I'm 35. Still waiting for life to stop being miserable. No hope in sight.

You don’t want to dry out those tear ducts and go on empty when you turn 60!

im in my 30s i dont feel like i have any time, energy, or money

It's when you probably have your life in order and are comfortable with who you are. It's a good time when you are most you.

Though for those who haven't got either of those, it's probably not going to be a good time. I feel for those people, I know a few.

I'm happy with myself in my 30's it's always nice to think of telling my younger self of the stuff I've done. British business the younger would be very surprised and absolutely jazzed about it.

same boat

Maybe start fighting back?

Or, you know, sit there and get old and take it like a coward

Or, more likely, keep pretending that you’re not still WAY too comfortable to do fuck all

Hey don't bring your positivity around here, I was just about to feel sorry for myself and blame my misgivings on stuff that isn't me.

Yeah, I have enjoyed all the ages so far for different reasons but it has basically been the same for the last couple of decades other than whatever I have going on at the time. Like getting married, having a kid, changes in work and the rest were all big and important life changing things, but it has been a mix of mostly good and a little bad for almost 5 decades and I'm good with that.

You should get that taken care of. An occasional twinge now and then is normal, but constant pain? In your thirties? That ain't standard. In your forties, I could believe - although it still wouldn't be standard. But your back should still be in relatively good nick in your thirties, unless you lift heavy things for a living. In your thirties a backache should be nothing a good night's sleep, a nice stretch, and a long leisurely walk can't fix.

Unless... you DO lift with your knees, right? When you need to lift something? And keep your back straight and chin up while doing so? People don't constantly say to do that just for shits and giggles - it's universally good advice.

Try powerlifting.

Hell yes to this. Childhood, Highschool, and even in to college were some of the worst years of my life. I never want to repeat them. Sometimes I fantasize about what it would have been like to be "normal", but I love who I am now and l do not want to give that up or go back.

Being an adult is awesome. I get to have a motorcycle, my own cat, I can build whatever I want, I can have chickens if I want, and I have a really cute wife. What could I do as a kid? Go to school? Live with my parents? Hang out with people who had the minds of children? Boooring.

Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven't seen in years. Maybe never again.

The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.

It’s hard because there seems to be no place to hang out and meet people either. Not for a date, just to chill and make friends.

Something I really cherish is a scheduled phone call with two of my college buddies, themed on a movie or TV show we agree to watch that week.

One of us just abruptly made a group chat and asked if we'd be down, and we've been doing it for years now, I highly reccomend!

We'll have a bright future, but we'll also have to fight for it

My egg cracked in my late 20s. I'm 31 now and ~2 years on HRT. Its been only a few months since my last coming out and since I stopped boymoding entirely. I have changed at least as much as a person in these last few months as in the years between my egg crack and then. Its amazing how you can actually just do stuff and have fun and meet new people and be happy when you're not depressed anymore and feel good about yourself and learn to have confidence and realize that you actually do have free will and can just do stuff if you want to.

It really does get better and fighting through the hard times is so absolutely worth it!

That is very interesting, at 29? I'm about to get diagnosed for ADHD a month from now.

I attribute this to gaining to ability to stand up for yourself near the end of your twenties, whilst before, they just pacify you and keep you unaware, unt you suffer enough.

I like to think I did my 20s right, if that means anything. Partied often, built my career, worked on my established, longstanding friendships. I lived a bit wildly, but I also think that I gradually wound those things down. I have been in my career since I was 20, but in my mid-20s, my friends would show up to my jobs at night, I'd change out of my suit in the bathroom, and we'd all take a train into Manhattan, on a Tuesday or Wednesday. It's something I couldn't even consider. Our nights started at 1030, 11. Now, that's essentially when they end for me.

I'm now in as late as your 30s get, have kids, and that lifestyle is a very distant past, which I'm happy about. I have friends who still like to live it, and that's cool. I'll hang out with them, but I also have no problem tapping out early, and they also don't care that I do. We're all past the point of "uno mas," which is funny because it's been the name of our group chat for the past 15 years, and it's okay. I had fun, it's no longer what I want to do for fun, and that's cool with me and everyone.

It's nice to all grow to a point where peer pressure has seemed to finally met it's demise, although I do always say peer pressure is a great motivator of youth, and I wouldn't change my youth for a second, because my present is great.

Does your weiner get little again?

60 here. Can confirm.

While I was still doing well at 50, the ten years since have been a steady decline. But, you can slow the rate by exercising and cleaning up your diet, if you still eat like you're 30.

I remember my 30th birthday well, I suddenly grew a six pack and backflipped onto a motorbike mounted onto a jetski and then moonwalked the 100m race faster than Jamiroquai on stilts

damn kids, wait til you're 50.

This. Just had an existential crisis at 40-43. Slowly recovering and regaining a bit of perspective but holy shit did that hit hard. I've never had mental problems before, so this really fucked me up something good.

It's great when all of the fun/exciting friends you had die or get locked up, and every potential love interest you come across is married/loaded down with kids/fucked up from a past relationship/is only interested in a complicated open relationship.

I'm not projecting.

One of the moat depressing things I used to hear as a kid was how this was the best part of my life and I should enjoy it.

it took me about two years to truly realize i was in my 30s (I'm a bit stupid) but once that happened a massive weight lifted from my shoulders. i suddenly realized, wait, I'm a grown-ass man, i don't have to deal with this bullshit. i became more confident, took no shit from people and stopped dealing with teenage drama. yes about 10 years too late but that's when i realized some of the shit i used to entertain didn't even matter.

You'd be making dollars!

Also add this to pasta

Wait! You didn’t have to work full time in your 20’s? I’ve been working full time since I was 21

No see the device over there?

I think the number thirty is being blamed, not because your life is actually "over" when you turn thirty, but because that TENDS to be roughly the age most people start having kids, and having kids certainly DOES cause major changes in lifestyle.

best guess is there's some kind of prevailing notion that when you're not young any more, you're old, which those nearing their 30s dread while 30 pluses refuse to accept they're middle aged

Well Americans don't have good health care and have to constantly worry/ think about money so...

Can't say I know shit about it, but my folks in the 80s watched a show called thirtysomethings, a sitcom, don't watch it. Not my problem.

I like her darker, edgier stuff. That comic she made about the cannibal lepers on the moon of Annares really spoke to my inner child

Pretty great so far, honestly