what's something you're into that you don't want anyone you know irl to know about?

3 years ago by LaunchesKayaks to c/asklemmy

I really like fanfiction. Reading and writing it. Nobody in my life knows and I plan on keeping it that way.

j4k3 91 points 3 years ago

Pretty much everything from AI to Atheism to Lemmy to whatever interesting things I'm mulling over because I'm stuck disabled, living with crazy religious nutters family that have no fundamental logic skills.

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sir_pronoun 28 points 3 years ago

Holy shit bro, hang in there - any chance of dating (maybe other disabled?) people and getting the hell out of there, or something like that? There are flats disabled people share, where they help each other, too, right?

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PoliticallyIncorrect -1 points 3 years ago

What's the next end of the world year?

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cizra -50 points 3 years ago
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stjobe 46 points 3 years ago

"Atheism is a religion in the same way that not collecting stamps is a hobby"

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michaelmrose 5 points 3 years ago

I like "in the same way bald is a hair color"

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j4k3 22 points 3 years ago

Evidence based existence is what I believe in personally. Speculation and fantasy can be useful in some parts of life, but for me, imaginary friends are a mental health disorder in anyone claiming they are real.

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uriel238 1 point 3 years ago

Imaginary friends are quite common among children, and there are processes in some mental wellness practices that invoke imaginary friends.

One of them is the wise mind in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, in which one taps into their adulting conscience (related to the adult in transactional analysis).

If a patient struggles directly invoking the wise mind, they can invoke a fiction, similar to the Christian tradition of WWJD A patient struggling with a home management problem might imagine asking Albert Einstein for advice, and then imagine how Einstein might respond. (Substitute anyone, including darker archetypes: Satan, Darth Vader, Joan Collins, Barbara Bush...)

Given some people who do believe in spiritual or supernatural elements might get the same effect from talking to God, or channeling spirits, they can get the same benefit even if their beliefs can be inconsistent either with modern science, or with their own ministries (who want their parishioners to go to them for direction).

So, no, regardless of whether or not delusions, misinformation or self-deceptions are involved, imaginary friends are not intrinsically dysfunctional or a sign of mental illness.

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j4k3 3 points 3 years ago

You are comparing a mental exercise to a belief in an alternate reality. These are not the same. I don't support making excuses for people that lack fundamental logic skills.

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Silentiea 2 points 3 years ago

I'm totally with you and I get it, and the previous commenter could have written in a kinder tone, but

imaginary friends are a mental health disorder in anyone claiming they are real.

I don't think therapists usually encourage their patients to claim they actually got the advice from Einstein or Darth Vader or whomever. And I can give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they meant "adults" rather than "humans" when they said people.

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cizra -13 points 3 years ago
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Redacted 7 points 3 years ago

Logic and reasoning preferably with scientific evidence.

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A_Very_Big_Fan 5 points 3 years ago

Sort of like how you can only get so much evidence for aliens or Bigfoot and you just have to trust the conspiracy theorists about the rest

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meyotch 14 points 3 years ago

How about you define your own belief system and let others choose their own words?

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Silentiea 3 points 3 years ago

Right? Imagine telling someone claiming to be a Christian that "actually, Christian implies you believe (specific idea about Jesus my church goes for and yours doesn't)."

That'd be a good way to get bloodied in a lot of places

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starman2112 13 points 3 years ago

Atheism is a lack of belief, not a belief in a lack

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morphballganon 2 points 3 years ago

What would you call a belief in a lack?

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starman2112 3 points 3 years ago

Gnostic atheism, as opposed to agnostic atheism. Atheism as a label doesn't imply one or the other, it's simply a lack of belief in a god.

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A_Very_Big_Fan 13 points 3 years ago

atheism is a belief "God doesn't exist!"

The only people who think this are theists. Gnostic atheists and agnostic atheists are both atheists.

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uriel238 12 points 3 years ago

Atheism runs a long gamut of epistemic positions. Rare are those who hold a fast believe that God doesn't exist (by any definition). The default atheist position is that we don't know and the standards we use to test or hold positions of belief regarding other things we don't know about (from the nature of ball lightning to the possibility of cyptids or -- to cite some common thought experiments -- invisible pink unicorns or fairies at the bottom of the garden) can also be applied to spiritual and supernatural elements like human souls, Hell and God.

This may sound agnostic, and as per other identities, we are each free to choose the identity name we prefer. But what we have established from centuries and centuries of observation stacks pretty heavily against the supernatural assertions of popular religious faiths. We can expect that Jesus didn't likely actually rise from the dead, just as much as we can expect neither Zeus nor Thor nor Adonai command the thunderbolts (rather they seem to hold fast to electrostatic mechanics, and replaceable grounded lightning rods do a lot of heavy lifting redirecting lighting away from the big iron bells in steeples and bell towers... or doing too much damage to Christ the Redeemer in Rio De Janero.

Classical agnosticism comes from a Christian tradition, asserting we don't know which interpretation of scripture is right, or if there's another explanation, but that is part of the test of faith. In the modern day as Dawkins noted in his 2002 Call to Arms TED lecture, agnostic is atheism lite, not willing to admit that God as He is (They are) understood to be by most folk, is not just improbable, but infinitesimally probable based on our knowledge of the mechanics of the physical world...and on the conspicuous silence of the supernatural (We checked! A lot!).

So a safe differentiation might look like this:

Agnostic: I believe there's a 10% chance Jesus was resurrected by divine miracle.

Atheist: I believe there's a non-zero but insignificant chance Jesus was resurrected by divine miracle

I'm a naturalist, which is to say, I haven't been able to find any evidence for supernatural events, and regard them much the way I would the notion there are invisible pink unicorns that live in Angeles Crest Forest. This is not to say science has figured out everything (we still struggle to make sense of ball lightning, though it's definitely a thing in Missouri) but much of what we figured out points away from all the other common models.

I can speculate there is a God (or a pantheon of gods) but this gets classified with a range of other possibilities, such as the simulation hypothesis, or Azathoth's dream. (We may all be figments of Azathoth's imagination, but if so, Azathoth has provided for a robust dream-scape that is extremely consistent with its physical mechanics, even when we try to break reality.) Any of these could be true, but for sake of day-to-day living, our world appears consistently to behave as material, and nothing else.

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PoliticallyIncorrect -2 points 3 years ago

What's the real difference(evidence) between Religion and Schizophrenia?

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uriel238 1 point 3 years ago

What’s the real difference (evidence) between Religion and Schizophrenia?

This is something of a problematic question, and my first take on it is that it was asked contemptuously, or in bad faith. It's also very easy to infer you imagine schizophrenia as Hollywood insanity, what is used to justify Mrs. Voorhees or Michael Meyers as slasher killers rather than as an actual mental health diagnosis from the DSM. I can't help but wonder if you regard all persons who suffer from mental illness as violent or degenerate or otherwise less of a person than those who are undiagnosed.

So one difference between religion and schizophrenia is this: The psychiatric sector estimates one in three-hundred people worldwide content with schizo-effective disorders. 251 people in three-hundred are associated with an organized religion. As identities and clubs go, religions are way popular.

In fact, there are multiple fields of study about the interaction between religious practice and mental health, including abnormal psychology, or the study of mental illness, so I'm not going to imagine I can infer the meat of your juxtaposition.

Diagnoses are not intended for any other use than to inform treatment for the patient. They are especially not used to deny civil rights to a given person because they received a diagnosis from a medical professional. In order for someone to be committed (in a modern, civilized society) they have to be an imminent danger to themselves or others, which has to be established beyond a diagnosis.

Schizophrenics are statistically less of a danger to themselves or others than the general population. They are represented disproportionately among victims of violence, including officer-involved violence. And schizophrenics can sometimes operate heavy machinery, including firearms, safely and expertly. That doesn't mean they aren't affected by their illness, just that in some cases, it doesn't interfere with their career. Contrast religious people who, as a demographic, are more violent than the general population and are convicted of violent crime more often than the general population, but not by much, since most of the general population is religious.

Irreligious people, like tabletop role-players are just not very violent.

All that said, I don't know what exactly you were trying to ask. I read it something like what's the difference between an orange and a sparrow egg? Well, one's bigger?

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Redacted 11 points 3 years ago

No they don't and agnosticism isn't an upgrade, it's just sitting on the fence.

Most athiests are agnostic to some degree and vice versa.

The burden of proof lies with the person making the extraordinary claim.

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doctordevice 4 points 3 years ago

Agnostic atheist: Doesn't believe in any gods, claims the existence or nonexistence of gods is fundamentally unknowable

Gnostic atheist: Doesn't believe in any gods, claims to know no gods exist

Agnostic theist: Believes in god(s), claims the existence or nonexistence of gods is fundamentally unknowable

Gnostic theist: Believes in god(s), claims to know that those god(s) exist

I think all four types of people exist in decent numbers, but personally I, as an agnostic atheist, think either version of agnosticism is the only logically sound position. Gnosticism just feels disingenuous to me. Unfortunately I get the feeling that Christianity in the US is slipping further and further towards gnostic theism, and with that comes very dogmatic and oppressive rhetoric and actions.

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Redacted 3 points 3 years ago

As an atheist who would fully accept the existence of a deity if any form of rigorous proof was provided, these boxes are dumb.

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michaelmrose 1 point 3 years ago

Gnostic atheism is only unsound if you insist we make absolute statements like 2 != 1 instead of speaking in absolutes as shorthand for probabilities that tend towards insignificance which is literally how people think and communicate outside of math. Attempts to approach philosophy like math are generally nonsense because our understand is far too underdeveloped for that to be anything but cargo cult antics.

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bionicjoey 1 point 3 years ago

I disagree with the person you are replying to using the word "upgrade", but also with your characterization of agnosticism as "just sitting on the fence". It's a coherent belief in its own right, not simply a refusal to choose between other options.

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Redacted -2 points 3 years ago

Now that you mention it, I'm not entirely convinced it is a fully coherent belief in its own right, more of a lack of wanting to enter the debate or a subcategory of atheism.

Shall we try it with unicorns? Unicorn believer says they saw a unicorn.

Atheist viewpoint would say something along the lines of "To persuade me they exist I'd need to see one in the flesh or at the very least a full anatomical breakdown of how their magical properties work with corroboration from other unicorn enthusiasts."

The agnostic standpoint is what exactly? "We can't know whether unicorns exist or not so there's no point discussing it."?

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SwingingTheLamp 5 points 3 years ago

Here's another way to look at it, then. By popular definition, an agnostic person believes that there is no ontological proof for the existence or non-existence of God, or the divine. The agnostic person is thereby operating within the conceptual framework of religion. (A lot of agnostics in the Western world are agnostic specifically about the existence of the particular God of Abrahamic religions.)

On the other hand, atheists are simply not concerned with or do not recognize divinity, as a concept. In a way, it's like how nobody holds an affirmative belief that Spiderman does not exist as a real human, because superheroes are categorically fictional, and it's not even ontologically possible.

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Silentiea 1 point 3 years ago

Umm, I'm Spider-Man agnostic, actually. There's still time for 2099 to prove canonical.

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michaelmrose 4 points 3 years ago

The statement that god doesn't exist can be best described as dismissal of a class of theories asserted without evidence and thus dismissed without any. People don't exhaustively examine the universe they examine enough of it to make theories and draw increasingly strong conclusions. Pretending there is no difference between asserting for no reason something is true AGAINST mountains of actual evidence like asserting your particular religions deity is real and drawing strong theories based on reasonable analysis is disingenuous. You didn't examine every chimney to conclude santa isn't real and I didn't examine every iota of the natural world to conclude it doesn't have a creator. .

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Mac 81 points 3 years ago

D,E,&I. I work with and am generally surrounded by a bunch of conservative MAGA fucks.

Literally last week my team coach said to us that anyone who got the jab deserves to die. What a fucking idiot.

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Valmond 35 points 3 years ago

Are people still on about that? Haven't those ones moved on to the next thing after we didn't all die? Call them out, it's 6G cell towers now and eh, another kabal. Revelations Any day soon! Promise!

Lol

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MojoMcJojo 7 points 3 years ago

With things heating up in Israel, and AI showing, my boss thinks it a definite sign of the end times. He was convinced that the riots were a sign, now he's all in on the rapture coming.

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Serinus 3 points 3 years ago

I call them "Left Behind" Christians, after the books.

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mPony 5 points 3 years ago

they're not left, they're just Behind

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surewhynotlem 26 points 3 years ago

Anyone who says others "deserve to die" needs to be removed from society. That kind of mindset is dangerous, bordering on threatening.

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JusticeForPorygon 17 points 3 years ago

Average day in a red state

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starman2112 10 points 3 years ago

I would not be able to resist the urge to ask him directly if he thinks I deserve to die

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Omgarm 7 points 3 years ago

What's D,E&I?

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Silentiea 12 points 3 years ago path: 0 7660621 7685445 7692390, hotness: undefined, score: 12, children: 0
Emperor 66 points 3 years ago

No one IRL knows I help run a Lemmy instance and I plan on keeping it that way for now as it's going to take too much explaining.

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LaunchesKayaks 87 points 3 years ago

I've tried explaining Lemmy to people and they do not understand. They are like "just use reddit bro"

I stopped using Reddit when the API protests happened and haven't gone back. I honestly think Lemmy is far superior. I love seeing and interacting with the same people in varying threads. Feels like an actual community.

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otter 36 points 3 years ago

"Reddit but run by non profits" is the simplest I find, even though that's not completely accurate

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Silentiea 7 points 3 years ago

"Like reddit but not owned by a single company" is how I've put it.

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LemmyIsFantastic 2 points 3 years ago
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b3an 11 points 3 years ago

Now Reddit had straight up opened their doors for AI training, which ofc they get money for. Off the Reddit users content. Fuck you Spez.

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technomad 5 points 3 years ago

Sadly, that's the reaction I've gotten as well. Most people I know in real life just don't care enough to even look into it, and the fediverse in general is an incomprehensible subject to them.

*sigh

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JeffKerman1999 3 points 3 years ago

I am halfway through. I deleted my old account and tried to use Lemmy, but formula1 is dead here and only on Reddit I find my dose of heroin news

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wjrii 2 points 3 years ago

The bargain I've made with myself is that Reddit is now a read-only adblock-only resource for me, and I'm prepared for it to go away on it's own. I don't post there, but I was active in several niche communities, and was a voice in the crowd on a few more popular ones (sportsball related) that don't get a ton of traction here (though this college football season was fun. Hang in there, !cfb@fanaticus.social ), and I'm not going to completely give up checking in on things, but I engage on the Fediverse and a few forums full of crotchety old bastards who never "got" reddit in the first place.

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Silentiea 2 points 3 years ago

Same, but replace sportsball with hobbies and gaming

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ada 5 points 3 years ago

You stole my "joke" :P

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Emperor 1 point 3 years ago

I think it's just a pretty common experience.

I am looking forward to casually dropping into the conversation that I run a social media network.

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DudeDudenson 63 points 3 years ago

Nice try mom

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Omgarm 8 points 3 years ago

Your mom's on Lemmy? You should be proud.

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tiredcapillary 58 points 3 years ago

It's really hard but I struggle to tell people about my operating system. I use Arch BTW.

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Kolanaki 52 points 3 years ago

I don't want any of you to know either.

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thawed_caveman 12 points 3 years ago

This is my answer. There's like a 1% chance that someone i know would find out and i'm not taking it

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FlashMobOfOne 46 points 3 years ago

Sometimes I find myself mourning the person I used to be. I experienced something traumatic in 2018 that changed my entire personality and now suffer from Bipolar II.

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KyuubiNoKitsune 19 points 3 years ago

I get that. I do the same often enough. I went from an outgoing fun person to an anxious shut in that is scared of people.

I hope you find that part of yourself that you lost.

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FlashMobOfOne 16 points 3 years ago

I don't think one ever goes back to that, but you can learn to be comfortable with who you are now, and that's more than most people ever achieve.

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KyuubiNoKitsune 7 points 3 years ago

That's.. Hard. I don't really know how to do that. I miss my old psychologist lol

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FlashMobOfOne 5 points 3 years ago

Definitely.

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weeeeum 36 points 3 years ago

High quality fresh mozzarella sliced thinly into delicate slivers like sashimi, dipped in high quality traditional aged Japanese soy sauce. Eaten with chopsticks of course, similar to conventional sashimi.

I've done a fair share of fine dining and make some very intricate conventional dishes but this weird combo just kind of to gets me. I've never mentioned this to anybody as to not disqualify myself as the "chef guy" but I can't help but like it.

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doctordevice 23 points 3 years ago

Both my brother and my brother-in-law are professional chefs and they each eat the weirdest nonsense on their own. It's like their palettes have to be so refined at work that they need to throw the wildest combos of flavors together at home to feel like they're eating something different.

So if anything I think this qualifies you as the "chef guy."

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astronaut_sloth 11 points 3 years ago

No lie, that actually sounds kinda good and I want to try it.

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weeeeum 13 points 3 years ago

It's gotta be THIN, around 5mm or less. Frankly the thinner the better, it gives it a sort of luxurious melt in your mouth consistency (room temp too). For soy sauce I use Tsuru Bishio 4 year aged soy sauce. It's like 40$ a bottle but it's so strong and rich that I tend to use very little at a time (one bottle lasts me like 6 months).

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captainlezbian 2 points 3 years ago

Ok that sounds heavenly

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charlytune 1 point 3 years ago

Fuck, that sounds good. Gonna try it!

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beirdobaggins 1 point 3 years ago

One of my favorite snacks lately is tamari almonds and a slice of smoked provolone cheese.

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starman2112 34 points 3 years ago

I need someone to know me really well before I let them know I watch anime, because a 30 year old dude who likes anime paints a certain picture

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SendMePhotos 18 points 3 years ago

In your area perhaps. In mine it's pretty common.

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metaStatic 33 points 3 years ago

ASMR

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Landless2029 20 points 3 years ago

I could never get ASMR. Like I understand it but it never triggers. Whispers, plastic crimples, etc. It finally happened to me. Completely by accident.

Backyard metal melting in forges.
The flame of a forge got me the goosepimples good.

15 min in: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jgo4hH1WDyY

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1995ToyotaCorolla 4 points 3 years ago

I was about to recommend bigstackd to you just to click the link and see it was one of his videos. I could watch that guy melt stuff all day

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Landless2029 4 points 3 years ago

I went down the rabbit hole looking at people making their own hydro powered electric generators (from junkyard washing machine parts and some 3D printed parts) to people breaking down stuff and ended up at melting metal...

Wild ride to hit ASMR without planning to!!

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Silentiea 2 points 3 years ago

ASMR just kinda means "pleasant tingling", and videos with asmr in the title tend to just be "neutral stimuli that I hope will make you tingle pleasantly." Mostly they're indistinguishable from "oddly satisfying" videos with the addition of, like, sensual whispers, or something?

I wouldn't be too surprised either way if metal melting in a forge wound up in either collection of asmr or oddly satisfying.

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captainlezbian 31 points 3 years ago

I’d prefer if my family and my coworkers don’t know my wife and I met at a bdsm event. I don’t hide it from friends though

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closetfurry 31 points 3 years ago

Ah, I have nothing I'm hiding from anyone, and I'm totally not posting this from an alt-account

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Theta775 13 points 3 years ago

username DEFINITELY checks out

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WalrusDragonOnABike 1 point 3 years ago

Surprised how often "furry" came up in this thread. Seems like it would be more fun if more people IRL knew. Granted, perhaps its probably better when those IRL people originally were online furry friends that became IRL friends? Idk. Don't consider myself a furry, but also not exactly not-a-furry. But its no secret I watch a lot of furry twitch streams for my immediate family.

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closetfurry 1 point 3 years ago

I've never been one for the "fandom". I just like the pretty pictures. Otherwise, the term has so much baggage since it's so all-encompassing that depending on your social status or workplace, you might not "survive" it coming out

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OldWoodFrame 29 points 3 years ago

I've been really into early Christianity / Biblical textual analysis. I found a priest I like on YouTube I really like and I've watched 100+ hours of lectures of his, plus a couple podcasts and audiobooks.

I'm not religious at all and kinda the stuff I like is the "huh, this is pretty obviously fake/contradictory, interesting nobody saw through this" stuff. It's like anthropologically interesting.

Obviously a dominant religion, not like a fringe thing to know about, but nobody's into these facts in just this way. Don't want to talk about it to religious people, non-religious people don't want to talk about it to me.

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chocosoldier 9 points 3 years ago

even in the deepest depths of my "bitter newly-deconverted atheist" phase i always found the bible and its history downright fascinating. mainline christians and critical atheists alike sell it so short.

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kava 5 points 3 years ago

I read Zealot by Reza Aslan and I thought it was a very interesting look into historical Jesus and early Christianity. I'm likewise not a Christian (I grew up as one, but became cynical at around 12 years old), but I do find fascination in the religion.

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OldWoodFrame 3 points 3 years ago

Historical Jesus is really interesting to me and stuff like how John The Baptist...baptized historical Jesus into something. So probably, Jesus was an acolyte of John The Baptist who went off and founded his own, similar movement. But then early Christians didn't like the implications of their main guy being a spinoff so these weird interpretations like John himself saying at the time 'I don't deserve to do this baptism, but I'm going to anyway for some reason and this other guy is the main guy and also in one gospel I'm Jesus' cousin.'

And also then Jesus' brother James the Just running the church after Jesus and there's a non-canonocal gospel (Thomas I think) that says 'James, for whom the Earth and Sky came into being' or something like that. And Jude calls himself Jude, brother of James. But James is the brother of Jesus so probably he is also the brother of Jesus, but that isn't the most relevant thing about Jude. So what an interesting alt-history you could write where Paul doesn't exist and James' church wins out and he's...also co-God? Or Jesus gets demoted and they're both just Mohammad-style brother prophets?

Oh boy. Here I go theorizin' again.

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kava 3 points 3 years ago

Yeah there's a lot to talk about. I think however that if Paul didn't exist, Christianity would have remained a Jewish cult.

Paul was the Don Draper of the 1st century. He effectively took an illiterate desert people's religion and molded it in such a way where it would be approachable to the gentile and educated Roman citizens.

He was a Greek Jew who understood the gentile world. And he made fantastic stories. Iirc in his earliest letter, which became one of the Bible books I don't remember which, there was nothing about immaculate conception or the 3 day resurrection, or the 3 wise men, etc

But adding all that stuff adds to the legend and mythology and it helped really spread the religion.

I think in a lot of ways, Paul is the founder of Christianity. Of course, Jesus is important. He must have been a fascinating figure in his time. Pontius killed thousands of Jews a year, but we really only talk about one.

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LaunchesKayaks 3 points 3 years ago

Religion fascinates me so much as well. It also thoroughly disgusts me because of how fucked up a lot of practitioners are. The history of it all is interesting AF tho

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Silentiea 3 points 3 years ago

There are terrible people everywhere, they don't need religion to make them that way. What really gets me is religions like WBC that do make all of their people over that terrible stereotype.

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tigeruppercut 3 points 3 years ago

non-religious people don't want to talk about it to me.

There are definitely non-believers who look at the history or philosophy of religion. In high school I remember enjoying a unit about Kierkegaard relating to Jesus's temptations in the desert (Matthew 4, maybe?). Kierkegaard himself may have had some religion, but that's certainly not the case for all the existentialsts.

Whether you're likely to run into agnostics or atheists into religious philosophy on a daily basis is another matter, I suppose.

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lvxferre 28 points 3 years ago
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LaunchesKayaks 9 points 3 years ago

Fantasy is so good at helping forget irl issues. I love it.

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Landless2029 4 points 3 years ago

Escapism...

Started with anime. Then manga/manwha. Now I'm reading novels...

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Perfide 3 points 3 years ago

I love fanfics exploring what-ifs of a work, and myself wrote two or three of those, but assumers immediately associate them with the lemons.

This is it for me, too. I'd wouldn't mind talking about some of the fanfics I've read, but you can't even mention fanfiction without people assuming you're essentially reading porn.

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BOLOID 25 points 3 years ago

None of my family members know what a furry is and i'm keeping it that way.

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arin 11 points 3 years ago

Thank you

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Filthmontane 22 points 3 years ago

Communism

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Silentiea 15 points 3 years ago

This one right here. I mean people know that I am pretty left-leaning or whatever, but if my dad found out that I think socialism is actually a good idea, I think he'd react worse than when he found out I was trans.

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Filthmontane 7 points 3 years ago

I work in Florida for Raytheon and most of my coworkers likely have a photo of either Reagan or Trump above their fireplace. I don't get to talk politics very often. My mom knows , but the rest of my family doesn't. I get into yelling matches with my mom over politics all the time.

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Mango 21 points 3 years ago

What I fap to. I'll never hear the end of it and I'd like to have life be normal between faps.

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tigeruppercut 7 points 3 years ago

Your real friends wouldn't judge you for your dragons wearing nun habits fetish

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Mango 5 points 3 years ago

I don't need friends that close.

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xkforce 19 points 3 years ago

Anime

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LaunchesKayaks 6 points 3 years ago

I am incredibly picky with the anime I watch, so I don't watch much of it. Thankfully I associate with people who also watch anime, so I don't have to hide it lol

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starman2112 2 points 3 years ago

My problem is that the people I associate with that watch anime, watch anime that I don't. It's not a genre, it's a medium, and there is not much common ground between Haibane Renmei and My Hero Academia

But yeah, it is nice to be able to have computer wallpapers and wall art without the people I know thinking I'm an /a/ style weeb

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Mediocre_Bard 18 points 3 years ago
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Sprawlie 4 points 3 years ago

Azeroth is home.

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HereIAm 1 point 3 years ago

I've really been enjoying my time with wow classic. I started playing on a vanilla private server a couple of years before classic came. I've really enjoyed the journey through all the expansions again.

Just cleared gnomeregan yesterday in Sod. Good times.

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itsralC 18 points 3 years ago

Homestuck, Undertale, Hazbin Hotel, and all those popular pieces of media that get overshadowed by their shitty fandoms

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Ookami38 8 points 3 years ago

I have so much more fun with most things just enjoying it and not engaging with the fan base at ALL.

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itsralC 4 points 3 years ago

Exactly

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HoustonHenry 3 points 3 years ago

I knew about Hazbin, but the others are new to me. Thank you for the suggestions!

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Silentiea 2 points 3 years ago

I feel like homestuck, at least, is hard to disentangle from its fandom just because of the level of outsourcing the author did.

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itsralC 2 points 3 years ago

I got into it blind and only learned about the fandom and the surrounding history after finishing it. It felt like reading a parallel story and it was actually pretty fun, but it only cemented my feeling of not wanting to be associated with them. I mean, the bucket. Just wow.

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Silentiea 2 points 3 years ago

I never got too far into the fandom, and I've never really investigated it. I have no memory or knowledge of the bucket.

But I did enjoy looking at fan art and such whatnot, "trollsonas" and such, at least a bit. I got into the lore about as far as I do any

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itsralC 2 points 3 years ago

I recommend watching a youtube recap of the history of the fandom as it really helps contextualize the whole comic, and it is quite fun, as such an excentric comic attracted an equally excentric fanbase. There are plenty of fun and gross anecdotes. As for the bucket, you can watch for yourself, but let me warn you...

"spoiler"

It's a bunch of people collectively spitting into a bucket in a restaurant

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tigeruppercut 1 point 3 years ago

Hazbin's probably a little more mainstream now that the full season released

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thorbot 17 points 3 years ago

Nice try, FBI

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phoenixz 17 points 3 years ago

Swinging! Lots of fun, nobody needs to know

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thorbot 12 points 3 years ago

I dunno man the swings at my local park really clamp on my ass in an uncomfortable way and I get motion sick. You must have those premium swing seats

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Decoy321 10 points 3 years ago

Don't the other partners who are participating know?

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phoenixz 4 points 3 years ago

I hope so, as she's always right there next to me.

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Denvil 16 points 3 years ago

That I still play Roblox for the Napoleonic Wars community. I don't want to be associated with the brain dead games that make up like 90%+ of Roblox

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LaunchesKayaks 8 points 3 years ago

That community sounds dope AF tbh.

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wjrii 2 points 3 years ago

Every once in a while I fire up Roblox for a few rounds of Arsenal. I'm quite bad and regularly get pwned by what I assume are 12 year olds, but the features and feel aren't a world apart from the second-gen FPS's I played in college (e.g. Quake 2, Jedi Knight: Dark Forces 2, LucasArts' Outlaws, etc.).

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loopedcandle 15 points 3 years ago

Pegging

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ramsgrl909 4 points 3 years ago

Got my husband into it, so much fun!

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loopedcandle 3 points 3 years ago

My wife tolerates it on occasion, but it's not her thing. She's a lovely wife for doing it for me.

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pantyhosewimp 3 points 3 years ago

Do you do all the prep work so your back door is squeaky clean?

If not, that could be the reason she’s not as into it.

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loopedcandle 2 points 3 years ago

I do make sure things are spic and span back there. It's just not her thing. That's OK, I'm not complaining at all. Relationships include a lot of compromises to love and support your partner. She does this for me once in a while even though she doesn't love it. I do things for here that aren't my fav to do, but I love doing them because they make her happy.

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mfat 2 points 3 years ago

Fun for him only or for you as well?

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ramsgrl909 3 points 3 years ago

Equally fun for both!

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grasshopper_mouse 13 points 3 years ago

Same with fanfiction except I write it more than I read it. I've been doing it for years now and have a little over 200 subscribers. My partner is the only one who knows I write it, but I've never let him read it, and never will (which he's fine with). I feel like it's such a ridiculous little thing to do, but I also like knowing there's 200+ people out there who enjoy what I write.

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Silentiea 3 points 3 years ago

He is currently among the 200 subs, unbeknownst to both him and grasshopper_mouse

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user224 11 points 3 years ago

Basically anything that I don't know enough about to explain well, which is basically anything as I am dumb.

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ijgwin 3 points 3 years ago

I am sure you know a bunch of things about topics better than a lot of other people. Maybe you just think you don't know it well enough. Plus, being into something doesn't mean you have to be able to teach it to others, this doesn't mean your dumb. When you get a chance, give yourself some grace, you deserve it! :)

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rob_t_firefly 10 points 3 years ago

I'm not shy about letting my freak flags fly in many ways, but you have to know me IRL for a good while before my deep and abiding love for a good prank phone call or a well-written monster-focused erotica story might come up in casual conversation.

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Thorny_Insight 9 points 3 years ago

I have quite a collection of speedos and I didn't buy them for swimming

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Arthur_Leywin 7 points 3 years ago

The music I listen to sometimes. Prime example: Bass Slut by S3rl 💀

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copymyjalopy 3 points 3 years ago
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webPunk 1 point 3 years ago

If you enjoy that, you might also like: Lethal Theory - Dirty Talk (Powerstomp Mix)

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PR3CiSiON 7 points 3 years ago

Runescape

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tigeruppercut 1 point 3 years ago

Last year I saw someone was trying to put together a runescape app where you level by walking. It was supposed to release beta last year but looks like it never got finished.

https://walkscape.app/

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Krudler 5 points 3 years ago

I'm obsessed with learning about particle physics and quantum mechanics. And of course slowly learning all the math that underpins it.

I just find myself to be very curious about how the world works, in many different ways.

It's exhausting having to go into the defensive posture simply for saying I'm interested in a subject that is way over most people's heads. Instantly arouses feelings of inadequacy in people. It never fails to sully the enjoyment of my passion, and create tension between friends.

That and pro wrestling.

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mriormro 2 points 3 years ago

It's exhausting having to go into the defensive posture simply for saying I'm interested in a subject that is way over most people's heads.

It's probably more because the 'I'm interested in quantum mechanics' line is such a trope of an affectation that most people can't help but to roll their eyes.

I'm not saying that you aren't genuinely interested, just that that's where it may be coming from.

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Krudler -4 points 3 years ago

Yeah no.

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Thoth19 1 point 3 years ago

Oh neat. What parts are you studying? I was always told that you never really get quantum mechanics the first time and that you need to see it 3 times. But I wouldnt know bc the second course I took was already too much.

But bra-ket notation was super cool.

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PM_me_trebuchets 3 points 3 years ago

Same with the fanfiction. No one knows that I write a bunch of it, but I have 2 friends who know I read it only bc they read it too. But neither know I write. I’d die I think if they ever read my stuff so I just don’t want them to know. It’s my one little anon hobby that’s just for me.

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yamanii 2 points 3 years ago

That I buy porn games on gog for it to not appear on my steam profile.

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shasta 1 point 3 years ago

I think steam lets you hide them now

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shinigamiookamiryuu 2 points 3 years ago

The first thing that comes to mind is there are sites I might beat around the bush about being a member of.

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Loki 1 point 3 years ago

Oh, fanfiction for me, too. My partner does know this about me though. I can't actually think of anything that they don't know about, hmm.

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