You haven't seen the 28 year olds Anon dates
Cheradenine 83 points a year ago
MintyFresh 42 points a year ago
They're 48 in crackhead years.
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GissaMittJobb 34 points a year ago
Late-stage brainrot
RaivoKulli 9 points a year ago
It's a similar joke to calling 30-yos boomers
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Gradually_Adjusting 73 points a year ago
When did we as a society give up on the "½ X +7" minimum dating age formula?
FauxLiving 40 points a year ago
When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.
GhostedIC 10 points a year ago
Found Leo's account.
Seriously though why so hostile about this? Of course it's made up, it's a general rule of thumb, and it describes whether people are likely to look at a couple and say, "ew".
yogsototh 8 points a year ago
One day I mentionned this rule while having a dinner with friends. One of them was a woman I met fir the first time.
It turned out his husband was way older than this rule allowed when they met. And now that the rule is fine, she didn’t felt bad about her husband.
Seriously, I felt so shitty. Let people loves who they love without discrimination as long as this is consensual between adults.
MonkderVierte 0 points a year ago
It matches experiences, if you read the other replies.
FauxLiving 2 points a year ago
Ah, so "half your age plus seven" wasn't the low end, it was the target.
That certainly re-frames things.
Simulation6 32 points a year ago
Just FYI, this rule falls apart after a certain age (in the 60s or 70s).
Gradually_Adjusting 64 points a year ago
That's not the only thing that falls apart in your seventies, eyyyy
Gradually_Adjusting 13 points a year ago
Gotta look after your ticker if you're going to stay active at that age. Condolences and/or congrats to his wife though.
Sc00ter 12 points a year ago
When you have heart procedures/ surgery, they tell you, "no sex for 6 weeks with your spouse, 8 weeks with anyone else." Theres science backing up the extra strain/excitement of having sex with someone else
Simulation6 8 points a year ago
Sigh, ain’t that the truth.
AllNewTypeFace 10 points a year ago
After that age, the older party is essentially a lottery ticket
jballs 6 points a year ago
Nah I think it holds up. Bill Belichick, 73, was in the news for dating a 24 year old and it's not only creepy and gross, but also like she's taking advantage of him by inserting herself into his interviews.
If he were dating a 43 year old, I don't think anyone would be nearly as concerned.
WorldsDumbestMan 1 point a year ago
Duh. Who cares how much older one grampa is from another
Nikls94 -10 points a year ago
Wow that actually makes sense.
But then again, I’m born 1994, there’s not so many I can actually date. I have like 1990 - 1998 available, and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together: those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts. I’m in limbo where I know all of that but don’t like anything.
Edit: to those who downvoted, why?
abysmalpoptart 28 points a year ago
Just for a little context, the minimum age being ((your age / 2)+7) is meant to be "this is the minimum age of someone you can date without it being creepy" (i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)
If you were born in 1994 you are either 30 or 31. Let's call it 30 for easy math.
30/2 = 15 15+7=22
So anyone who is 22 or older fits the minimum age concept, which is anyone born in approx 2002/2003 or earlier. If you decided to include that, the extra 4-5 years does increase the dating pool quite a bit.
I'm not telling you who to date, just giving a little context to the math since that's what was brought up in the original comment.
Edit: Lots of folks chiming in with some really good insight about the history of the math. Thank you all for that!
Although the historical accounts seem to be math for the "ideal age" in a (probably female) partner and not "minimum age before it's creepy" as it was presented in HIMYM, it's really interesting to see how that equation has been used for over 100 years!
Eyekaytee 23 points a year ago
(i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)
Although the provenance of the rule is unclear, it is sometimes said to have originated in France.[81] The rule appears in John Fox Jr.'s 1903 novel The Little Shepherd of Kingdom Come,[84] in American newspapers in 1931 attributed to Maurice Chevalier,[85] and in The Autobiography of Malcolm X, attributed to Elijah Muhammad.[86]
In many early sources, the rule was primarily presented as a formula to calculate the ideal age of a female partner at the beginning of a heterosexual relationship. Frederick Locker-Lampson's Patchwork from 1879 states the opinion "A wife should be half the age of her husband with seven years added."[87] Max O'Rell's Her Royal Highness Woman from 1901 gives the rule in the format "A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven."[88]
Gradually_Adjusting 14 points a year ago
See I didn't know that was the origin. I like it better as an outside boundary.
abysmalpoptart 3 points a year ago
That's really interesting, thanks for sharing!
Denjin 8 points a year ago
No one knows the true origin of the idea but there's a number of examples that predate how I met your mother by over a hundred years.
The first published example is Max O'Rell in Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty—Cupid from 1901
I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly : A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven. Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.
rumschlumpel 4 points a year ago
Interesting, though this sounds like it's not supposed to be the minimum age, but the ideal age.
abysmalpoptart 3 points a year ago
Interesting stuff thanks for adding. I added an edit to address. Appreciate you chiming in
AlolanYoda 5 points a year ago
Invert this rule to get the maximum age you can date (defined as the person whose minimum age is your current age):
min age = (your age / 2) + 7 max age = (your age * 2) - 14
If you're 30, then you can reasonably date people between 22 and 46. So the other guy can add even more years before 1990.
abysmalpoptart 1 point a year ago
Totally fair, lots of folks have chimed in about it. Really interesting to see it's over 100 years old (although more focused on ideal partner, not avoiding being creepy)
antonim 17 points a year ago
to those who downvoted, why?
Because of this part:
they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together
AtariDump 7 points a year ago
…those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts.
You’re being very assuming with people and that’s why the downvotes.
Not every person will be “TikTok addicted” or “Facebook-relicts”, you’re just assuming they are which is only affecting your own chances finding someone.
Try just getting to know someone first before you start assuming about their interests or what they do.
… and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together…
Who says you have to spend time with your SO’s siblings for any great length of time? Parties and holidays you can get through, but it’s not like you’re going to go live with the family.
You and your SO should both have your own friends and hobbies (in addition to joint friends/hobbies). I’m not trying to crap on having a relationship with your SO’s family, just that it’s not mandatory.
I feel like removing these two arbitrary requirements would vastly increase your dating pool. I get that people are looking for traits in a potential partner (doesn’t smoke / drinks / poly / not-poly / uses Arch) but the ones you’ve picked are just self limiting
ArcaneSlime 4 points a year ago
The clumsy portmanteau of facebook and derelicts if I had to guess. That one is just dreadful. Go with Facebougoise or something, The Faceborg maybe (I actually like that one), something like that.
Soup 42 points a year ago
A friend of friend I’ve met a couple times is into me. They’re 23 and I’m 30 and I still don’t have an interest. They’re perfectly nice, but…
I think after 28-30 it starts to really not matter that much but before that even smallish gaps can be pretty questionable. And any dude that would consider someone their age to be a “hag” probably largely dates younger because mature, experienced women can tell they’re really just garbage man-children.
Soup 5 points a year ago
Yes, but even people who don’t go online much, even people I actually do care about in my own life, still fall into that category. The people I care about tend to be much nicer and wouldn’t call someone a hag but they do lack a certain level of maturity. Green-text makes it near certain but it’s a “not all rectangles are squares” situation.
janewaydidnothingwrong 5 points a year ago
I agree with this. For me, so so much integral growth happens between ages 20 and 26-28 or so, and I don't really think people in general know who they are or what they want in life until then. Not true for everyone of course. All the people I know who married young are either divorced or super unhappy though so it may skew my perception a bit.
SoleInvictus 2 points a year ago
For real. When I was 24, I dated a 19 year old for like two weeks. They were really nice and interesting, but ultimately the age gap proved to make a relationship unviable. I can't even imagine a nine year gap at that age. Gross.
TimewornTraveler 20 points a year ago
younger partners are easier to control.
and less worldly experience means they won't notice their dull personality.
lack of maturity and life milestones to date similar age ranges.
over emphasis on bodily needs.
and i repeat, control.
chonglibloodsport 7 points a year ago
People are feeling all kinds of pressure these days. If they want to have kids they need a lot of resources. But having a lot of resources is really difficult to do when you’re young. So that naturally suggests a compromise: one old with resources and one young with health.
Ashenlux 9 points a year ago
Wait, but I thought men hated "gold diggers"? And also, that's the result of our fucked up late stage capitalism economic system and not how things should work. A young couple should be able to afford to live comfortably and have children if they want.
chonglibloodsport 9 points a year ago
People make life choices based on how things are, not how they ought to be.
Generally a “gold digger” refers to a young woman who marries an elderly rich man with the intent of gaining a large inheritance, not a young woman who marries an established (but still working) man a few decades her senior with the intent of raising a family. A big “gold digger tell” is that the rich guy already has adult children who end up in a feud with his new young wife (because she represents a threat to their inheritance).
Ashenlux 2 points a year ago
Oh really? I thought it ment a women marring for money in general.
People can do what they want, but women shouldn't have to feel like they have to marry some dude a decade older just to have a decent life and start a family. That's all I'm saying.
Event_Horizon 3 points a year ago
Maybe you need to flip the idea and date a rich 19y/o Instead
chonglibloodsport 2 points a year ago
The question is “why would anyone want to date someone much younger than them (presumably up to a couple decades)?” not specifically about dating a 19 year old.
Not everyone can accrue a bunch of resources over time of course. But your odds of doing so are much better in your working years than when you’re in school.
daggermoon 3 points a year ago
I mean, i'd like to date someone that much older than me.
daggermoon 2 points a year ago
Honestly, because i'm a 20 something year old man with no life experiences and I don't know how to survive on my own. Someone older with more experience who would be willing to teach me would be nice. It's a big ask I guess. I don't really know what else to do. I'm lonely and i'd like to meet someone kind, caring, and beautiful who can be a friend, lover, and teacher if you will. I haven't told anyone this because it makes me sound desperate and like a lost cause.
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MonkderVierte 44 points a year ago
His date:
Source: Brainrot Girlfriend
Bonus:
AppleTea 26 points a year ago
Love that we're making imaginary [gen-z/gen alpha/gen whatever the hell arbitrary title] the same way our parents and grandparents made imaginary millennials to get mad at.
The Silent Generation called their kids "Generation Me"
alekwithak 16 points a year ago
The Silent Generation was correct.
QuoVadisHomines 8 points a year ago
It was "The 'Me' Generation" not "Generation Me". Generation ____ starts with Copeland's Generation X book.
bytesonbike 4 points a year ago
The whole comic was brain rot talk that i didn't even notice it didn't narratively connect.
QueenHawlSera 34 points a year ago
I'm 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the "Half your age plus 7" test
(34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though
ethaver 32 points a year ago
@ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I'm a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I'm starting to get Greg grey hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.
AlexanderTheDead 3 points a year ago
Yeah, at 27, 22 was already like too young for me. Let alone 20.
BarbecueCowboy 12 points a year ago
I'm just a bit older, but been there.
I could never get past it though. I have a daughter too, and it really just takes one experience where they really remind you of your kid and... yeah, I don't think I can do this y'all.
exasperation 5 points a year ago
Half plus seven is just a rough rule of thumb, that tries to capture some different concepts at play.
Personally, I never liked dating across major life milestone ages like 22, college graduation. The mid 20's are just an important phase in developing one's personality and sense of self, and being outside of the school environment is an important transition to learn. So when I was 30 I had a hard cutoff at 25, as I didn't want to be with anyone who still identified with being a recent college student.
I felt like a very different person as between 18 and 22, and between 22 and 26. But 26 wasn't that different from 30, and 30 to 35 only saw some slight changes. It'd be hypothetical because I was already in a committed relationship after 32 or so, but when I was 35 my cutoff probably would've been late 20's, and when I was 40 my cutoff would've probably been around 30.
neukenindekeuken 29 points a year ago
And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.
They have nothing in common. There's no way. It's pure physical attraction above all else.
Edit: Seemingly a lot of older people down voting this are in denial about how much they have in common with some 18 year old girl/guy as a romantic partner. You understand you're not fooling anyone, right? Not even other people like you. Underneath, you all know what you're about.
Honytawk 34 points a year ago
Or both sides like to learn from each other and grow towards each other over time?
There are worse reasons why an extreme age gap is seen as creepy, "not knowing each others interests" is not one of them.
mic_check_one_two 15 points a year ago
Yeah, I’m in my mid 30’s and my best friend is nearing 50. His oldest child is the same age as my younger brother. Believe it or not, people can have common interests that aren’t entirely reliant on their age.
Though I will say that age becomes less relevant as you get older… A 29 year old dating a 19 year old is pretty universally creepy, but few people would say the same about a 49 year old dating a 39 year old. Same age gap, but it’s assumed that the 39 year old has enough life experience to actually make their own decisions. Even in my mid-20’s, I was looking at 19 year olds as if they were literal children. There’s a lot of maturing that happens in the late teens and early 20’s.
MonkderVierte 4 points a year ago
You mean in the late 20's and early 30's. Not a lot of maturing until 25.
Edit: this assumes middle-european living and cultural conditions.
rumschlumpel 3 points a year ago
That depends on a lot of factors, e.g. whether they go to college or start working or doing trades directly after highschool.
mineralfellow 2 points a year ago
Half your age + 7 is a reasonable formula for determining creep factor.
WorldsDumbestMan 1 point a year ago
No, a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is still creepy.
neukenindekeuken 5 points a year ago
Sure, but there's a difference between hanging out with some 20 year olds, and being romantically involved with them.
The latter requires a hell of a lot of maturity and being in a similar place in life to deal with things life throws at you. The former just requires laughing at some meme together you both find funny.
thermal_shock 4 points a year ago
Lol I got downvoted for saying the same shit. Glad I'm not the only one who can see this.
shalafi 3 points a year ago
Agreed! But we had solid conversations, deep and involved. I was astonished at how mature and educated they were, forgot what I was like at that age.
I've found papers I wrote for school in my teens, thought, "Oh boy, this is gonna be some bullshit." Read them and was surprised at my understanding of the world!
Guess my point is, I will never undersell the youth, not ever again. Dating someone half my age, meh, can't really see it, but I do see it as possible for some.
neukenindekeuken 3 points a year ago
That's fair, and I would never say that youth are idiots or shouldn't be listened to. That's not true at all, I think they can have many valuable things to contribute to society, the conversation, the world, etc.
I'm strictly speaking about them as a romantic partner with such an age gap, especially one that starts when they're 17/18 and the person they're dating is in their 30's or more. Nobody can convince me that that would be an equal relationship for both parties. I've attempted it in my late 20's dating a few 18/19 year olds, and then again attempted it in my mid 30's and it was a significantly worse experience.
They weren't bad people in any way, or stupid, or immature in the pop-culture sense of the word. But the relationship was never going to work out, and it was because no matter which way you slice it, a mid 30's man and a 19 or 20 year old girl are not at the same place in life. If they are, then it's the older person who never grew up and is still behaving like a teenager.
WorldsDumbestMan 1 point a year ago
You don't date though. A lot of people I know are young. Who else tf you going to meet nowadays.
Though I'd date 25+, screw 22+, not younger.
WorldsDumbestMan 1 point a year ago
Idk man. Isn't screwing someone fresh out of high school a bit creepy? I mean come on, they were considered a kid maybe months ago. It's suspicious if you do that.
thermal_shock 0 points a year ago
Acquaintances/Friends and "dating" are not the same.
HalfSalesman 5 points a year ago
What if you like having sex with your friends?
thermal_shock 4 points a year ago
Nothing wrong with that, but they're friends. I get a long with coworkers, clients, etc, but inside a romantic relationship is completely different.
WorldsDumbestMan 2 points a year ago
Then that is really fucking hot.
FridaySteve 6 points a year ago
A lot of people are downvoting this because a 19 year old is an adult who can make their own choices and you are insinuating that there's something so objectively wrong with dating an older person that it should be illegal.
neukenindekeuken 5 points a year ago
I am not in any way suggesting it should be illegal. I don't think I mentioned that once.
What I am insinuating that if you're that young dating someone much older, there is almost always a massive power imbalance between the two in the relationship, romantically, and so it's a very difficult thing to overcome.
If you're a 30/40/50+ year old person dating a 19 year old, there is usually something wrong with one party, the other, or both in that scenario. A 19 year old, romantically, is not mature enough or at the same place in their life as a 50 year old person. This will, at best, strain the relationship significantly as each partner will want something different out of life as the relationship progresses.
If they don't, then one of them is likely a deeply broken individual. And that's usually going to be the much older person that's got some issues happening.
The 19 year old truly doesn't know any better, or thinks they do, or is getting something in trade like security from the much older person and they're willing to give up other aspects of their life in trade for this.
SoftestSapphic 4 points a year ago
No cap
RickyRigatoni 3 points a year ago
ong
WorldsDumbestMan 2 points a year ago
Real
MonkderVierte 1 point a year ago
fr fr
WorldsDumbestMan 4 points a year ago
I consider 25 to be scrapping the bottom of the barrel for dating. I'm 29
RisingSwell 2 points a year ago
Ngl I'm 29 and definitely prefer getting high and watching stuff than actually doing real things.
DeadMartyr 9 points a year ago
I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)
I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn't interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.
This is the best relationship I've ever had but I won't deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it's like to have a boyfriend in the city.
Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.
I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30's, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.
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rumschlumpel 2 points a year ago
Men who like to date older definitely exist!
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Lucky_777 26 points a year ago
When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be "hip" or "trendy" to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations "Boomers" just makes you sound like you didn't pay attention in history class.
Darkenfolk 7 points a year ago
Language transforms. Where before boomer would be a word for the generation born during the babyboom, nowadays it's used for old people who are unable to keep up with the times.
Lucky_777 5 points a year ago
I mean I guess, but we have generations named for a reason. Calling everyone that's old a boomer just makes you sound like you don't know what you're talking about IMO. To each their own I suppose.
WorldsDumbestMan 1 point a year ago
Would you say that for someone underage? Age is age, gap is gap.
ICastFist 19 points a year ago
The brainrot is real, even with "old hags". My ex was 3 years younger than me, but she was an avid tiktok scroller. I was often being shown and taught about new "memes" that everyone promptly forgot about by the next week.
ZILtoid1991 17 points a year ago
> be me 34
> decide to look for a hag around my age
> most of them have at least one kid, usually the annoying kind, and only see you as a babysitter
> same ones are also super focused on their kids, no hobbies, no interests, no life
> most of them seem to be super conservative
> some of them are so bigoted they can only talk about "those people"
> finally found someone who's bearable for more than 20 minutes
> never mind, she's alcoholic
> finally found someone not alcoholic and is bearable for even more time
> never mind, she's both 300+km away and also married
How do I find hot singles on the fediverse? I'm not reinstalling Tinder!
WorldsDumbestMan 8 points a year ago
I tried that with Reddit. Parents cockblocked me. Had nothing but my missed life to think about in the meantime, so my mental health slips, and I ask who besides Serial killers and rapists deserves to die (looking for a description of myself in the answers).
Implying someone's life is worth more than others is a big no no on Reddit.
Get permabanned for inciting violence.
WorldsDumbestMan 3 points a year ago
I missed my entire life. It's not all about that. Though I also regret not experiencing what everyone else did. The mistakes, the heartbreaks, you know, normal people stuff, that's mostly FOMO. What really sucks is I actually missed out on almost everything that makes life worth living. So, now I'm just in the mindset that I should just treat the good things of this world as false, and something that is meant for rich/normal people.
I'm just here to work, and fight. I need to make sure no one else ends up the same, ever again. Until then, there's no point in resting.
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant, and putting my mission first.
Soup 3 points a year ago
How old are you? You can learn an instrument at any age, my dad learned how to make pastries in his late forties, and there are so many other fun skills and hobbies you can develop pretty easily. You may have missed stuff but you’re still alive and that means you are the one in control of what you are actively doing or not doing right now. Drowning yourself in self-pity isn’t going to do anyone any favours. You can look back at what you missed for the next 30-40 years or you can forward to what you can get done in that time.
I’d also love to know what this “mission” is and I hope it doesn’t have anything to do with being mad at women and has more to do with shit like worker protections and wealth equality such that people can live their lives to the fullest.
FridaySteve 3 points a year ago
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant
If that's how you see yourself, imagine what people think when they don't even know you and meet you for the first time. Focus on what you have to offer other people, not what other people have that you want.
sugar_in_your_tea 2 points a year ago
Yes.
CrazyHorse 8 points a year ago
Getting head while on the toilet?
InternetCitizen2 2 points a year ago
Is 30 the oldest genz or the youngest millennial?
Psythik 10 points a year ago
The lines are fuzzy, and that's why we have the term "Zilennial". So let's just toss them into that category and call it a day.
Edit: Wikipedia says the cutoff for Millennials is 1996, which would make OP an older Gen Z. But I still think "Zilennial" is still most fitting.
UnderpantsWeevil 8 points a year ago
4channers should probably just stay out of the dating pool entirely.
sugar_in_your_tea 9 points a year ago
Generally avoiding calling women hags is a good idea.
RickyRigatoni 11 points a year ago
Reading brainrot girlfriend has made me desire this.
hotdogcharmer 1 point a year ago
What's brainrot girlfriend?
RickyRigatoni 3 points a year ago
hotdogcharmer 2 points a year ago
Oh fuck, I recognise like... Four things here? I'm old.
What's the buckle my shoe thing? That's a really old song, no?
RickyRigatoni 3 points a year ago
It is, just got really popular on tiktok for a couple months.
P1k1e 11 points a year ago
I once made the mistake of dating someone 12 years younger than me (she was 25). Man, what a mistake, nevermind the cultural differences, her emotional maturity was....intolerable, and this from a person I'd considered a friend for a year already. It was the first and last time iv ever done that.
QuoVadisHomines 10 points a year ago
As an adult for most dating your peers is preferable to dating younger adults. I don't want to hear "So what was the gas crisis like?" on a date ever again (IDK what it was like I was 3).
HalfSalesman 9 points a year ago
I date/have sex with who I'm physically attracted to. Otherwise I'm OK if we just stay (non-sexual) friends. Us having stuff in common doesn't make me horny for them or want to romance them.
If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.
That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I've been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I'd like deeper relationships (I'm poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I'll just keep trying until I get one.
UnderpantsWeevil 3 points a year ago
I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
Literally all you can ever do.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.
But it's so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.
HalfSalesman 2 points a year ago
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they're still friendly. However I'd not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I've not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don't live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I'll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.
UnderpantsWeevil 2 points a year ago
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily.
Best of luck. But yeah, the 'burbs are absolutely awful for meeting people who aren't already settled down. Live in the city with the cool single people! I did that all through my 20s and liked it so much I never left.
HalfSalesman 1 point a year ago
I have always been too poor until recently to really afford that until now and I'm not in my 20's unfortunately.
I've been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford. I could split a house with roommates easily for cheap rent. And I went to a nerdy sausage fest of a college (before I realized I was bi). I'll admit I'm trying to make up for lost time now. I feel like I would of had more fun had I done this in my 20's... but whatever, late is better than never I guess.
TBH, the city I'm going to move to is kind of small as well. Hopefully I can maybe move to a bigger one at some point if I can get a job in a big city someday, but with this economy I think it might be a while.
HalfSalesman 1 point a year ago
Yeah it kind of is. Thing is though its almost easy to avoid rightwingers for me, they don't seem to hit spots I frequent. Men or women.
I can pretty easily look past it mostly if someone is religious (though I may engage in light ribbing because I'm an atheist).
I did have one woman try and uh... "fix" me and my atheism at a bar. She was one of those neopagan "heretic" type crystal people. It was a strange experience trying to discern what the hell she was talking about. She seemed convinced that I understood her religious rhetoric but she was on some kind of advanced reading. She had me hold a crystal she kept in her bag. Admittedly we did not end up going to bed together... She was painfully hot and I was legitimately intimidated by how hot she was and how crazy she seemed.
I kind of hope I see her again because at the very least it was kind of interesting talking to her. Then again IDK I'll probably continue to be intimidated and nothing romantic is likely to happen between us.
AlexanderTheDead 1 point a year ago
I mean, maybe if you're a stupid person.
MisterNeon 8 points a year ago
Nothing ever changes.
JandroDelSol 2 points a year ago
i say it al the time lol
GandalftheBlack 5 points a year ago
I think big mood is a relatable mindset
rumschlumpel 3 points a year ago
I think it means something like "this is 'mid' (i.e. uninteresting), I mean it". "fr" seems pretty similar to how a lot of people use honestly/"to be honest"/TBH, just kind of random words for emphasis.
SoftestSapphic 4 points a year ago
Jesus christ he isn't a pedo for dating an adult.
Touch grass
abbadon420 -8 points a year ago
Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?
RaivoKulli 2 points a year ago
I never considered that the ages stack
daggermoon 1 point a year ago
Is it usually wholesome? Genuine question. I hope it is.
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