Without going through steps 1 and 2 it's impossible to get to steps 3, 4, and 5 without feeling gaslit and invalidated just like you always were growing up, which can rehash and reinforce the trauma, perpetuating the cycle.

That's what society in general, and people who had healthy parents, don't understand. They want us all to skip to the end of the process, ignoring the fact that not everyone was so fortunate to be raised by emotionally intelligent people.

A very basic understanding of developmental psychology is all it takes to see how significantly the influences of one's formative years can impact their social and emotional development long into adulthood.

I just wanted to add that it's still incredibly painful after these steps, therapy ain't over then. Still worth it though. Be kind to your inner child, especially if they're still crying inside.

I think you can kind of fork this path:

• blame parents
• realise they did what they thought was best
• still be messed up
• wallow in misery continually making the same mistakes every day
• accept your mediocrity

I thought we all just don't do the forgiving ourselves thing. And avoid the mirror so you don't have to kick that guy's ass for looking at you like id look at me

Continuing to fail is on you, though.

Sure, that's true. I think in mine and many cases, wrapped up in the "being smart with money" lesson is saving, mitigating risk, and decreasing spending where possible. I at least hope most parents (who bother at all) are defining what being smart actually looks like.

In part because they understand that investment works, but not why. I could be much poorer if I didn't understand that the purpose of investment is to provide money to create value to get more money later. NFTs failed the "where does the money come from" test as well as the "why am I not too late to make a bunch of money" test.

Nobody's out there offering guaranteed massive returns to everyone who invests. Legitimate safe investments don't try to be exciting or induce fomo. They're boring and reasonable because they can afford to be.

No, I think with NFTs people were just looking at the bitcoin train they had missed out on, and thought NFTs would be the next big crypto thing.

Mostly they thought it was just the next big thing.

I think this unique. Not really FOMO and certainly not investing.

Heh, I mean modeling can work in the intended way or by accident in the opposite way you'd expect. So yeah I'd say it worked for you :)

I saw someone yesterday with a big wheel who I was sure was about to bail. He was unicycling down a pretty steep street. He managed to make it down the street and turn the corner, but it looked like a real struggle.

I know from riding a fixie that for streets that aren't too steep it's not hard, you just have to effectively "pedal backwards", allowing slowing the pedals down as they come up behind you. But, I don't know what a unicyclist can do on a very steep street. What I would do on a fixie doesn't work because it requires small skid-stops, which means you need a front wheel.

What would you do on a steep hill? I assume that by the time you realize it's too steep you're already going pretty fast, so just bailing would be difficult.

what you describe is called using "proxies" and different houses have different rules.

I mean, yes, gambling is part of the fun XD

I don't actually think gambling is the problem, capitalism is. A healthy amount of low-stakes risk taking is a perfectly good activity.

Not necessarily. If you donated a few millions to Diaper Don, it would soon be clear that this product is needed in the government, and those contracts would make you at least another billion. This is how you do business in our current era.

To own a digital asset that only had one original. Something that could have an identifiable, singular owner despite being a digital asset. Problem is no one gives a shit if you're the original, provable "owner" of a jpg someone else made. Which makes these worthless to all but idiots who fell for it.

Oh they typically didn't even include the copyright. That's at least an asset and why would they include an asset

Of course provenance matters in appreciation of art.

Of course it doesn't. Do you need to know who painted something, and who owned it, to know whether you like it or not?

People who buy art absolutely care if the artwork they paid for is genuine. Collectors absolutely care if they can prove they own something that others don’t.

Yes, and fuck those people.

I think the one who needs to grow up is the one who left this butthurt comment.