No, it’s clearly drfuckgs.

You left out the G. It’s very important, helps give insight to the word’s etymology, history, and context.

ragebait repost from corporate social media: it's quite common there to censor random letters and words, or make some deliberate grammar mistakes, so people will comment about it and will boost the post organically. I hate that it appears here as well, because people just mindlessly repost it with the builtin bait

It's not genuine. It's making fun of the fact that the post chose to censor one letter from the word "drugs" despite it being painfully obvious what that one letter was, and the fact that the far more offensive word "rape" went through uncensored twice.

That phrasing makes more sense, but has less shock value.

It really depends on the situation. Two people of similar intoxication levels can consent. But at the same time when with an intoxicated person you need to be making certain they're moving forward with you and consenting.

At least that's my perspective as someone who will get involved with strangers while drinking at bars.

When someone's blacked out or unable to enthusiastically consent (ie advance the acts of their own volition without being pressured or otherwise coerced) then they fundamentally can't consent

I think you're still responsible for the crimes you commit while drunk/high.

I honestly would vouch for a similar figure to the designated driver. I'll call it the designated handler, some sort of a box staff of allies trying to keep you in the fight, but also checking if you are okay to continue.

Admittedly I'm worried if we put women in charge, they'll be TERFs

Changing the boot rarely helps. Anarchy would be the true change.

Some people see the naked girl railing lines on the couch and think, "oh dear I hope she's SAFE, I hope she learns self control". I see someone that I can sit there on molly with for the next hour while she trauma dumps and I'm like "damn girl that is seriously crazy you've been through so much, damn, that's life though right??"

Drags

It's a principal thing. Censorship on corporate social media trains people how to think and what's okay or not okay to talk about. Importing that shit here I think it's harmful. I care, you don't. Okie dokie.

Posting an image of text without an alt attribute is the epitome of not giving a shit about other people.

I've heard you can get good money for a kidney.

Those are nice ear rings

Better check the ol' prison wallet

That's 100% not how that works. You're getting into thought crime territory. You're not a rapist until you rape. You're not a murderer until you murder. You can't accuse someone of something they might do.

I get the sentiment but I'm willing to bet a vast majority of people genuinely think they would "just do the right thing in that situation." But people underestimate the temptation in the moment. They've never actually thought to try and put themselves in that situation, or what they might do, they just thought "of course im a good person" and left it at that.

And naturally the mere suggestion of "thinking it out" is met with ridicule. "How can you even consider it?! This should be a fast, easy answer!!". When not thinking about it at all is what contributed to it happening.

If you haven’t raped anyone, but would if you thought consequences wouldn’t come back to you, then you’re a rapist.

...and if you haven't raped anyone, but you're drunk and high and an attractive person of the appropriate sex who is also drunk and high suggests sex then?

Bold of you to assume that people don't rape only because they fear the consequences

Even then, you're not raised a rapist, you would have been raised someone who is more likely to become a rapist. You aren't that until you actually become it. I don't think we should be accusing anyone of anything before they've even done it. You should absolutely call out any shitty behavior that leads you to suspect they'll do harm to others wither it's rape, murder, or some other crime. By saying they already were a rapist or raised as a rapist you're taking away their free agency and kind ironically saying it wasn't their fault that's just how they were raised.

People invite actual rapists to parties all the time. Most victims know their rapists before the rape happens.

There is a huge, giant fucking massive difference between someone that would plausibly commit rape and someone who has committed rape.

The main difference is in one case, someone gets raped.

Exactly this. Hell, I've had instances where one of my partners just isn't into it, or something happens and they're not feeling it anymore, and it just takes all the enjoyment out of it.

Consent, connection, and enjoyment are critical for me.

Thank you!

And yes, lets have a fun time together doing something we are both willing to do together! It will be a better time for everyone!

There are more flavors than vanilla.

The partners are both willing, and they agree on how to do it? I am totally fine with them doing it in their way. And may one act as a slave and the other as a master, with their rules and their limit ; I see it as a form of cooperation.

If one of the partner is forced, or accept for secondary reasons (they don't really want sex, or not that way) ; here I see a problem.

It is just the same if they are more than 2 partners. As long as they are all willing it, for it, and as it is, I find it fine.

Also, sometimes, you may be willing to try something, and find out you do not like it (you at least have this experience with food). It is important, I think, to respect the others even when they change their mind. You would not either, I think, force someone to finish a full plate of something they don't like just because they have accepted to try to please you...

Abolish the patriarchy.

A very sad thing is that, unless we take care of it, we are all bound to value this "winning male" behaviour as not only normal but also as good! The ones aware don't need to make an effort to see how wrong it is... but take a young adult male who became a successfull influencer or businessman, how surprising would it be that he abused sexualy of someone? Isn't it in the pack with the success? Of course it should not be... but we would need that young men grow understanding that abusing others is gross and a lesser thing.

And so, breaking idols out of abusive behavior isn't just to piss off their fans. It is to make abuse incompatible with success. To turn "yes, of course, he is such a man!" into "he fucked up, he is such a looser!"... which would be a nice step taken against patriarchy, and hopefully not the last one!

I will try to find Cornell 7, I don't know about it yet...

Also, I think there are two lines, one is the legal minimum and those who play under it are a danger for society, the cage is as far as I know the best we have for them. But there is an other line over which one may feel really happy and have happy partner(s).

I wish to call for playing above the second.

Current definition of consent actually excludes the apathetic/numb/freeze/fawn response you described. So yes consent is still enough, but only if its modern definition not outdated “they didn’t resist strongly enough for me to feel bad and stop”

Source?

I haven't seen educational resources around consent ignore body language. I've seen plenty of men ignore women's freeze/fawn reactions, but never in the course of educating people on consent.

Many men won't stop if you say "Stop.", but will if you say "Stop raping me." but will still call you crazy before leaving.

Sounds like you helped people out. It's all fun until you learn limits. And I can't stress enough that people don't want to deal with seizures (when spice was popular) or people puking.

Is this supposed to make no sense?

Collar touches ears, you need a tailor. Or maybe a cosmetic surgeon 😂

But my collar goes around my neck? :/c

you're going to have eliα :neofox_confused:

Vanta & Velma do a tits battle !

What man? The "people" in question are obviously two womem.

But she showed up naked. Where’s she gonna keep her drugs?

So the numbers match the statistics? Probably.

Being inebriated around dozens to hundreds of strangers who themselves are consuming mind altering substances isn't exactly a safe situation. Take the fun of it being a party away from it and just zoom out with that context. Nobody has their full faculties.

I'll pile on with there is no defense of predators, but you can make choices about the environment that you put yourself in and the state that you are in when you go there.

Just depends on the party.

100% this.

Very yes.

Because showing up drunk and naked, then doing drugs, is generally risky behavior?

Regardless of gender, unless you're at a nudist resort, surrounded by trusted individuals, there is risk to being in this situation.

Even sober, showing up naked to any place where nudity is not the norm, carries risk.

Never.

What we were wearing at the time of our attack was not an invitation for violence.

The graveyards are full of people who were not at fault, and/or in the right with their actions.

As you say, the driver is (or at least should be) at fault. But wear a helmet anyways. That metaphor has legs. It applies to all kinds of things, from personal protection equipment, to situational hazards, to environmental hazards...

Like the guy climbing up on the umpteenth floor of a high-rise during its construction where that floor doesn't have outside walls, or guard rails or anything... He's not planning on falling, but he should wear fall arrest gear anyways.

I don't plan on getting hit by a car when I direct traffic to a parking area, but I still wear a high vis vest and stand out of the path where cars are going to drive....

It's not about blaming the victim at all. Victims are victims. But before you become a victim, you can take steps to avoid becoming one. Once you are a victim, anyone pointing out what you could have done to avoid becoming a victim, is an asshole.

I don't hate the idea, but that infringes on the basic civil rights in most countries.

I don't think this should be exclusive to Men. Women should be killing rapists in self defense, and that should be ok.

My main issue is whether the person doing the killing is correct in their assumption of guilt regarding the perpetrator (or accused).

But this is why we don't have this kind of martial law. Everyone is entitled to be judged by a jury of their "peers". Even low life scum like murderers and rapists.

To be honest, I consider rape to be more severe than murder, because now that person has to live the rest of their life, permanently changed from the experience. To me, that makes it a form of torture. Dead people don't have to live with their trauma.

Not to diminish how severe of a crime murder is, at all. It's easily a close second, but IMO, rape is top of my list in terms of how heinous it is.

You can acknowledge that the rapist at a frat party made a mistake

Woah. Stop right there. A mistake is an action taken in error.
Those frat boys deliberately raped that girl. Their actions were not mistakes, they were deliberate criminal acts.
Do not confuse the two. This is the difference between accidentally discharging a firearm and taking aim and firing.

OTOH, if you’re the parents of a young woman, you should teach her to be very careful when choosing to enter the hairless ape enclosure because humanity hasn’t yet reached a stage where that’s always safe.

You mean the entire fucking world?

Are you seriously advocating that women should stay within the four walls of their own home? (Which also isn't safe for women, by the way - a lot of rape is done at the hands of family members.)

OTOH, if you're the parents of a young woman, you should teach her to be very careful when choosing to enter the hairless ape enclosure because humanity hasn't yet reached a stage where that's always safe.

Perhaps if you define better what it means to be careful? Most people's definition of being careful against rapists (avoiding after dark, avoiding creepy looking guys) is just completely wrong and gives false sense of safety and superiority to survivors.

Looking at data, how rape happens in the most ordinary of situations by seemingly most ordinary of people. I don't think there is anything you could really do to prevent rape other than not talking to humans whatsoever.

Well let's add some nuance then. If he didn't then go on a group chat and advertise the gang rape then maybe he wouldn't be in much trouble. How intoxicated was he if he was able to get more people in to rape? Is that the behavior of someone who was assaulted?

The one point that I agree with is that a rapist doesn't necessarily look like one at first glance. So if you think that they would, you're making yourself more vulnerable.

Well, my comment was removed so I couldn't check my phrasing. I was trying to say they don't look like "red evil demons". They of course are evil, but my point was that rapists are people in the world looking like any other person, and it's useful to know that.