"You're welcome" implies you did something good, and you know it. "I am good for doing this for you. You owe me!"

Whereas "no problem" implies it didn't cause you any trouble. "Doing this for you was not detrimental to my life. You owe me nothing."

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TrickDacy 7 points 2 years ago

I agree with this hit somehow some older people see it flip-flopped

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intensely_human 0 points 2 years ago

To older people such as myself (who were using the words before you younger people were), “no problem” means “the problem you might expect this situation to have caused is in fact not there”.

It’s for when someone’s gone beyond what they owed you.

A barista owes you that coffee; it’s their job. You are literally, as a paying customer, welcome to that coffee.

But someone who has asked a fellow patron to watch their laptop while they go to the bathroom, has received a favor beyond what the roles make expected. This could be a problem, hence the saying of “No problem” to nullify the implied question “Is there a problem?”

It’s kind of like the way someone might report “No injuries” after a crash (which could conceivably produce injuries).

It’s the spoken second half of this unspoken exchange:

“Problem?”

“No problem”

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Zeppo 5 points 2 years ago

I grew up saying “you’re welcome” but I don’t interpret “no problem” that way at all. It’s never occurred to me even. I tend to say more “oh, of course!” or “hey anytime” though.

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TrickDacy 1 point 2 years ago

Gotcha. Thanks for the explanation

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HubertManne 4 points 2 years ago

I really don't think your welcome is meant to mean you owe me.

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sping 2 points 2 years ago

You owe me

So by saying you are welcome to their action, people are actually saying the opposite? That you are not welcome to it at all? You're saying it's ironic?

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intensely_human -1 points 2 years ago

“You’re welcome” means exactly the opposite of “You owe me”

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bfg9k 31 points 2 years ago

I always go with 'No worries' or 'All good', because 'You're welcome' feels too formal for everyday conversations, plus as another comment mentioned it's a generational thing as well

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Corkyskog 8 points 2 years ago

See it's not that "You're Welcome" is too formal, I just can't say it without almost breaking out into this.... Now it just almost sounds sarcastic

And sometimes I just can't help myself and I ad lib all the lyrics to whatever situation I am in. That movie completely ruined it for me.

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funkless_eck 3 points 2 years ago

yer welks, guv'nor

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Buddahriffic 2 points 2 years ago

"You're welcome" is too much of a commitment for me. What if I don't want to help next time but already told the other party they were welcome to my help? Formally revoking that welcome sounds really awkward.

"No problem" is just more honest because it keeps the scope to the current episode. Unless it was a problem but I'm glossing over it to just end the episode, in which case it's still better than "you're welcome".

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Randelung 0 points 2 years ago

"Sure"

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SnotFlickerman 25 points 2 years ago

Disclaimer: These are just my dumb thoughts with zero scientific evidence. Consider the opinion accordingly.

I think it's tied to how overwhelmed everyone is at all times now. Part of it is often "thanks" is said while someone is beelining out the door, so you don't often have an opportunity to even say "you're welcome." Further, "no problem" is far more indicative of "actually, you didn't inconvenience me at all by getting my help" in a society where everyone is absolutely time-starved due to overwork/underpay. It's saying to the person saying "thank you" that "it's okay to have minorly inconvenienced me, it was worth doing anyway."

Because yes, I am more likely to say "no problem" at this point than "you're welcome" because most of the time I am dispensing technical information and advice that people usually have to pay to get. That's the other aspect of it too, we've normalized that you have to pay to get anything decent (service or product) and so people offering technical skills and advice outside of a payment plan is definitely viewed differently.

"You're welcome" is valid but just doesn't play well in a fast-paced society where everyone expects to have to pay through the nose for decent help and generally doesn't have the time to give out those kind of favors themselves.

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cerement 34 points 2 years ago

in a society where everyone is absolutely time-starved due to overwork/underpay

“You’re welcome” can almost appear condescending or stuck up in those situations whereas “No problem” comes across as an attempt to be a little more genuine

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Lmaydev 9 points 2 years ago

It's funny you say that because some older people see no problem as rude. Like I know it wasn't a problem haha

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cerement 7 points 2 years ago

that’s when you hit them with “okay, boomer”

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OldManBOMBIN 22 points 2 years ago

I read somewhere a few years ago that the decline of "you're welcome" is due to a shifting in definitions or whatever- "you're welcome" has come to mean "you are always welcome to my free labor" whereas "no problem" says something more like "I don't have an issue spending my time on you."

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captain_aggravated 22 points 2 years ago

I think to a lot of younger people, "You're Welcome" is the thing one older person insisted you say when you absolutely do not actually mean it. So younger people have found something else to say when they actually do mean it.

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Pandantic 17 points 2 years ago

Hey do you guys know what “you’re welcome” is in Spanish? “De Nada” which means “of nothing”. Sounds almost like, “no problem”.

This phrase isn’t new, either. It’s been around for centuries, just like the first instances of “you’re welcome”.

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vzq 15 points 2 years ago

“You’re welcome” is a silly colonial affectation. In British English you just shut up and smile.

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SnotFlickerman 1 point 2 years ago

Stiff upper lip and all that.

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mdhughes 15 points 2 years ago

Most languages respond something like "it's nothing", de nada. English is a little weird saying "welcome".

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laughingsquirrel 6 points 2 years ago

Well, in German we say "bitte" or "gern geschehen", which is close to the "welcome". Of course, people can and do also say "kein Problem". I guess in my experience it depends on how I feel about the task and the person I did it for.

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toastal 2 points 2 years ago

Thai/Lao is ไม่เป็นไร/ບໍ່​ເປັນ​ຫຍັງ translated as (implied subject “it”) + negation marker + copula + anything or “it’s nothing”

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sping 1 point 2 years ago

It varies regionally. While "you're welcome" is not at all unusual in the UK, it's nowhere near as expected and standard as it is in the US.

I often hear "not at all" as a response, just like "de nada". It's also common in the UK not to respond at all, as the thanks are expected.

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mrcleanup 12 points 2 years ago

Because the customer has become an entitled piece of shit and you don't tell an abuser "you're welcome."

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StrongHorseWeakNeigh 11 points 2 years ago
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Dagwood222 11 points 2 years ago

"My pleasure" is another alternative. I helped you because it makes me feel good, so you're doing me the favor.

Obsequious in a business setting, but nice in a social situation.

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RiderExMachina 10 points 2 years ago path: 0 9718162, hotness: undefined, score: 10, children: 1
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Donebrach 9 points 2 years ago

You’re welcome to use language however you want, regardless of what the algorithm decides.

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VaultBoyNewVegas 9 points 2 years ago

I'm a fan of the local nae bother from my country.

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SpiderShoeCult 2 points 2 years ago

I'm also a fan of the Scottish way.

A close second is the 'no bodder' from Ireland.

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VaultBoyNewVegas 3 points 2 years ago

Nae bother is Norn Irish. Said in a strong Belfast accent normally.

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SpiderShoeCult 2 points 2 years ago

Ha. Today I learned. I read it in a Scottish tone, seemed to fit

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VaultBoyNewVegas 1 point 2 years ago

Oh, also the bother is pronounced without the th included. So it's boh-er.

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Zahille7 8 points 2 years ago

I usually say "of course" or "absolutely" instead of "you're welcome" or "no problem."

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RandomVideos 7 points 2 years ago

I usually like to run away when someone says "thanks!"

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Melatonin 5 points 2 years ago

I like a hearty "No, thank YOU!" and let the feedback loop begin.

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DLSantini 6 points 2 years ago

I don't say it because you are, in fact, not welcome. I finish interactions with customers, even when they say thank you to me, by saying "thank you, have a nice day", as my non fireable version of "I'll thank you to kindly fuck off now."

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HubertManne 2 points 2 years ago

thank you, come again.

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intensely_human -1 points 2 years ago

Damn it must suck to hate your customers

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____ 7 points 2 years ago

You say, as if that sentiment isn’t nearly universal.

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JackiesFridge 5 points 2 years ago

Time to adopt a jaunty wink, finger guns, and a hearty "You got it, sport!" as the default response. What could possibly go wrong?

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scorpious 5 points 2 years ago

There’s also my press, “my pleasure,” or “glad I could help !” (If I mean it!)

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spez_ 4 points 2 years ago

I don't care.

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Klicnik 4 points 2 years ago

It's too bad Apple don't think all the thoughts I want to think for me anymore. Oh well. 8GB of RAM is all I need, and I have removed "You're welcome" from my lexicon.

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RizzRustbolt 4 points 2 years ago

I'll give a barely imperceptable nod in return.

Anything more than that means you have inconvenienced me and I wish you nothing but Ill will for the rest of your life.

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Swarfega 4 points 2 years ago

Where I am from, saying thank you doesn't warrant a response. It's certainly something I heard when I took a trip to New York though.

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dandroid 4 points 2 years ago

I think "you're welcome" is just too formal. I would say it to a customer, not my friend.

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sbv 4 points 2 years ago

Fifteen years ago when I was traveling around California and Nevada, I was weirded out at how sales people responded to "thank you". They either said "yup", "ok", or stayed silent. I assumed it was a regional thing.

In central and eastern Canada, we say it.

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Black_Gulaman 3 points 2 years ago

i use it sarcastically in normal conversations with friends

i use it seriously when replying to my bosses in a corporate environment.

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swordgeek 3 points 2 years ago

My sister noticed in 1995 that Americans almost universally reply to 'thank you' with 'uh huh.'

I can't not hear it when I visit now,

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ghen 2 points 2 years ago

We're embarrassed that the little effort we managed to produce on this obviously good day of the depression cycle was worthy of thanks, so we're trying to scuttle away from what feels like praise.

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Ultragigagigantic 3 points 2 years ago

I can say "You're welcome"... for money!

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HubertManne 2 points 2 years ago

I use yw all the time.

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nutsack 2 points 2 years ago

why don't we add more useless sayings to this throaway conversation script?

thank you
you're welcome
thank you for welcoming me
you're thanked as well
welcome to my house
allow me to vacuum your dick

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jbrains 2 points 2 years ago

I have just recently chosen to revive it. I'm not really sure why. I presume it's a matter of arbitrary fashion either way.

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trslim 2 points 2 years ago

I just say, "Uh-huh!" Or "Yeah!" Like an idiot.

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fruitycoder 2 points 2 years ago

It depends on how I feel. 90% of the time I don't want sone one to feel obligated so no problem is my response. When its truely a favor I am helping with its your welcome. When i would have done it for my own sake I want to say "my pleasure" but mostly say "of course!".

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dependencyinjection 2 points 2 years ago

De nada.

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Melatonin 1 point 2 years ago

El gusto es mío

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mukt 2 points 2 years ago

Am I the only one who remembers "My pleasure" ?

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cowfodder 2 points 2 years ago path: 0 9723968, hotness: undefined, score: 2, children: 0
CanadaPlus 1 point 2 years ago

Hmm, honestly the word itself is uncommon now, at least where I live. I wonder if that's related.

To me, by default "welcome" means to a place. "You're welcome to the cookies" sounds archaic or British or something.

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Resol 1 point 2 years ago

That's all I still use nowadays, I thought the others fell out of use.

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sparr 1 point 2 years ago

Yes. It's been disappearing since before I was born in the 80s, and is mostly gone now.

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halferect 0 points 2 years ago

You're welcome comes off as passive aggressive. I was forced for years to say you're welcome when I never really meant it, but when I say no problem or no worries I actually mean it so I still use you're welcome but I might as well be saying go fuck yourself

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CosmicCleric -5 points 2 years ago

What happened to "You're welcome!" as a response to "Thank You"? It's not even included the one canned answers on an apple watch. Have we as a society abandoned it? I hear “No problem” far more often.

I've used both equally. "Thank you!" when I'm more appreciative about what was gifted/helped, and "No problem" when I just wish to be courteous and acknowledge, or I'm indifferent to, the aid that was given me.

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intensely_human -11 points 2 years ago

I hate “no problem”. It implies you’ve imposed somehow on the other person.

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hakobo 6 points 2 years ago

If somebody is thanking you, you likely exerted effort on their behalf. So they say "thank you" for exerting effort, and then you respond with exerting effort was "no problem" you don't need to thank me. You're welcome would be a response more along the lines of "you are welcome" to make me exert effort.

They're both fine, and it's both a generational and locational thing. I personally prefer "no problem" because honestly I don't mind helping, but I'm also not giving you permission to use my effort at any time. You can have my efforts when it doesn't cause a problem.

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